I've been dumped because i was 'too young', i personally think its pathetic. Anyone who gets rid of some1 and cant see past their age doesnt deserve anyone. Age really isnt an issue for me either because i know theres more to ppl than just their age.
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short_circutz
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Update:
Everything is going well with us. We moved in together last month and our relationship is going good and strong.
I have a good feeling about this relationship!
Everything is going well with us. We moved in together last month and our relationship is going good and strong.
I have a good feeling about this relationship!
eudaemonia
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sub_girl said:
I was also dumped once because I was too young. Of course, 1) he was a former professor, so being 21/22 to his 33/34 there was a huge intellectual gulf. Understood.
What got to me, tho, was he was already just beginning to date another women, someone closer to his age who had quite the rack (that I didn't). That's what pissed me off, becuase that's what was his real issue (by his own admission) was, because she was nowhere further along in her intellectual development that I was. (Actually, she was kind of a box of rocks.)
Fast forward 22 years: They married right away, he's now chief economic advisor to the governor of my state, and she's sagging quite a truckload!!
(Okay, I'm being bitchy in an attempt to be lighthearted. Forgive my crudeness.)
Moral to the story, we all get dumped (and maybe even do the dumping) for not very rational reasons sometimes. It's perfectly normal to take it personally because it is personal! It goes to some deep part of ourselves, which is gonna sting. But we all need to move on and not let ourselves get stuck in that sh!tty state because I'll bet my bottom dollar that there's an even better lover out there for any of us.
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This is one of the more interesting discussions lately.
Short Circutz, thanks for updating us, and it's great to hear that you worked it out so far. Always nice to know when people are able to work their stuff out.
I always thought that age was just one more factor in the equation of how and why you become attracted to someone, no more or less important than any of the other factors like looks, intellect, attitude, etc.
I've been out with "age appropriate" women who were lookers, but just not that bright, and that's a huge turnoff for me. (And I should stress that I'm not talking about education per se, but an inherent intellect.) I've also been out with much younger and much older women who were quite smart and intellectually curious. Was it the age difference that attracted me? No, it was the person.
When you think about the vast numbers of people in the world, it's amazing you ever meet anyone you're even going to be friends with, no matter what their age. (Probably why I loved the movie "Lost in Translation" so much.) There's billions of people in the world. You're only going to meet a fraction of them in your life, and an even smaller fraction of those will be people you're going to connect with well enough to be friends, and an even smaller fraction of those are people you're going to be attracted to and connect well enough with to become emotionally or physically intimate, and an even smaller fraction of those are people with whom you are going to have so much in common that the relationship "sticks" and transcends time and place.
Short Circutz, thanks for updating us, and it's great to hear that you worked it out so far. Always nice to know when people are able to work their stuff out.
I always thought that age was just one more factor in the equation of how and why you become attracted to someone, no more or less important than any of the other factors like looks, intellect, attitude, etc.
I've been out with "age appropriate" women who were lookers, but just not that bright, and that's a huge turnoff for me. (And I should stress that I'm not talking about education per se, but an inherent intellect.) I've also been out with much younger and much older women who were quite smart and intellectually curious. Was it the age difference that attracted me? No, it was the person.
When you think about the vast numbers of people in the world, it's amazing you ever meet anyone you're even going to be friends with, no matter what their age. (Probably why I loved the movie "Lost in Translation" so much.) There's billions of people in the world. You're only going to meet a fraction of them in your life, and an even smaller fraction of those will be people you're going to connect with well enough to be friends, and an even smaller fraction of those are people you're going to be attracted to and connect well enough with to become emotionally or physically intimate, and an even smaller fraction of those are people with whom you are going to have so much in common that the relationship "sticks" and transcends time and place.
