catalina_francisco
Happily insatiable always
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SubmissiveDove5 said:Either way, I hope that Master decides that I am his alpha. It would totally destroy me if he said another was to be his alpha.
I still get the feeling you need to talk to him much more about this, especially under the circumstances of you both not having met each other irl yourselves as yet. Everyone is different and have a right to do things their way, but most arrangements like he is suggesting you begin arranging for him are best once the primary relationship is going well and has a solid foundation from which to introduce a third.
I cannot fault your reservations and insecurities given you are yet to meet each other, and then at some point introduce the person you have supposedly found as a third. It is a lot of pressure to put you under in even the best circumstances, and a huge responsibility to choose someone he will like, and you both can trust. You are human, do have emotions, and can have limits and rights to be considered.
Sometimes Dominants can become overwhelmed with the possibilities that abound without taking time to take into account how their haste and enthusiasm to try it all can affect the one closest to them. They are human too and can at times make mistakes. Talk to him realistically and see if he realises what he is really asking of you, and more importantly what is going on in your head and heart.
Catalina