Alright, own up. What did you guys do!?

[Ausus_girl13]

I don't believe any of this at all. Women have the same potential to behave logically, rather than emotionally, that men do.

Eh.. I don't know babe. You get pretty emotional too.

Tell you what. Create an alt. With a provocative name. Pretend to be a chick. And watch your inbox fill with stupid inane crap, from guys you don't know, don't like, and are stupid.

See how you feel. Then come back and use your superior intellect and logic to solve the problem. Walk a mile in our heels and then let's talk.

*note- I was being snarky when I mentioned superior... we both know I'm smarter.

 

[Light Ice]

Eh.. I don't know babe. You get pretty emotional too.

Tell you what. Create an alt. With a provocative name. Pretend to be a chick. And watch your inbox fill with stupid inane crap, from guys you don't know, don't like, and are stupid.

See how you feel. Then come back and use your superior intellect and logic to solve the problem. Walk a mile in our heels and then let's talk.

*note- I was being snarky when I mentioned superior... we both know I'm smarter.

I love the assumption that because I'm male...
I don't get lewd or stupid PMs.

 

[Annisthyrienne]

I don't believe any of this at all. Women have the same potential to behave logically, rather than emotionally, that men do.

Again, missed the point.

I was not talking about the potential to behave logically, or even the ability to think logically. I was referring to the approach to the PM subject.

 

[Ausus_girl13]

I love the assumption that because I'm male...
I don't get lewd or stupid PMs.

Yeah but you like it when I do that.

 

[Veroe]

I love the assumption that because I'm male...
I don't get lewd or stupid PMs.

What you get'em too, LI.

Now I really feel left out.

 

[yeishia]

Awww hugs you, but hey wait, your names in my signature too how did that happen

"Aww its a lovey dovey thread now imagine that."


*Smiles at you peering intently at your signature *

*Twirls around scattering rose petals

"He loves me...he loves me not...he loves me..."

 

[yeishia]

What you get'em too, LI.

Now I really feel left out.

How many would you like I am up for trying to send an inappropriate one if you like?

Any thing for a good friend!

 

[Britwitch]

You're absolutely right....from a logical point of view. But you forget the number one thing to keep in mind when dealing with females: to paraphrase a pop culture soundbite from a few years ago--It's the emotions, stupid!

While I agree with a lot of what you said about the difference in attitudes towards the subject between the guys and gals, this sentence did hit a nerve.
Lumping women in the 'emotional' group is just as bad as rounding up all the guys in the 'insensitive, caveman' group.

I would hate to think that people think that my intelligence (whatever of that there might be!) is not as important as what my emotional response might be when dealing with me purely because I'm a woman.

Personally, I do get PMs I'd rather I didn't. But then I do have a pic thread, I have a revealing pic of me as my AV, alright my name isn't that sexy but still...when I get them I read them, usually laugh, occasionally wince, then delete them.
End of.

I don't get emotional about them because I don't care about messages like those.
I don't whine that those sending them shouldn't think they have a right to because of my thread or my AV, they've already sent them, the messages themselves don't hurt me and, well, life's too short to spend it bitching about pointless things. I save my emotion for the real stuff in life.

Anyway...that's my contribution to this little discussion...

 

[Veroe]

How many would you like I am up for trying to send an inappropriate one if you like?

Any thing for a good friend!

No thanks. It wouldn't be worth it unless I could ignore the sender or report her to the mods, and that would put a serious crimp in our friendship, I think.

 

[fuckmeat]

I don't like the logical fallacy present here. You're asserting that because I'm a heterosexual male my experiences as a person do not equate to yours, therefore I can't comment intelligently on the topic at all. That would suggest that heterosexual men are incapable of having an opinion that a woman would find valuable and would turn this debate into one over gender.

Which it isn't.

No. What I asserted is that as a heterosexual male you're not qualified to comment on the attention that people with female usernames/avatars receive. It may be an expected part of participating on an adult forum but some of the psycho crap 'girls' are subjected to, including PMs, IM (if available) and stalking thread posts, turn this forum from a bit of fun into a total chore. Depraved cunts like me let it run like water off a duck's back and report anything that sounds genuinely malevolent/unhinged. Other women are not as emotionally robust, a sad irony is that they lack the self esteem that I have developed in part by being true to my bisexual, masochistic sexual self.

I stand by that assertion.

And, while you are certainly an extremely capable intellect and well-spoken woman, you've (perhaps understandably) mistaken my comments as a direct assault on you. I certainly used your name as an example. "fuckmeat" is about as provocative a handle as any that I've seen on the boards and lent itself to my question naturally, but also because your intellect directly contrasts with the image of yourself that you present when you're indulging in the fantasies.

Any reasonable person would understand that fantasy and reality, and the level of respect a human should be treated with, are all separate from one another here.

But there are unreasonable people here and you are -certainly- going to attract more of them given your persona. That may not be preferable or ideal but it is the case.

We've been debating a bit this week and I've used you as a direct example once and came very close to insulting your way of life directly another. My manner in arguments is blunt, forward, and insensitive. All of these things would make it perfectly reasonable for you to find me unpleasant to deal with. You aren't the first. You won't be the last.

I have already stated that I know my username attracts these PMs. I do take responsibility for that and I do know the difference between an illustration and a personal insult. Once again, none of that has any relevance to the premise behind the Fucktarded PM thread.

However, on my end, I actually think pretty highly of you. I just think your thread, the way you object to its deletion, and the fact you've made a thread about another thread is entirely unnecessary and a bit nutty.

If you'll check post one, you'll see that the reason I started this thread was because I didn't log in for a couple of days and then saw it had vanished. Because I had been out of the loop I posted an enquiry asking what had happened, as I assumed others would be able to tell me if PM senders' info had been posted or the mods had taken some other objection to it. Because there's a very similar thread in BDSM I was bewildered not just by the deletion but by the obvious lack of consistency across the various sub-forums here.

You of course can call it stomping and pouting but you still chose to jump in with both feet and participate in my entirely unnecessary thread.

shrugs

 

[yeishia]

No thanks. It wouldn't be worth it unless I could ignore the sender or report her to the mods, and that would put a serious crimp in our friendship, I think.

*giggles*

Indeed it would, and you would force me to make an alt.

I do not want to do that I adore my yeishia so very much, for I am she.

 

[Veroe]

*giggles*

Indeed it would, and you would force me to make an alt.

I do not want to do that I adore my yeishia so very much, for I am she.

That's good for I adore her too.

 

[Light Ice]

Again, missed the point.

I was not talking about the potential to behave logically, or even the ability to think logically. I was referring to the approach to the PM subject.

So was I.

 

[Light Ice]

You of course can call it stomping and pouting but you still chose to jump in with both feet and participate in my entirely unnecessary thread.

shrugs

Entirely true.

Except, again, I wouldn't call it stomping and pouting. At least, not by you. That doesn't seem your style on here.

 

[Annisthyrienne]

While I agree with a lot of what you said about the difference in attitudes towards the subject between the guys and gals, this sentence did hit a nerve.
Lumping women in the 'emotional' group is just as bad as rounding up all the guys in the 'insensitive, caveman' group.

I would hate to think that people think that my intelligence (whatever of that there might be!) is not as important as what my emotional response might be when dealing with me purely because I'm a woman.

Personally, I do get PMs I'd rather I didn't. But then I do have a pic thread, I have a revealing pic of me as my AV, alright my name isn't that sexy but still...when I get them I read them, usually laugh, occasionally wince, then delete them.
End of.

I don't get emotional about them because I don't care about messages like those.
I don't whine that those sending them shouldn't think they have a right to because of my thread or my AV, they've already sent them, the messages themselves don't hurt me and, well, life's too short to spend it bitching about pointless things. I save my emotion for the real stuff in life.

Anyway...that's my contribution to this little discussion...

Duly noted.

Well, I didn't mean to make it sound like whenever we get one of these messages that we just fall apart and cry. What I meant was that when I see a message like that in my inbox, and I realize that it is coming from someone who doesn't know anything about me other than that I am female and I am online here, and they have never so much as said a word to me in any other part of the forum, not an introduction, not a comment to any thread, or reply to any post I've made, and all they want is to hit me up for some lewd activity, I feel frustration.

Frustration because I didn't do anything to solicit such treatment other than being born female, apparently. Frustration because.....Aw, hell, never mind.

I don't go around letting my tear ducts do my thinking. I don't have a breakdown over everything that doesn't go my way. I didn't mean to imply that you or all other or any other women do either.

 

[Britwitch]

I don't go around letting my tear ducts do my thinking. I don't have a breakdown over everything that doesn't go my way. I didn't mean to imply that you or all other or any other women do either.

I didn't think you did...

whispers

...and don't let discussions like these put you off posting and getting to know people...we're quite a nice bunch really, in our own weird ways

 

[Alana_]

Annie you're doing fine, and ditto what Brit said.

 

[Light Ice]

Annie you're doing fine, and ditto what Brit said.

Yeah. My only point is that we're all attempting to fuck you and you shouldn't be surprised by it. Of course, most of the people here would give you a call after and maybe see you again.

I wouldn't.




I have commitment issues.

 

[Alana_]

Yeah. My only point is that we're all attempting to fuck you and you shouldn't be surprised by it. Of course, most of the people here would give you a call after and maybe see you again.

I wouldn't.




I have commitment issues.

Are you talking dirty to me?



IT'S ABOUT TIME!

 

[Annisthyrienne]

I'm not put off, Brit. And thanks, Alana.

I'm just not making my point the way I wanted to make it. It will take more thought, and maybe I'll decide it isn't worth rehashing anyhow. There really isn't anything to prove to anyone, and nobody's mind will be changed by the discussion anyway. I don't think anyone posted to this thread or the other one thinking we'd all come up with a solution to the matter.

I guess that is partly what I was trying to say in my first post, was that we weren't looking for the fellows to explain what we should do to solve the issue. We were just venting frustration. In my little corner of the world, we have an effective way of venting frustration utilizing a pistol and a box of shells, some water jugs or innocent produce, and a fair distance to make it interesting.

 

[Light Ice]

Are you talking dirty to me?



IT'S ABOUT TIME!

You're so ridiculously filthy sometimes, A. I fucking love it.

 

[Alana_]

You're so ridiculously filthy sometimes, A. I fucking love it.

Thank you L. And ridiculously good, but I'll tell no one, I promise.

 

[Light Ice]

Thank you L. And ridiculously good, but I'll tell no one, I promise.

I'll make you show me. Very soon.

 

[Cleardiamond]

Oooh the hilarity that insued while I was at work today...

 

[Britwitch]

I'll make you show me. Very soon.

Now, if I were to receive that in a PM, from the right person...man alive...