Any Women Not Okay With Receiving Cunnilingus?

[OneOldBroad]

Interesting thread. The one thing I didn’t see mentioned is that some women may be adverse to receiving due to some early, very early, bad experiences. I love to go down, and bring a woman to a wonderful orgasm. My wife absolutely will not go down that avenue…ever. Ever.

She'll never know what she's missing! How sad for both of you...

 

[Strixaluco]

She'll never know what she's missing! How sad for both of you...

It's not necessarily loss for her. Not all women enjoy it.

 

[PFWilly]

It's not necessarily loss for her. Not all women enjoy it.

Particularly those who were sexually abused by a relative.

 

[Strixaluco]

Particularly those who were sexually abused by a relative.

And for some it's just meh - it just doesn't make everybody tick.

 

[Hanna_Bra_Bera]

Particularly those who were sexually abused by a relative.

I came here to see if anyone would mention sexual abuse, whether as a child/adult by someone known to them or not.

I can count on less than 1 hand how many guys I have trusted to go down on me because of this. I was defo not okay with it.

When I do find that special person and can work through the triggers, thoughts and memories of disgust/self loathing it brings, and it always does. I have to say that I do love it!

 

[summer_reine]

I came here to see if anyone would mention sexual abuse, whether as a child/adult by someone known to them or not.

I can count on less than 1 hand how many guys I have trusted to go down on me because of this. I was defo not okay with it.

When I do find that special person and can work through the triggers, thoughts and memories of disgust/self loathing it brings, and it always does. I have to say that I do love it!

A very good point, thank you for bringing it the attention it needs in this conversation

 

[bobsch703]

Second girl I ever had sex with, the first I fucked more than once, wouldn't let me go down on her. She thought it was gross. She liked having sex when she was on her period though, she didn't consider that gross, because when she was on her period, we didn't have to use a rubber. Go figure. She was ok with sucking dick, though I always ended up fucking her so I'm not sure how she would have been with me cumming in her mouth.

 

[smoothboi]

Only one said she didn't want me to do it.

 

[FreckledSprite]

I love it from someone who knows how to eat out or can follow instructions. But that goes for any sex act.

What I don’t like is when anything is too scripted including trying to eat out everytime. Maybe next time finger while sucking nipples instead. Or hold my vibrator. Too many men fixate on the act assuming we want oral 24/7 and don’t listen to our actual needs or preferences.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Neither my wife nor I are really into oral. Just personal preference.

 

[MandyHall]

Pick me!

 

[magic_rat]

I love giving women orgasms that way, and a few of them have been driven to tears from it so I think my technique must be at least adequate.

Driving a woman to tears is not necessarily the best indicator of good technique.

Lots of ego going on here. If guys are told a woman doesn't like/want oral, seems like it's an affront to your ego. Everyone claims to have mad oral skills because women like to be eaten, right? And eating pussy like a demon is the mark of your masculinity?

Seems a lot of men like to give oral because it affirms them as a good lover. It's not all about you, guys.

A lady I see occasionally as a swing partner was married to a guy (her first) who thought oral was dirty. No way was he putting his face in the place where she pissed, that was disgusting. And no way was she sucking on his cock. Dirty, disgusting, and only whores do it.

She still has to be in a good place emotionally and with someone she trusts to allow them to go down on her and she responds way better to fingers and other stimuli (I can make her cum 10 times in a row with fingers, she's beautifully multi-orgasmic). I can make her cum sometimes without even touching her pussy. Oral is just one tool in the toolbox, guys, and if you put all your eggs in that particular basket then sometimes you're going to be disappointed, and cause disappointment.

Thankfully this lady discovered after her divorce that sucking cock IS dirty, disgusting, and whorish, and she's fucking mad for it.

 

[dobbins1]

As newly deads, my wife had no problem giving me head and me going down on her, Now, several decades later, I go down on her more than her on me. She's never denied me so I always thought it was only fair. Of course, the motivation has dwindled but I can't complain!

 

[strongnsensual]

Seems a lot of men like to give oral because it affirms them as a good lover. It's not all about you, guys.

How would you tell the difference between "It's all about me" and "I take great satisfaction in giving her as much pleasure as possible and in my experience the tongue is one of the best tools"? Now, having said that I do wonder who enjoys it more, me or her.

Some women: "You don't care enough about the woman's pleasure"
Other women: "How dare you want to be a really good lover"

No wonder sex and life in general have so many pitfalls - the opportunities for miscommunication and misunderstanding outnumber the stars!

I have never understood all these immature jokes and comments about unpleasant odors. I've encountered that maybe once or twice in my >50 years. What's really odd is that my wife loves it when I get off a motorcycle and am sweaty and maybe even smell like motor oil. Been working in the yard all day and I feel like I stink? She loves that. But she worries sooo much about her own aromas, and doesn't know how I can be crazy about them.

People are odd. Trust and communicate. And yes, lick every dam time you get the chance.

 

[magic_rat]

How would you tell the difference between "It's all about me" and "I take great satisfaction in giving her as much pleasure as possible and in my experience the tongue is one of the best tools"? Now, having said that I do wonder who enjoys it more, me or her.

It's all time and place. I love to go down but not as much as I like to give orgasms. If I feel something isn't being received as well as I'd hope, I'll change tactics. You can read reactions if you're looking for them.

No wonder sex and life in general have so many pitfalls - the opportunities for miscommunication and misunderstanding outnumber the stars!

Our mouths aren't just made for oral; we can talk as well. no pitfalls if you ask what they want.

But she worries sooo much about her own aromas, and doesn't know how I can be crazy about them.

Many women are because female odours have been the butt of so many juvenile jokes and comments ( I was being told what womens parts smelled like by boys who didn't know what they smelled like but had been told by other boys who didn't know from when I was about 13) they are naturally sensitive about it. And for the record, I've never encountered one that smelled bad.

People are odd.

Definitely.

Trust and communicate.

Always

And yes, lick every dam time you get the chance.

Unless something else works better.

 

[Sgts19]

I was going down on girls before I even started fucking. Been very few times we've had sex without oral, giving and getting. She'd probably divorce me if I didn't spend half my life between her legs lol

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I made a thread about this not knowing this one was here...
Not all of us ladies are crazy about receiving. I LOVE to give. And yes, I have had amazing orgasms from receiving, so it's not that I haven't been with someone who didn't know what they were doing.
For the OP, some women do need to feel more comfortable with that first because it is far more intimate than other forms of pleasure. However, as other people have stated, communication is key. I would choose giving head than being eaten out any day of the week. It's a personal preference, and an uncommon one at that.

 

[Strixaluco]

How would you tell the difference between "It's all about me" and "I take great satisfaction in giving her as much pleasure as possible and in my experience the tongue is one of the best tools"?

My late husband refused to belive it's not the best tool with me. I suppose he believed it's about who and how well... And HE hadn't yet given me oral.

And when he finally found out the hard way that oral does nothing for me, he seemed to loose a major part of his desire for me, as if it was my fault - how did I dare to not be enthusiastic about it when he was so skilled!

 

[gtnlynn]

Before we married, my wife would not let me or any of her other lovers do it to her. She was afraid she would have an offensive taste. After we married, I convinced her with the help of a book, "The Joy of Sex," to let me do it to her. She had an amazing orgasm and welcomed it ever since then. I can understand why some women would not want it.

 

[dw_069]

I have fucked 7 different women in my 66 years of life. I have eaten all of their pussies except for the first one I fucked. None of the ones that let me dine at the Y ever refused me from dining again, so I take it that I did okay. Of the 6 all but one gave me oral.

 

[Achingluv]

My wife is conflicted about it, as she enjoys the feelings, but considers it gross. Now that I'm growing a beard for a time, I don't think she'll be so conflicted for a while. ("Keep that face away from me!")

Before I met my wife, I was with one girl who absolutely didn't want me going down there, though she wouldn't say why. Too bad, as that was a fine looking pussy.

 

[DpropertyofR]

I posted a thread a while back about this. I have trouble relaxing and enjoying cunnilingus, because I tend to start worrying about how I taste or smell, even though nobody has ever complained about that. I also think that my clit needs a decent amount of pressure on it, and a tongue doesn’t always provide that, so I have never been able to cum from cunnilingus. I enjoy giving oral a lot, so most of the time, I will just give without receiving.

 

[strongnsensual]

"Keep that face away from me!")

This made me chuckle, because I used to know a couple whose wife was reeeeally fond of goatees.



Takes all kinds!

 

[Elle4u2use2]

Im not a fan

 

[cheney_dude_2022]

Im not a fan

Why aren't you a fan, @Elle4u2use2 ???