Are trans girls perfect girlfriends?

[Escierto]

I’m very attracted to cute androgyny, to the point where some trans people would say I objectify them.

Whatever….

I’m gender non-confirming and have always felt that way. I find other trans and fluid people attractive in a particular way that I don’t feel for others simply because I can relate to them - their lack of mooring to social expectations and their self determination.

I often present cis. I’m no chaser but I’ve been accused of being one for reaching out socially to some trans folks. I was already in a sad emotional state at the time, it made me feel so disgusting and judged, so outside of the outliers that I was ready to be done with life. I don’t reach out first anymore no matter what.

No one should have to apologize for who they are attracted to or not attracted to.

 

[Britva415]

You’ll need some serious arguments to prove that point.
I guess it’s something for people with a strong domination fetish.

What is there to prove? Do people ask you to prove how you feel? I can't think of a stronger argument than "this is my lived experience." Maybe yours is different, but invalidating someone else's is hyper cringey.

And "domination fetish" is completely unrelated to anal sex. You can dominate with or without anal, you can anal with or without domination.

 

[Jens_Steven]

What is there to prove? Do people ask you to prove how you feel? I can't think of a stronger argument than "this is my lived experience." Maybe yours is different, but invalidating someone else's is hyper cringey.

And "domination fetish" is completely unrelated to anal sex. You can dominate with or without anal, you can anal with or without domination.

I wasn’t even responding to you but when you’re as assertive as the comment I was responding to, it’s fair to ask for arguments and reasons behind such assertions.

 

[Jens_Steven]

Pretty obvious how you feel. It's fine if you just don't like trans women.

I think the question was quite legit tbh.

I’m absolutely not a specialist and really want to hear the opinion of more qualified people here but from what I’ve seen, most men in professional trans porn look like the typical gay porn actor, which makes me think that they prefer to use gay or at least bi actors on purpose. It’s less obvious in amateur stuff though, so I’d like to hear other people experience.

 

[Escierto]

Some people really earn the Ignore button.

 

[Britva415]

it’s fair to ask for arguments and reasons behind such assertions

Go back and read what the assertion was. He was clearly asserting what he personally likes. He wasn't asserting that it's some kind of a universal truth that logic can prove or disprove. He for damn sure wasn't saying you like it.

 

[Jens_Steven]

Some people really earn the Ignore button.

And some people come to a forum and don’t even what to exchange opinions. What’s even the point then ?

 

[Jens_Steven]

Go back and read what the assertion was. He was clearly asserting what he personally likes. He wasn't asserting that it's some kind of a universal truth that logic can prove or disprove. He for damn sure wasn't saying you like it.

That’s not how it came across.
I don’t see any « I prefer » type of sentence.

 

[eric_erosfan]

Pretty obvious how you feel. It's fine if you just don't like trans women.

I definitely didn't say I don't like them. I know a couple of them. They are very well educated and fun to converse with. I am glad I can count them as friends. I was just saying as a straight cis man, I am not sexually attracted to them. I prefer a vagina. The OP asked if trans women were the perfect girlfriends. I guess not for me.

 

[Escierto]

I definitely didn't say I don't like them. I know a couple of them. They are very well educated and fun to converse with. I am glad I can count them as friends. I was just saying as a straight cis man, I am not sexually attracted to them. I prefer a vagina. The OP asked if trans women were the perfect girlfriends. I guess not for me.

Thanks for your response. As I said above, no one should have to apologize for who they are attracted or not attracted to. I mean, who knows why we are attracted to anyone?

 

[Britva415]

That’s not how it came across.
I don’t see any « I prefer » type of sentence.

It goes without saying. The statement is not objectively true, so, there's no option except for it to be a personal preference. It's not even an opinion - it's a feeling.

 

[Britva415]

some people come to a forum and don’t even what to exchange opinions

When people come to a forum and share an opinion, and then get roflstomped by someone who demands objective proof and convincing arguments like you're some kind of feelings-lawyer, that kinda makes them want to not engage with the odd person out.

Everyone else here is exchanging opinions, you were the one trying to turn it into a logic debate with a winner and a loser.

Nobody's trying to prove you like anal sex. If you don't, all you gotta do is say, "not me, thanks," or, better yet, leave the discussion to people who do.