bad sex vs no sex.......

[on_the_verge]

*Bad sex* can be with oral sex, where a lover is sucking you like she is taking a lick off an ice cream cone. Pardon me, but suck it like it's going to a wringer and then lick the top like a cone and back. OR that a man takes two licks like a Tootsie Pop and expects to get into the center.

*Bad sex* is like going down on a lady and then being repulsed by a pungent odor that leaves one dizzy and unable to give her the oral pleasure she desires and you wish to offer. OR that a man tastes horrible or shoots in 1 minute.

*Bad sex* is just not the kind of sex that moves you and you keep wanting it to be over before it begun. I had one woman complain she did not like to make love over 15 minutes or just could not get into sex. Besides her interest and lubrication, I am sorry “M,” but it takes me at least half an hour or so to get off, unless we are going for “express.” I believe that it's the art of seduction before, during and after sex. Otherwise, you might as well as masturbate into a prosthetic device. Why bother with the expectations, travels and other things when you know your body best and *should* share with another in mind and flesh.

*Bad sex* is just when two or more are just not able to satisfy each other—for one reason or another.

*Bad sex* lacks the hunger to know how to pleasure another body without knowing your own.

ETC.

 

[Jewelz]

Follow the leader....

I must agree... masterbation is alot better than *bad* sex

 

[sabbathstorm]

I'd definitely pick masturbation over bad sex. I just couldn't settle for bad sex since I'm such a strong sexual person. Thankfully, I've only been with one person that didn't truly fulfill me. Sorry, but if a guy is licking my pussy he better really get into it and not lick gently. I like the more voracious method We did get together after a long period of time and he had since learned a lot more

 

[bluemuse]

I agree....

I'd much rather masterbate than have bad sex........and I have......too many times.

I want that heady mixture of the erotic...the sensual....the passionate......the ever so slightly kinked.

Talk to me....praise me.....turn me on with your mind. The thing is....I can almost achieve orgasm with just talking........so do it!


*sigh*
bluemuse

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: I agree....

I'd much rather masterbate than have bad sex........and I have......too many times.

I want that heady mixture of the erotic...the sensual....the passionate......the ever so slightly kinked.

Talk to me....praise me.....turn me on with your mind. The thing is....I can almost achieve orgasm with just talking........so do it!


*sigh*
bluemuse

But what about the saga with Wave and you?

 

[Wave_Rider]

Ring, Ring

Talk to me....praise me.....turn me on with your mind. The thing is....I can almost achieve orgasm with just talking........so do it!


*sigh*
bluemuse

the beach boy reaches for his phone........

 

[tn_8tiv]

Re: I agree....

I'd much rather masterbate than have bad sex........and I have......too many times.

I want that heady mixture of the erotic...the sensual....the passionate......the ever so slightly kinked.

Talk to me....praise me.....turn me on with your mind. The thing is....I can almost achieve orgasm with just talking........so do it!


*sigh*
bluemuse

Hey Blue, Your PM box is full

 

[sandiego_gordo]

musings

hmmmm, a friend of mine who incidentally, lived near you bluemuse, had a philosophy that went kind of like: "any warm place to put it where it won't make a mess". He didn't worry too much about the underlying philosophical issues.

He had a few other life-simplifying theories, but i think he missed a lot with his thinking, though admittedly he got laid a lot more than i did. To me it seems that the basis of 'good sex' has very little to do with all the physical techniques and dimensions and everything to do with the mental connectedness of the lovers. Too many people, men and women, are lousy lovers because they're just in it too please themselves and they're in too much of a hurry to do it.

gordo

 

[bluemuse]

Re: Ring, Ring

the beach boy reaches for his phone........

Hello? .......oh....my..........yes!...oh yes!......oops! Disconnected!
Surfer boy, did you forget to pay your phone bill?


bluemuse

 

[bluemuse]

Re: musings

hmmmm, a friend of mine who incidentally, lived near you bluemuse, had a philosophy that went kind of like: "any warm place to put it where it won't make a mess". He didn't worry too much about the underlying philosophical issues.

He had a few other life-simplifying theories, but i think he missed a lot with his thinking, though admittedly he got laid a lot more than i did. To me it seems that the basis of 'good sex' has very little to do with all the physical techniques and dimensions and everything to do with the mental connectedness of the lovers. Too many people, men and women, are lousy lovers because they're just in it too please themselves and they're in too much of a hurry to do it.

gordo

gordo....you are sooooo right on. Do us all a favor, hon. Volunteer to be cloned. We need more men like you out there.


bluemuse

 

[Hunter04]

I must be strange

because i feel even bad sex is better than no sex. Masterbation is ok but in need to feel the warmth of another body. The sweet and the noise. Sorry getting horny. To me sex is like pizza even if its bad its still good.

 

[cutie pie]

Re: musings

To me it seems that the basis of 'good sex' has very little to do with all the physical techniques and dimensions and everything to do with the mental connectedness of the lovers. Too many people, men and women, are lousy lovers because they're just in it too please themselves and they're in too much of a hurry to do it.

Gordo: very eloquently spoken!! I totally agree with you. The best techniques in the world are going to do very little for me if I am not on the same wavelength as my lover. Mental stimulation is almost as important as the physical stimulation. Of course, it also helps if he's a horny brat!

 

[flashyfish]

Why is the sex bad?

I think that is the first question that must be answered...

I feel the options are:
1) The person does not know what to do...I was bad a wonderful older lady taught me many things...

2) The person does not care to do a good job or does not care they are pleasing their partner...Game over...I have selfish people...

3) Maybe some physical, emotional problem...I dated a rape survivor...She had a lot of problems but once they were worked out...Wow...great stuff....

The first one is the one that troubles me...We can't always find someone who know the right stuff, so we need to help them...If their willing that is the most important thing...If your in a relationship, care enough to invest the time to build, teach...If the person is not willing to work at it or communicate then that says something for their personality and how much your relationship means to them...

If its a one night stand...Most guys will say sex is like pizza...You never know how go it is until you try...Who would have a one night sex experience if you knew it wasn't good...

make sense? I would love anyone to write or PM their react to this...And "why do we have to call in dead Fish..."

Fish

see my name... LOL

 

[twodogs]

If it turns out to be bad well Iwould just as well forget it .
I agree with what a person said if your going in there on eating sun get with it nothing like having your face just dripping wet either whole hog or forget it after all the main thing I'm after is to please the women ,when she is happy I feel good for her as well as myself.

 

[floridaguy64]

My sentiments exactly.......... Georgia Peach!!!!

I have to agree with the rest. I'd rather just have some great phone sex and masturbate than give in to bad physical sex. I'm not that desperate yet.

Dawn

Down both of those roads, have I been....................

To me, bad sex is when you either are being forced by the relationship to engage in any sex at all, or that you are with a lover that is so inept in the ways of pleasure, that you cannot only not please them, you damn near kill yourself trying to concentrate long enough to get yourself off! That, in itself, REALLY SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Wave_Rider]

Re: Re: Ring, Ring

Hello? .......oh....my..........yes!...oh yes!......oops! Disconnected!
Surfer boy, did you forget to pay your phone bill?


bluemuse

A new definition for a "quickie"? How was it for you? LOL

 

[bluemuse]

Re: My sentiments exactly.......... Georgia Peach!!!!

Down both of those roads, have I been....................

To me, bad sex is when you either are being forced by the relationship to engage in any sex at all, or that you are with a lover that is so inept in the ways of pleasure, that you cannot only not please them, you damn near kill yourself trying to concentrate long enough to get yourself off! That, in itself, REALLY SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LMAO!!!!

Absolutely perfect!!


bluemuse

 

[Angelofsex]

Bad Sex, hmmmmmmm........

Yes like everyone else, masturbate is better, then him being done and going to sleep and you just getting hot. Sometimes the phone is better then bad sex, at lease you masturbate together.

 

[1sexylady]

Re: My sentiments exactly.......... Georgia Peach!!!!

Down both of those roads, have I been....................

To me, bad sex is when you either are being forced by the relationship to engage in any sex at all, or that you are with a lover that is so inept in the ways of pleasure, that you cannot only not please them, you damn near kill yourself trying to concentrate long enough to get yourself off! That, in itself, REALLY SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh my God.....flash backs... Been there done that....never again.....

1sexylady....

 

[Guest]

Can we 3 Way this telly Call?! ..lol....

 

[bluemuse]

Re: Re: Re: Ring, Ring

A new definition for a "quickie"? How was it for you? LOL

I had to fly solo......well, not completely....the woman in the mirror kept me company....and entertained....

You know what they say..."when you want something done right......"



bluemuse

 

[on_the_verge]

Can we 3 Way this telly Call?! ..lol....

I passed by a café called Yummy Express and I almost had to chuckle thinking of you!

 

[Guest]

See must of made A good Impression.. When You Leave Lit you are still thinking Of Sumething Yummmy, lol....
Off to work i go..... Hope someone orders a "Blowjob"..lmao.. Nighters

 

[Richard49]

Bad sex?

No sex or bad sex?

There was time in my life I would fuck a snake if someone held it's head and it would wear a skirt.

I guess I am getting old.

I do not think the only options are bad sex oe no sex. There is also just OK sex.

Today for me I need to be with some that I care about. That does not mean I have to love them.

I have learned that the Cum is not the end or the beginning. It is the middle.

I need forplay...I need after play.

I also need a good little subbie <smile>

Richard
Michigan

 

[Shlacky]

Definately No sex...

Bad sex is always a let down. You spend time with a person and when the sex sucks, it feels like a huge waste of time. Then you usually have to deal with that person later on, because they thought it was great. What a joke, now I have this woman that wants to have sex when she has no idea of what REAL sex is. I'd rather read some stories or surf the web and just masturbate. I get what I need and don't have to worry about all the drama later on.