(BDSM virgin question) Ever been gangbanged at a party?

[Life_Noir]

I've never witnessed a real gangbang at a BDSM party. But I tend to play in public dungeons where penetration is prohibited because of local or state laws about public sex. While I have witnessed or participated in a menage'-a-trois a time or two, I've never participated in a gangbang (more than 2 partners, 1 getting fucked, the rest doing the fucking), and concentually I never will. Sorry, but safer sex or not, I'm not willing to take that risk.

I have friends who are into the swinging scene, and they report that gangbangs are not very common in their circle either. Apparently group sex and gangbangs are considered different animals in that lifestyle as well.

Personally, I find very little sexual activity that I would consider "wild". Now beating someone with a chain flogger? THAT'S wild! And I've seen that done...

No, I don't have a chain flogger. Why? Do you think I should get one?

Hi EG..How's it going?

Saw a lovely one made out of patterned chainmaille... I'll see if I can find you the link for it...
Though honestly...It struck me as more of a "showpiece".

 

[Beach Boy]

Vanilla man can just dream about seeing me cuming for him tho.

To be honest I'm definitely a "Vanilla man", and it's strange but I think that I'd rather fantasize about this sort of thing than actually do it.

Do many of you guys fantasize about it as well -- but wouldn't really want to do it?

 

[Marquis]

To be honest I'm definitely a "Vanilla man", and it's strange but I think that I'd rather fantasize about this sort of thing than actually do it.

Do many of you guys fantasize about it as well -- but wouldn't really want to do it?

There is TONS of shit I fantasize about but wouldn't really want to do.

 

[Adakgirl]

Actually I have, but it was not at a party, we made our own party. I went looking for it, I got it... 7 men all night long. I have to say it was not like a gang-bang in the terms you think it is. It was more like a sharing me thing, taking turns thing, as many as one could handle at once thing and all those things rolled into one thing. The most exceptional experience I have ever had in my life and a very, very fond memory I hold close. I knew nothing about BDSM at that time in my life either. I guess it was a vanilla gang-bang.

 

[smotherman]

Gangbang has nothing to do with BDSM! and as far as sex in general, Sex is only a small part of what BDSM is all about. Most people conclude BDSM is about kinky sex or something and it's not!

BDSM is about exchange of power, surrending yourself mind, body and soul to your Dom!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Gangbang has nothing to do with BDSM! and as far as sex in general, Sex is only a small part of what BDSM is all about. Most people conclude BDSM is about kinky sex or something and it's not!

BDSM is about exchange of power, surrending yourself mind, body and soul to your Dom!

It all depends on the situation and what the couple agrees on ahead of time in my opinion. A gangbang very well can have something to do with BDSM IF that's the couple decides they want to incorporate into their scene with the consent of the other participants.

Remember there are NO set rules in BDSM.

 

[planetqueen]

There is TONS of shit I fantasize about but wouldn't really want to do.

Yeah me too..

Mind you, having said that, I am doing so much more stuff than I thought I would ever do.

To answer the question - never been gangbanged at a party though.

 

[smotherman]

It all depends on the situation and what the couple agrees on ahead of time in my opinion. A gangbang very well can have something to do with BDSM IF that's the couple decides they want to incorporate into their scene with the consent of the other participants.

Remember there are NO set rules in BDSM.

Yes, providing the poster is married and she agrees with the situation. In general gangbang has nothing to do with BDSM

If the poster is single, Your above statement has no merit

 

[catalina_francisco]

Gangbang has nothing to do with BDSM! and as far as sex in general, Sex is only a small part of what BDSM is all about. Most people conclude BDSM is about kinky sex or something and it's not!

BDSM is about exchange of power, surrending yourself mind, body and soul to your Dom!

Yes it's true, sex is only a small part of BDSM for many, for some it is not even on the radar screen....but if you are going to define gangbang scenes involving a couple involved in D/s and involving D/s as the integral part of the gangbang scene as non-BDSM based on it being a sexual act practiced by non-BDSMers, than I guess you can rule out everything sexual from anal to oral and all things in between as non BDSM also. It is not the act itself, but how it is incorporated and used, tweaked and utilised to its fullest potential, and the mindset and intention behind it which makes it BDSM...sort of like you can spank your child if so inclined, but BDSM that does not make it...do it in a D/s/SM relationship and it becomes very much part of BDSM. You can wear leather pants to the mall because you are into long distance motorcycling and just came off the highway after riding 4 hours straight in freezing conditions....doesn't make you someone into BDSM...wear it to a BDSM club or party with your sub/slave by your side and it can be seen as a part of the dress code in BDSM. Context and mindset are everything. Get my drift?

Catalina

 

[Homburg]

Yes, providing the poster is married and she agrees with the situation. In general gangbang has nothing to do with BDSM

If the poster is single, Your above statement has no merit

What does marriage have to do with anything here?

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Yes, providing the poster is married and she agrees with the situation. In general gangbang has nothing to do with BDSM

If the poster is single, Your above statement has no merit

What does marriage have to do with anything here?

Thank you Homburg, that is exactly what I was going to ask.

I didn't say anything about being married or single. I said two people in a BDSM relationship... that makes them a couple... correct? Even if it is only for one night, they are still a couple for that one night that they have negotiated for. How long have you been in the lifestyle anyway smotherman? Like two seconds? Jesus Christ even a newbie knows that much.

Don't go playing semantics with me... I've been around long enough to know that game too well to fall for it.

 

[RuffStuff76]

I have been "gang-banged," but not as part of a BDSM scene. Actually it had nothing to do with BDSM. It was in a swinging setting (which I'm no longer part of) and I wouldn't call it "wild." It is just was. I don't know if that makes sense or not. It certainly wasn't like something you'd see in a porn. I guess it's all relative. What some find wild, others don't. It was just sex with a lot of people all having fun together.

~H.

 

[AvaAdore]

I have been "gang-banged," but not as part of a BDSM scene. Actually it had nothing to do with BDSM. It was in a swinging setting (which I'm no longer part of) and I wouldn't call it "wild." It is just was. I don't know if that makes sense or not. It certainly wasn't like something you'd see in a porn. I guess it's all relative. What some find wild, others don't. It was just sex with a lot of people all having fun together.

~H.

I had a threesome a couple of years ago. Not BDSM at all. Also nothing like porn! It was a really nice experience. Funny how all the porn-type sex in real life is usually completely different.

 

[CuteBrat]

if a mere slave may disagree....i have been gang-banged where it was entirely about BDSM. Master wanted me reminded what i am good for, and what my purpose is. are things like gang-bangs ALWAYS part of BDSM, of course not. but to say they CANT be is just not true.

at least thats my opinion.

 

[RuffStuff76]

I had a threesome a couple of years ago. Not BDSM at all. Also nothing like porn! It was a really nice experience. Funny how all the porn-type sex in real life is usually completely different.

So very true. I've had some wonderful threesomes, and again-you are right-it's not like porn to me. (It was waaay, waaay better!)

~H.

 

[nh23]

I've never witnessed a real gangbang at a BDSM party. But I tend to play in public dungeons where penetration is prohibited because of local or state laws about public sex. While I have witnessed or participated in a menage'-a-trois a time or two, I've never participated in a gangbang (more than 2 partners, 1 getting fucked, the rest doing the fucking), and concentually I never will. Sorry, but safer sex or not, I'm not willing to take that risk.

I have friends who are into the swinging scene, and they report that gangbangs are not very common in their circle either. Apparently group sex and gangbangs are considered different animals in that lifestyle as well.

Personally, I find very little sexual activity that I would consider "wild". Now beating someone with a chain flogger? THAT'S wild! And I've seen that done...

No, I don't have a chain flogger. Why? Do you think I should get one?

Sir Winston has a chain flogger. Just a light hit on the bottom sort of feels like a punch..lol. It was interesting though..it doesn't feel at all like you think it would.

 

[megan.k]

I am still in college and I spend a lot of time at this frat house down the street from my apartment. The parties can get a bit crazy but I have never been in a "traditional" gangbang. My assumption of a traditional gangbang is when all of the guys would be taking me at once or at least they would all be in the room at the same time.

The closest I have come to a gangbang was at this year's initiation night. All of the guys are totally straight but they have a ritual where all of the members will cum in a glass or a bowl and the new inductees will have to take a drink from the glass or bowl. I agreed this year to be an honorary member of this initiation. My role was to assist the current members cum in anyway they needed. I really can't and won't get into anymore than that.

I will say that at some point before I graduate I would like to try something along the lines of a gangbang. I just don’t know when.

 

[seth6138]

While living in a frat house many years ago, I witnessed a few of these. Maybe it was the fact that the girl was either unattractive or very drunk but, it did nothing for me. In fact at the same frat house during my bachelor party one broke out and, it was supposed to be for me...but I was uniterested. While I can see in the right situation it can be erotic and hot, my personal experience was one of disgust.