Being a submissive...

[slavemarissa]

I had sort of abandonned this thread for a little bit, but i just thought that i'd say that everything Keroin said, i agree with. I think that we all have the opportunity to say the word 'no' to our PYL whether we like to think that we have that choice or not. Obviously there would be consequences of making that decision, but in any circumstance where it would be necessary it could be said.

Anyway, that's my oppinion, but to be honest, this wasn't really what i started this thread for, it was more to learn about submission and being submissive. I think that the discussion has given insight into the differing attitudes, but still... it's becoming more like a debate and it's pretty off-topic now... maybe start another thread to carry it on but finish it here..

xxx

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I had sort of abandonned this thread for a little bit, but i just thought that i'd say that everything Keroin said, i agree with. I think that we all have the opportunity to say the word 'no' to our PYL whether we like to think that we have that choice or not. Obviously there would be consequences of making that decision, but in any circumstance where it would be necessary it could be said.

Anyway, that's my oppinion, but to be honest, this wasn't really what i started this thread for, it was more to learn about submission and being submissive. I think that the discussion has given insight into the differing attitudes, but still... it's becoming more like a debate and it's pretty off-topic now... maybe start another thread to carry it on but finish it here..

xxx

this happens in threads. especially ones like this that ask about submissives/slaves things get said debates start and it makes for an interesting thread none the less. i have been on lit for a long time and i can honestly say i don't think i've ever seen a thread that stayed on the topic of the OP through the whole thread. it just doesn't happen. side conversations start, different topics get brought up, and everyone gives their opinions. i think it's great, keeps everything from being boring. although i will say i know it is frustrating to start a thread and then come back a couple days later to find it has completely gone off track. i think even though it's off track a little, there has still been very good advice given.

 

[slavemarissa]

this happens in threads. especially ones like this that ask about submissives/slaves things get said debates start and it makes for an interesting thread none the less. i have been on lit for a long time and i can honestly say i don't think i've ever seen a thread that stayed on the topic of the OP through the whole thread. it just doesn't happen. side conversations start, different topics get brought up, and everyone gives their opinions. i think it's great, keeps everything from being boring. although i will say i know it is frustrating to start a thread and then come back a couple days later to find it has completely gone off track. i think even though it's off track a little, there has still been very good advice given.

Don't get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with having debates on threads and going off topic of the OP. I just thought it was getting a bit too far and it wasn't really becoming a debate, more an argument about semantics which no-one is ever going to agree with. And yes, some great advice was deffinitely given, but in my personal oppinion, i've always thought that having an argument online or on a forum is pointless anyway..

Anyway, feel free to have other side conversations, whatever, that isn't really what i meant, what i meant to say was just that that one particular conversation had gone a bit far.. that's all, sorry if i wasn't clear about it

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[ZRT]

I kind of started it with my newbishness. Sorry.

 

[slavemarissa]

It's no way your fault... and newbishness is completely welcome!

I was just saying that after a while it got a bit too much into semantics of how people define there own PYL/pyl stuff, and the consequences of saying no in there relationship. But there is never anything (except maybe a gag) stopping us forming and saying the word no to our partner, that's all...

But it really is interesting to hear how people define there relationship and the consequences etc..