Bi curious men what first experience would be most comfortable?
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blade_rocknut
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My ideal scenario is a foursome with another couple in which the male is bi, and preferably leans toward the feminine end of the spectrum.
my wife would rather not have the distraction of another female during this learning curve; however, I think it'd make me more comfortable.
my wife would rather not have the distraction of another female during this learning curve; however, I think it'd make me more comfortable.
I just revisited this with my guy. It's been several years since he "expanded his horizons."
For us, it was with another couple after her guy just kind of threw out that he'd be open to experimenting. Surprised me and her both! But he clearly felt comfortable with saying it out loud in our presence.
The reluctance to come out as bi- to people whose judgement can hurt you is one of the huge hurdles, right? Then there's admitting to yourself that it's a turn-on. And being comfortable with the guy you're thinking of. So for some, an anonymous hookup to experiment might be far more comfortable--something where no one close can hurt you. No harm, no foul, but then how do you sustain it? Lots of sad endings flow from that.
I made it easier for him. In my experience way more guys have thought about it, wondered about it, than ever admitted it to anyone! So early in our relationship, I made it clear that I thought M/M sex was well within the bounds of "normal." I can't say he was worry-free when he admitted thinking about sucking cock, but at least he didn't stiffle himself.
For his first bi- try, my girlfriend and I had the guys revved up in group play. I just winked at him and said: "C'mon--we can both work on him," and bingo--he dove in! It didn't immediately make him a dedicated cocksucker, but over time he relaxed more and more and it became a delightful spice to our own carryings-on!
Having permission and acceptance makes things a whole lot easier!
For us, it was with another couple after her guy just kind of threw out that he'd be open to experimenting. Surprised me and her both! But he clearly felt comfortable with saying it out loud in our presence.
The reluctance to come out as bi- to people whose judgement can hurt you is one of the huge hurdles, right? Then there's admitting to yourself that it's a turn-on. And being comfortable with the guy you're thinking of. So for some, an anonymous hookup to experiment might be far more comfortable--something where no one close can hurt you. No harm, no foul, but then how do you sustain it? Lots of sad endings flow from that.
I made it easier for him. In my experience way more guys have thought about it, wondered about it, than ever admitted it to anyone! So early in our relationship, I made it clear that I thought M/M sex was well within the bounds of "normal." I can't say he was worry-free when he admitted thinking about sucking cock, but at least he didn't stiffle himself.
For his first bi- try, my girlfriend and I had the guys revved up in group play. I just winked at him and said: "C'mon--we can both work on him," and bingo--he dove in! It didn't immediately make him a dedicated cocksucker, but over time he relaxed more and more and it became a delightful spice to our own carryings-on!
Having permission and acceptance makes things a whole lot easier!
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I'd probably go with an experienced man who felt extra motivated to make my first time a memorable encounter. Being with a couple would be great too, which for me the night would include the woman fucking me with a strap-on while I am sucking the guy's dick.
Yeah! All those hurdles. Right on target! So the magic cure for me would be if a couple approached me rather than me having to take the first step. Cuz I'm a chicken shit about embarrassing myself.
About as daring as I've ever gotten was piping up during a group rant about "damned fags taking over" and telling them it didn't bother me. I've piped up like that before but I've always emphasized dicks have attraction for me: "No no brutha, I'm dedicated to PUSSY!"
But I just let it hang there--"Doesn't really bother me. What bothers me? Guys who think it's OK to beat the crap out of another human being 'cause they're gay. That bothers me a lot" Don't think I changed any minds.
Anyway, I'm old, hardly ever get it up anymore, and probably won't ever attract any sex partners I don't have to buy.
But---BUT, if I could, a couple approaching me would do it!
The Tranny option is a nice fantasy, but I see even less chance of that than a couple coming on to me!
Nice post, Valendon.
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I love the idea of starting naked together locked away in a hotel room on a king size bed both watch and masturbating to looping gay porn......I think it would get very intense.
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Love it. Would be a lot of fun.
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I cast my vote in favour of a transgender woman. I know it’s an old cliché, but they really offer the best of both worlds. The features I like most in a woman are her soft beautiful face and her breasts. What I like most about men is their hard cocks. Unfortunately, I’ve never knowingly met any transgender women. They are not easy to find unless you’re “in the know”, which I am most definitely not. But I live in hope.
My first actual gay experience was with a work colleague who I used to go with to a video games parlour. One night it was very crowded and I had to stand close behind him when it was his turn to play. I could feel the heat radiating off his body. I wanted to put one arm around his chest, and with the other unzip his pants and take out and start stroking his exceptionally large cock. (I had seen it in the gym locker room and always had to dress quickly before my own tool sprang to attention). I don’t know what came over me that evening — I was 25 and had never had sexual feelings for a man before — but I lusted for him in a way that I had never craved anyone before. Obviously, I couldn’t fulfil my fantasy in a public place, but he must have had the same feelings because he invited me back to his apartment. We did everything I had imagined and more. At one point we got into a 69 position and we each refused to let the other’s cock out of our mouths until we dumped a small bucket’s worth of cum in each of them. As I relive this experience, my cock is becoming very hard and demanding attention. I’d better go and take care of it.
My first actual gay experience was with a work colleague who I used to go with to a video games parlour. One night it was very crowded and I had to stand close behind him when it was his turn to play. I could feel the heat radiating off his body. I wanted to put one arm around his chest, and with the other unzip his pants and take out and start stroking his exceptionally large cock. (I had seen it in the gym locker room and always had to dress quickly before my own tool sprang to attention). I don’t know what came over me that evening — I was 25 and had never had sexual feelings for a man before — but I lusted for him in a way that I had never craved anyone before. Obviously, I couldn’t fulfil my fantasy in a public place, but he must have had the same feelings because he invited me back to his apartment. We did everything I had imagined and more. At one point we got into a 69 position and we each refused to let the other’s cock out of our mouths until we dumped a small bucket’s worth of cum in each of them. As I relive this experience, my cock is becoming very hard and demanding attention. I’d better go and take care of it.
Have you thought about using any of the dating sites to meet a transgender woman? I never knowingly met a transgender woman until I started using the internet to find one. Thailand and the Philippines are filled with beautiful transgender women but there are some everywhere.
I may have encountered one yesterday coming out of the supermarket but I don’t know for certain not that it matters. There was something different about this woman and I was looking at her as I was going out the door and she was coming in. She saw me and said “Hi” and I smiled and said, “Well hi to you too!” and kept on walking.
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I like this one. Both nervous but eager.
Well, I voted for a bi-curious guy and a male/female couple. My first bi- experience was with an inexperienced man but it went very well and motivated me to find other bi partners. My best experience was over a 2 year “affair’ with a single gay man. It is a fantasy off mine to hook up with a trans woman.
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Think you'll ever meet up with him?
Maturemale520
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With a transwomen or a male female couple. I imagine it slow and sensual lots of kissing, pillow talk... feeling up etc. Think about it alot.
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Most definitely with another bi-curious man, one who, like me, has had very little experience but enjoyed it enough to seek more. A close second is with a trans woman. Images of women with cocks really, really push my buttons in a good way.
So true this is me.
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Another bi curious guy. Sharing and understanding each others concerns, nervousness and pressure would actually make it easier
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I'd go with an experienced man. A bicurious man might be scared to go through with it, or might just be all talk. An experienced man who knows I'm a virgin and nervous would be a good introduction. I would need to know he was clean, though. Stereotypes are hard to dispell, unfortunately.
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Have to agree about having an experienced partner the first time but that may also be an echo of my submissive streak
I voted other. My first experience was out of a desire to see what it felt like to suck a cock as my female persona. I was nervous and excited yet sure that I would feel regret and shame after but went ahead and did it anyway. Much to my relief not only did I enjoy it but looked forward to doing it again. I find the experience of sucking cock something that I crave. Hearing a man moan in pleasure as I pleasure him is very arousing. I love to hear the words " I'm going to cum" as well as the sounds he makes as he orgasms in my mouth.
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With a bi guy and his wife. Her watching would be so sexy
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I've had sexual experiences with other trans females but I have never taken real cock in me. If I did that, I'd probably feel most comfortable with another trans feminine person, though a considerate man would be OK.
Would you consider being with a cross dresser?
