Bi Married and closeted

[Secondthoughts3]

Where in VA?

 

[BlackSatinKnight]

55* in Southern Colorado. It sucks because Huntsville Alabama has had more snow than we have.

Ok, small talk out of the way. Wish I had someone I could go shooting with. Drive up into the mountains, shoot a couple of magazines, and then a couple of loads.

 

[stillworking1234]

Finding a "friend" to play with here in DC Metro has been an elusive proposition since I moved here.
I prefer to keep it pretty simple. Exchanging massage which leads to comfort exploring head and other intensifying erotics.
That has been my experience in the past. Here hosting or not, we are so spread out in traffic that the round trip can easily be an hour each way. Making a day of being ready for company is tough. Must keep this secret. To be honest most of us are married and curious or simply enjoy the release without the relationship that normally goes with it. the added excitement of doing something that is considered wrong or taboo helps too. I still get aroused just pulling my pants down with a 'trusted' friend. How do you find the time? Townhouse is small compared to where I was before but play remains possible. Massage table.... To keep from neighbors or the woman figuring out, a visitor can't park in the driveway. Too many eyes and questions for the woman.
Do you guys just go without?
How do you decide who you might play with?
Like, I don't mind age difference. If I am going to host I do mind HWP. I'm white clean 180lbs 6' and the equipment all works. Prefer to share photos first to make sure neither of us have any negative appeal issues. Deal breaker on this. Any time I ever allowed a meet when they were too nervous or unwilling to share, they took all that time to get there and we didn't play because they where not who they said they were. Or worse. No show and didn't say they were not coming. Burn my whole day.
Anyway, wish I had a friend close enough by to be a bit more spontaneous. Maybe even not create suspicion and visiting is simple. My 'two' friends I had in the past never met each other. But they were repeat friends. Perfecting each others excitement was key to the enjoyment which has me looking for more even though she gives me what I need.
Covid crap is annoying too. At least a visit to Spa World was an outlet to hang naked. Even if we never talked... You could tell who was aroused by watching or being watched.

Yes sir, finding a friend like this is so difficult in our area.

 

[stillworking1234]

Thanks Klip.
Northern VA is at 33 with snow expected sunday, oh boy.
But lets see, cock. Sure would be nice to be invited in for a beer or a nice brandy after helping a friend shovel his driveway and one thing leads to another and we are both naked.

Anything from 3 inches to 12 inches in the metro area. LOL

 

[TallOne]

It's never been easier in history to find such a friend. Load up one of the hookup apps or a site like sniffies.com(which can be used anonymously and requires no account) find bi/gay guys looking right around you, potentially even right on your block. Then just lay out that you want to make a passing public friendship and then you're off to the races.

 

[muycurioso]

Same here...the only difference is Ive come out to 3 friends who I know will not only keep my secret, and who are into bi guys. Its 2 girls and 1 guy, he came out to me first, then I swallowed the nerves and told him I was bi.

Lately the urge to tell my wife has gotten stronger, but I cant...I just know she would have issue with it. I want to tell her a partial truth, that I had a couple of encounters when I was younger, but I still dont think she would be okay with it.

I told my wife, well it isn't reason we are almost divorced now but I think it did not help. Oh well.

 

[TallOne]

Yeah but still the problem would be to suddenly be friends with a neighbor one has never been friends with in the past.
oh well, maybe it will eventually happen or maybe not.
In the meantime I can drool here online
grin

Why? Plenty of friendships just start up out of nowhere. Met my best friend simply because I was wearing an obscure band t-shirt that he also enjoyed and that started a conversation.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Yeah but still the problem would be to suddenly be friends with a neighbor one has never been friends with in the past.
oh well, maybe it will eventually happen or maybe not.
In the meantime I can drool here online
grin

the ONLY thing that anyone EVER excells at is what they practice...and the level of their success depends on how much quality effort they are willing to invest in what they practice.
Likewise the only way that anyone is willing to invest in a 'practice' of any sort is IF they BELIEVE that they WILL ACHIEVE what it is that they desire.

the last time I got to suck a good dick was two years ago...has that fact stopped me from trying--, no. Does that mean it will never happen again? Not by a long shot.

The point is don't tell yourself what you want but that you have to accept that it may never happen. Thats like trying to dig a hole but for every shovelful you take out, you put two shovels back in the hole

 

[klippert]

Almost noon fellas I hope all is well. Freaking cold here in SE Mich. my buddy and I have plans for Friday and Saturday morning. Unless it falls thru

 

[Far1957mer]

Syracuse, NY, I am through there sometimes. I live in Rochester(Hilton Actually). I too have never had the pleasure of Man on Man sex but would love to experience it!

 

[Worm69]

Wow I didn’t realize how many of you all are like myself. My wife knows I’m Bi and I dream a lot about going out to a friends house to work on our vehicles or our cocks I’ve also thought about going out on trails with a friends here in Colorado and stop for lunch and more. I really don’t have many friends here at all though. Just a few that like playing on Jeep trails and Camping. Love reading all the messages here. I’ve often wanted an email type friend also doing a story with each other about what we would do. I love sucking cock and being the bottom. I’ve been with men before and miss it.

 

[klippert]

Wow I didn’t realize how many of you all are like myself. My wife knows I’m Bi and I dream a lot about going out to a friends house to work on our vehicles or our cocks I’ve also thought about going out on trails with a friends here in Colorado and stop for lunch and more. I really don’t have many friends here at all though. Just a few that like playing on Jeep trails and Camping. Love reading all the messages here. I’ve often wanted an email type friend also doing a story with each other about what we would do. I love sucking cock and being the bottom. I’ve been with men before and miss it.

Your wife knows. Like Knows knows ?? Like she know you’re a bottom?? And have laid for men. Or she thinks it’s a phase / fantasy??
There is a distinction here. My wife knows I’ve been with men. She marks it up to experimenting. Locking it up in her mind and tossing the key. Not taking it all in. No pun intended

 

[mtdan]

24

24 deg in Western Montana.. looking..

 

[osodown]

Hey There

Hey There Montana Man-Dan. Whos it hanging this afternoon? Hopefullt not hanging but sitting up drooling!,
Love the country you call home, drove through the area in late 2020, even ate near the university at a small pizza place thnat had a bomb beer selection.
stayed over that night by the costco too.

what are you into and seeking on this site, well besides someone to suck your cock on a daily basis.,

24 deg in Western Montana.. looking..

 

[BiDrew42]

I came out to my ex-wife before we got married. I didn't want to have any secrets from her that might cause problems for us if they were to come out after we were married. She took it surprisingly well and told me to make sure I got it all out of my system before we got married, which I did, and then I was 100% faithful to her for nearly 20 years. That doesn't mean I stopped thinking and fantasizing about men, I just never acted on those feelings. Late in our marriage, she would occasionally fuck me with a strap-on, which I loved but she was lukewarm about.

After my divorce, I had a 5 year relationship with my long-time secretary. It was a wide open relationship and we were swinging together. Both of us were bi and although we kept our lifestyle secret from our friends and family, we didn't keep anything from each other.

When I moved to Australia in April, 2015, I was finally able to enjoy my bisexual lifestyle completely in the open. It was so liberating that I wished I had come out years before.

 

[Hitchiker69]

Do other guys have some steamy ideas/situations they wish they could encounter with a trusted neighbor?

I like to imagine what could happen on a fishing or camping trip with the handsom younger neighbor. I know he's open minded, and I suspect he might be Bi. Alone in the woods, with one or two beers , I'd love to find out how far he'll go. I would definitely suck him if I got the right signals from him. And if all goes well we'd go all out. Sucking, 69'ing, fucking each other and whatever else we can think of to please each other and satisfy ourselves.

 

[mtdan]

Hey There Montana Man-Dan. Whos it hanging this afternoon? Hopefullt not hanging but sitting up drooling!,
Love the country you call home, drove through the area in late 2020, even ate near the university at a small pizza place thnat had a bomb beer selection.
stayed over that night by the costco too.

what are you into and seeking on this site, well besides someone to suck your cock on a daily basis.,

Nice. if you ever get to town look me up.. I would prefer both actually.

 

[Rbjohnson]

I too have thoughts of going bi

I am 69 years old. My wife had a hard change of life and to make a long story short, she announced that we weren't going to have sex anymore. I asked her what she meant and she replied that she didn't feel anything while having sex and that it is for young people and it was too messy. I would be embarrassed to tell you how long ago that conversation was. Anyway I have been watching a LOT of gay porn and the more I see the more I want to take the plunge. I am sick and tired of having "solo sex" and want to be excited again about having sex with someone besides myself. Life is too short to not having basic needs taken care of.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I am 69 years old. My wife had a hard change of life and to make a long story short, she announced that we weren't going to have sex anymore. I asked her what she meant and she replied that she didn't feel anything while having sex and that it is for young people and it was too messy. I would be embarrassed to tell you how long ago that conversation was. Anyway I have been watching a LOT of gay porn and the more I see the more I want to take the plunge. I am sick and tired of having "solo sex" and want to be excited again about having sex with someone besides myself. Life is too short to not having basic needs taken care of.

I once thought that there may be a 'few' other guys that were in this very same boat, similar to myself. Boy, was I wrong. There are not a 'few' of us, but lots and lots who have gone through this, or are going through it. I hope you can find a 'special' friend to share some time with.

 

[gary04]

Bi

It's so difficult to find someone in a small town that's just bi and looking for the same thing. How do you approach someone and say hey want a hand job or blow job. Then to find someone that is dds free and honest about it so you don't take anything home to give the wife.

 

[OlderBtm4U]

I am 69 years old. My wife had a hard change of life and to make a long story short, she announced that we weren't going to have sex anymore. I asked her what she meant and she replied that she didn't feel anything while having sex and that it is for young people and it was too messy. I would be embarrassed to tell you how long ago that conversation was. Anyway I have been watching a LOT of gay porn and the more I see the more I want to take the plunge. I am sick and tired of having "solo sex" and want to be excited again about having sex with someone besides myself. Life is too short to not having basic needs taken care of.

I think there a a great number of us in this situation.

 

[lordpenizworth]

I second that opinion. There are A LOT of us out there as far as I've read. You figure, for as many guys are on websites and msg boards, chat rooms, etc covertly, there must be many more who aren't even at that point yet.
I've been lucky to meet some nice, trustworthy married guys.

 

[longname2000]

Bi Married and closeted. Yep, I know the feeling...............

 

[fetishdan]

sigh sigh sigh

 

[trevorness]

I may have told my wife I am not too straight last night. She did not seem too surprised or upset.