Body image and cams

[minx1]

Working out tends to have an effect on body image beyond the changes it makes to your body composition and your posture.

Knowing that you're doing something to improve your body will make you prouder of it.

Yeah..I was saying to Fury I think, that when I excercised before it realy made me glow...I was outdoors so much.
Its not only invigorating for the bod it has a great effect on the mind too.
Yup time I got off my backside and did something

Do you work out Marquis? and btw do you cam?

 

[Marquis]

Yeah..I was saying to Fury I think, that when I excercised before it realy made me glow...I was outdoors so much.
Its not only invigorating for the bod it has a great effect on the mind too.
Yup time I got off my backside and did something

Do you work out Marquis? and btw do you cam?

Yes and $3.99/min.

 

[minx1]

Yes and $3.99/min.

*laugh* er thats good. You mean you charge that?!

 

[Etoile]

this pic was taken AT MY REQUEST after a very intense play session...

He had to go FIND someone with a camera (camphone actually) because He knows pics are a hard limit for me.

I am a big girl.... but when stretched out on the "X" it evens out very well

my "tree": click here

I just want to jump in and say that is a HOT picture.

 

[minx1]

Oh one hand, I advocate getting out your cam, and experementing. Change the lighting, change poses, get used to walking moving etc on cam, figuring out how you look best to make you FEEL best. Take more nude pictures. Get used to seing yourself naked.
Oh the other hand, don't worry about that too much. Natural is also really quite beautiful. Basically, just be aware of your body... Don't be negative towards all your flaws, and don't think that laying any old way is going to be hot. Focus on how you can eccentuate what you like, don't focus on how to hide what you don't.
I go to a nude each a well. One would think I have nudist tendencies, but there's something really nice about having a breeze and sunshine on your bare breasts. That and I almost feel more self conscious on a bathingsuit beach. Walking aorund with all my chub stuffed into the lycra like a little pork sausage, while all the girls are skimping around in their string bikini's. People oogling eachother left and right, feling judged by everyone I pass. It's not really acceptable to oogle someone at a nude beach, because you're nude and they are nude and at that point, there's nothing left to the imagination and it almost becomes a moot point. I've also done naked slip-n-slide and really, I felt totally selfconscious running naked infront of about 100 people, but when you start running you mind stops thinking about your projectile fat and starts thinking, "Well i'm running a a big plastic sheet on the ground covered in soap, how the fuck am i suppossed to land"

Even after all of that, I still feel AMAZINGLY insecure in intimate situations concerning my body.

Thanks for that Ammre I can really relate to the points that you raise. For example I know that when I have planned to surprise my Master and be seen, I've spent ages before hand trying to to find ways to disguise the bits I don't like, rather than focusing on the good bits! I am going to try and make a concerted effort to shift this mindset, because I think its really negative.

I love being naked at the beach too, feeling the breeze on my skin and I adore being in the sea!

Whats just crossed my mind when I was just writing this is that actually when I think to RL senarios with past partners, nakedness hasn't really bothered me at all and I would often walk around the house naked, yet my body has still been the same

So could it just the cam that adds an element to it that I am not comfortable with? Or maybe its the fact I'm showing my Master (sorry Master! *laugh*)? As his sub I really want to please him and his opinion really matters to me..perhaps this is why I am more reluctant to show my flaws to him and build it into something much bigger than I ever have with the 'normal' (*giggle*) men in my life!
I don't know...I'm just throwing ideas into the ring?

 

[trisquel_astur]

Hi, sweet minx!

First of all... You are a lovely woman.

Second... You have a nice mind.

3th... Feel confortable with yourself.

4th... I'm quite sure that your "hardware" is, at least, as beautiful as your "software", so don't be so shy, plz.

5th... Physical beauty is something that will disappear in a more or less near future, but your real brightnes and beauty will remain.

6th... And as a Dom and Master, I can tell you that a real man likes the real woman that is inside.

7th... A nice body is a plus, but not the most important thing, at least for me and most of the Doms and Masters.



Hope to be helpful.

 

[Lydia_Trent]

I love this thread! thanks for it,you are not the only one, lol I hate cameras period i can take great photos, but get in front of one,uuugh, and a cam oh no, i get really self conscious, or even talking out loud lol in real life no problem. so you are not the only one with this problem.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I can relate to this minx..I was so nervous to show Master my body..I don't have a cam but do have a digital camera.I so hated taking my pics for him the first time but he loves my body no matter what because he loves me..I havent read the whole thread yet but I hope you have been able to show your whole body to him..I am sure he will love you that much more..I have a problem with my body but to master he loves every inch of it...Sorry to babble on but hope something I said helps you..

 

[nowgirl]

i feel the same as most here - it's scary to be on cam and let it all hang out. but if you are at a point you feel so connected with Him - it does get a little easier. and i have to say that once you get in to the swing of things, once the scene gets going and you feel hot, excited, flushed - wanting to please Him - you will suddenly be over your initial anxious feelings. and - seeing his response to you will definitely make you feel incredible.

you could start out wearing something sexy... still kinda covered but a little revealing?

at one point, we created a "stage." i had a bench i could kneel on, lie on, whatever... had the box 'o stuff nearby... we checked the lighting, sound (LOL - i sound like i'm in the movies) - it was interesting.

my only recommendation is that you make sure the space where your web cam is located is cleaned up!. messy surroundings are a little distracting and reasons for punishment...

 

[minx1]

Hi, sweet minx!

First of all... You are a lovely woman.

Second... You have a nice mind.

3th... Feel confortable with yourself.

4th... I'm quite sure that your "hardware" is, at least, as beautiful as your "software", so don't be so shy, plz.

5th... Physical beauty is something that will disappear in a more or less near future, but your real brightnes and beauty will remain.

6th... And as a Dom and Master, I can tell you that a real man likes the real woman that is inside.

7th... A nice body is a plus, but not the most important thing, at least for me and most of the Doms and Masters.



Hope to be helpful.

*hugs* thanks Tris that is really sweet of you.

God....presents on International Womens Day and comments like this.....are you perfect?!! *tease*

And I agree with you a 100%..infact I was just PMing someone and reasoned that if I thik my Master is gorgeous and a damn wonderful man, regardless of how he looks....why can't I accept that He thinks the same about me!

 

[minx1]

I love this thread! thanks for it,you are not the only one, lol I hate cameras period i can take great photos, but get in front of one,uuugh, and a cam oh no, i get really self conscious, or even talking out loud lol in real life no problem. so you are not the only one with this problem.

Aww thanks Lydia, it was a bit embarrassing admitting it lol, but I'm glad I did, because I didn't realise so many others felt the same and its really helped to hear that and get some advice

I hope you find everyones contributions as useful as I have and good luck to you too

 

[naxalite0906]

Maybe do a simple thing like always wear things that make you feel like a goddess (even though you should all the time ).
If you are feeling good in what you have on, then in time the confidence will grow. It sounds like he always says wonderful things about you, and all of them are true. You have to trust him too. He cares so much about you and you would never dissappoint him, as much as it scares you to think that you do.

 

[minx1]

I can relate to this minx..I was so nervous to show Master my body..I don't have a cam but do have a digital camera.I so hated taking my pics for him the first time but he loves my body no matter what because he loves me..I havent read the whole thread yet but I hope you have been able to show your whole body to him..I am sure he will love you that much more..I have a problem with my body but to master he loves every inch of it...Sorry to babble on but hope something I said helps you..

It really does, thankyou DW

It is the same for my Master...infact He told me the other day that if He didn't see anymore of me it really didn't matter.

However you will be pleased to know yesterday I showed Him a bit more!! lol

All the posts on here had really helped and I was feeling a bit brave, so I put my stockings and sussies on and walked into shot....ok I only showed my body up to my waist, but as thats my 'worst' bit I am feeling pretty pleased with myself!!

Its slowly slowly, but who knows....I may be able to post here soon that I did it and showed all!!

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

It really does, thankyou DW

It is the same for my Master...infact He told me the other day that if He didn't see anymore of me it really didn't matter.

However you will be pleased to know yesterday I showed Him a bit more!! lol

All the posts on here had really helped and I was feeling a bit brave, so I put my stockings and sussies on and walked into shot....ok I only showed my body up to my waist, but as thats my 'worst' bit I am feeling pretty pleased with myself!!

Its slowly slowly, but who knows....I may be able to post here soon that I did it and showed all!!

Oh that is good that you were able to do that last night Minx..I know it is hard...

I hyperventalated the first time I sent full body pics to my Master..But he saw them and loved me that much more..

I hope that you get to move on up on the cam and show your Master more and I know he will just adore you for that and make you feel so good about yourself..

 

[minx1]

Oh that is good that you were able to do that last night Minx..I know it is hard...

I hyperventalated the first time I sent full body pics to my Master..But he saw them and loved me that much more..

I hope that you get to move on up on the cam and show your Master more and I know he will just adore you for that and make you feel so good about yourself..

Thats exactly it DW...I know that actually He will love the fact that I have shown Him, much more than care what I look like.

God how brave are you sending full body pics!! One day DW...one day!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Maybe this will help, and maybe it won't...

When you are readying yourself to do it, don't think of it as showing yourself, but displaying your master his property. Disconnect your sense of self from it completely, and think of it as you doing something for the pleasure of your master. Maybe if you think of it as a service to him, then you won't have to be as self consious because your focus will be elsewhere.

Hope this helps.

 

[minx1]

Maybe this will help, and maybe it won't...

When you are readying yourself to do it, don't think of it as showing yourself, but displaying your master his property. Disconnect your sense of self from it completely, and think of it as you doing something for the pleasure of your master. Maybe if you think of it as a service to him, then you won't have to be as self consious because your focus will be elsewhere.

Hope this helps.

Thanks, it really does MP...because I know that you are completely right. Thats the reason I want Him to see me so badly....because I want Him to see what is His. I am so lucky that He is the way He is and is willing to wait until I am comfortable....but I don't want Him to have to wait.

Youa re right and I will try and focus on that

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Thats exactly it DW...I know that actually He will love the fact that I have shown Him, much more than care what I look like.

God how brave are you sending full body pics!! One day DW...one day!

Yes as we are harsher on ourselves then anyone else ever will..especially our Masters

Yes you will work up to it one day minx..it took all I could do to take those pics but master wanted them and what Master wants he gets..

 

[minx1]

i feel the same as most here - it's scary to be on cam and let it all hang out. but if you are at a point you feel so connected with Him - it does get a little easier. and i have to say that once you get in to the swing of things, once the scene gets going and you feel hot, excited, flushed - wanting to please Him - you will suddenly be over your initial anxious feelings. and - seeing his response to you will definitely make you feel incredible.

you could start out wearing something sexy... still kinda covered but a little revealing?

at one point, we created a "stage." i had a bench i could kneel on, lie on, whatever... had the box 'o stuff nearby... we checked the lighting, sound (LOL - i sound like i'm in the movies) - it was interesting.

my only recommendation is that you make sure the space where your web cam is located is cleaned up!. messy surroundings are a little distracting and reasons for punishment...

*giggles* Can you pop round and help me with my lighting NG? You are almost a pro girl!!

You are so right as well about the messy space. I caught sight of all my wahing haging up in the background once....not a good backdrop...my undies on the radiator! *laugh*

 

[minx1]

We solved this problem in a round-abotu sort of way. At first it was only her shoulders up, (god she's got a beautifull face and i love her eyes, so i wasn't complaining too much) but eventually she got comfortible letting me se eall of her in her normal every-day sort of clothing. And slowly, we worked together, me letting her know jus thow gorgeous I find her to be, till she wore a bit more revealing clothing each time. Tll eventually, it was nothing at all

This is a bit longer route, but it worked wonders.

*smile* thankyou Tao_lin I think thats a lovely route to take and you can tell how much you love her just from the way you talk about her

 

[Brandii]

I just wanted to add this little gem that B once told me to help me past my insecurities:
He said, "The body is just an instrument used to make the soul orgasm."
Don't you just love that.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Thanks, it really does MP...because I know that you are completely right. Thats the reason I want Him to see me so badly....because I want Him to see what is His. I am so lucky that He is the way He is and is willing to wait until I am comfortable....but I don't want Him to have to wait.

Youa re right and I will try and focus on that

Glad I can provide assistance.

 

[minx1]

Maybe do a simple thing like always wear things that make you feel like a goddess (even though you should all the time ).
If you are feeling good in what you have on, then in time the confidence will grow. It sounds like he always says wonderful things about you, and all of them are true. You have to trust him too. He cares so much about you and you would never dissappoint him, as much as it scares you to think that you do.

*giggles* you mean no big bridget knicks?

*hugs* thanks Nax

 

[minx1]

I just wanted to add this little gem that B once told me to help me past my insecurities:
He said, "The body is just an instrument used to make the soul orgasm."
Don't you just love that.

wonderful Brandii....kinda puts it all into context!

 

[naxalite0906]

*giggles* you mean no big bridget knicks?

*hugs* thanks Nax

Whatever you feel confident in.. If you dress and feel good about yourself, your confidence will definately grow.. Either that or have a strong drink too