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Purple_Fronds
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Agh, the “imposter syndrome” is strong with you.
. Truthfully I don’t know if you’re good at your job, but my experience is that people who express what you just expressed, generally aren’t.
The self doubt as much as it sucks to feel, helps you be really great for a lot of reasons not least of which is because you obviously care. The secret of course is to keep it at a healthy level, remind yourself of all the positive things that have been said to you over the years, accept that people don’t say this stuff if they don’t believe it and above all remember to be kind to yourself.
This concludes my Ted Talk.
Please let us know how it went.
Who did your review and how was it delivered?... Was it "constructive criticism" or simply berating you?
BiBunny
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The owner and the manager. The manager at least said she thought I was doing great. The owner made me feel like I can't do anything right.
You know how generally, in a review, they tell you what you're doing right AND what you're doing wrong? I got told everything that was wrong, and all I got for the "doing right" part was, "Thank you for not missing any shifts." Which, when combined with "your blogs are vanilla and boring, you don't follow the script correctly, and you're not enthusiastic enough in chat" sounds like "you suck, but at least you show up, I guess."
I suggest that you not take it to "personal" and just try to adjust...
There's ALWAYS a learning curve in any new job...
Regardless, DON'T beat yourself up over it, as that won't do anyone any good... especially YOU!
cascadiabound
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Some people really suck at doing reviews. This sounds like such a person
BiBunny
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Yep. I feel like I've done my best, and I got shit on, anyway.
Honestly, though, the owner doesn't have a lot of involvement with the company. The manager does all the day-to-day stuff, and she said I was doing great. So I'm gonna try to remember that and not think about someone who believes nobody can do anything right.
BINGO!
Purple_Fronds
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Sorry to hear that, I hate it when people are surprised it’s the shittiest thing from a manager
BiBunny
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I have done nearly 700 minutes in 3 days.
I'm exhausted. But I could cry because I always thought the reason I never made good money was that I wasn't good enough. But apparently, the problem was location, rather than skill.
I have tomorrow and Wednesday off, and I will need every minute of them to recover from all the talking I've been doing. I did 348 minutes yesterday alone.
I'm not bragging, y'all. I'm just genuinely shocked.
I'm exhausted. But I could cry because I always thought the reason I never made good money was that I wasn't good enough. But apparently, the problem was location, rather than skill.
I have tomorrow and Wednesday off, and I will need every minute of them to recover from all the talking I've been doing. I did 348 minutes yesterday alone.
I'm not bragging, y'all. I'm just genuinely shocked.
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Sending in a squirrel stuffieteer to put the management to the stuffiesword
Ye squirrels of Mars, come list to me,
And I will relate to ye
A great and heroic squirrel musketeer fight,
Which will fill your stuffies and hearts with day to day stuffie delight.
(after William Topaz McGonagall - the worst poet ever)
I like that!There are so many stuffies everywhere for the holidays, and that makes me so happy.
It's great to see you happy!
Cheers!
BiBunny
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Thank you!
Not good for my bank account or my house that's already packed full of stuff, though. I want one of all of them!
Sage advice. I concur fully!
BiBunny
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So I got my check for the week I screwed up my pay. They didn't knock me down to the lowest pay scale, after all, thank God. I don't know why not, or if it was a mistake, but I'm gonna take the money and keep my mouth shut, lol.
They came to work on all the stuff that's wrong in my bathroom yesterday and today. Hopefully, it'll be finished today, but at the moment, they're redoing the floor, and my toilet is sitting in my bathtub, lol.
They came to work on all the stuff that's wrong in my bathroom yesterday and today. Hopefully, it'll be finished today, but at the moment, they're redoing the floor, and my toilet is sitting in my bathtub, lol.
cascadiabound
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Yay for getting paid!!
BiBunny
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Yep!
They didn't finish my bathroom yesterday. They're coming back to supposedly finish on Monday. I don't have a bathroom sink at the moment, but the new flooring has been put down, and at least the toilet is no longer sitting in the bathtub, lol.
BiBunny
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I have another contractor review tomorrow. At least I'm expecting this one and know to be ready for the owner to be negative as hell. I've just about decided that when she starts nitpicking my word choice again, I'm going to say something like, "I think you and I have vastly different personalities, and we'll probably never choose to say the same thing in response to what someone else says, and that's ok."
That's the nicest way I can think of to say, "Bitch, I'm not you, and I don't want to be," lol.
That's the nicest way I can think of to say, "Bitch, I'm not you, and I don't want to be," lol.
BiBunny
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Had the review. Owner harped on the same shit she harped on last time, and I only half-listened because I knew to expect her shitty attitude this time.
That woman is proof that just because you can make money doesn't necessarily mean you'll be a good leader of people.
That woman is proof that just because you can make money doesn't necessarily mean you'll be a good leader of people.
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One of my dear collegues who sadly works elswhere now, would theatre whisper ”Smile and wave, Iris!”, when someone would be a new level of stupid/annoying/incompetent, in a situation where it wouldn’t pay to point it out to them.
Now I try to hear her voice in my hed and do double breath in and slow breath out.
Purple_Fronds
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Nicely processed. One of the problems with people being successful is that they often equate their success to being great at everything which is never the case.
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