Can a cock be too big?

[ImiGirrst]

True, though that doesn't necessarily mean it will be enjoyable for her. I've yet to met a woman that enjoyed childbirth, haha.

I think the part that I liked most about childbirth was that the kid was the hell outta my body! I think that's one of the reasons the last two weeks are so fucking uncomfortable. The desire to have your body back becomes greater than the fear of pushing out a watermelon

 

[Bbl87]

I think the part that I liked most about childbirth was that the kid was the hell outta my body! I think that's one of the reasons the last two weeks are so fucking uncomfortable. The desire to have your body back becomes greater than the fear of pushing out a watermelon

I can only imagine!

 

[OldAsianMan72]

yes i want your cock

Tell me again

 

[lit_ch3]

My wife told me a story about her in college. Met a guy and he ended up being huge.
10 inches huge and described his girt as like a can of Pepsi.
she was unable to fuck him.. she is tight, was super tight when I met her.
she had to finally just give him a hand job using hair conditioner.
I love hearing her stories

My wife ran into the same in her apparent search for a big cock. Unfortunately for him though, she just noped right out of there. I asked. "You didn't even give him a handie????" "Nope. Left right after I saw it." And this was told to me in the context of her looking for a big one.

 

[lil_jenni]

I have never found one that wouldn't fit. Some require a slow lead up and lots of lube. There is also a significant psychological factor - not just being aroused but also relaxing enough to allow your body to accommodate. In a way I liken it a bit to anal sex or deep throat. Lots of women will say they can't/don't do it because it hurts. But the main reason it hurts is because your/your body is fighting it - the anus and the throat automatically resist so you have to train them to relax and let it in.

There is also an element of stretching the muscles in that area, but not in the way dudes seem to think. It is not like stretching a sweater that loses its shape stays permanently stretched. It is like stretching your hamstring muscles by touching your toes. Your range of motion is increased, but they don't stay stretched or unable to return otherwise you would fall over on your face. It is the same with my pussy. I can accommodate a big dick because I have a wide range of motion in those muscles but I can still flex tight around a smaller dick (though that is more of a conscious effort than standing up after touching my toes).

That is not to say there could never be one that is too big. But I haven't found it yet in large part because I have embraced the factors that allow me to indulge the pleasure of big cocks.

I think fear was a big issue for me. Vaginal sex almost always hurt unless I was really drunk, and having my cervix smashed hurt even worse. But I'm not very deep, so a hard driving, average length cock can hit my cervix. But my issue with pain from penetration was from me not relaxing (which is why being drunk helped). My Hubby is probably a bit longer than a average (from my experience) and definitely thicker than average, and I can almost always take him pain free. But I've been very comfortable with hime right from the beginning.

As for the cervix issue, Policywank and other women on here have talked about it being pleasurable if done right . Since reading stuff like that, I have had Hubby push deeper to see. I wouldn't call it pleasurable when he pushes against my cervix, but it doesn't hurt if he starts slow and gets me used to it. That makes me wonder if maybe I could take a longer cock if the guy knew what he was doing. The guys with above average length that I hooked up with in college didn't seem to know...

 

[policywank]

I think fear was a big issue for me. Vaginal sex almost always hurt unless I was really drunk, and having my cervix smashed hurt even worse. But I'm not very deep, so a hard driving, average length cock can hit my cervix. But my issue with pain from penetration was from me not relaxing (which is why being drunk helped). My Hubby is probably a bit longer than a average (from my experience) and definitely thicker than average, and I can almost always take him pain free. But I've been very comfortable with hime right from the beginning.

As for the cervix issue, Policywank and other women on here have talked about it being pleasurable if done right . Since reading stuff like that, I have had Hubby push deeper to see. I wouldn't call it pleasurable when he pushes against my cervix, but it doesn't hurt if he starts slow and gets me used to it. That makes me wonder if maybe I could take a longer cock if the guy knew what he was doing. The guys with above average length that I hooked up with in college didn't seem to know...

I don't pretend to be an anatomy expert, but as I understand it the cervix is not strictly at the end of the vaginal canal in the way that the base of a bottle is at the end of the bottle (i.e. straight ahead). It is actually on the side of the vaginal canal near its base - sort of a 90 degree turn towards the front of the body right near the end of the vaginal canal. So it isn't a forgone conclusion that a large dick will slam into the cervix. If positioned right it will slip past the cervix and push up against the base of the canal. I find that point too be pleasurable, and I don't mind some pressure on the cervix (but not slamming right into it), but you really need the right angle and rhythm which requires a guy who knows what he is doing and a woman who has figured out that aspect of her own body.

 

[dave's thing]

I don't pretend to be an anatomy expert, but as I understand it the cervix is not strictly at the end of the vaginal canal in the way that the base of a bottle is at the end of the bottle (i.e. straight ahead). It is actually on the side of the vaginal canal near its base - sort of a 90 degree turn towards the front of the body right near the end of the vaginal canal. So it isn't a forgone conclusion that a large dick will slam into the cervix. If positioned right it will slip past the cervix and push up against the base of the canal. I find that point too be pleasurable, and I don't mind some pressure on the cervix (but not slamming right into it), but you really need the right angle and rhythm which requires a guy who knows what he is doing and a woman who has figured out that aspect of her own body.

I agree. While everyone is different, I have found that going under the cervix and going up the back wall behind it is very arousing for both, even if I get a wee bit aggressive

 

[Malcom3100]

I definitely like larger than average cocks. My ideal is 8"-9" and thick. But I have accommodated all the way up to 12" (which of course are very rare) as long as we take our time to get me aroused (the vaginal canal expands) and I am in the right mindset to relax. Especially with anal or deep throat I find that any discomfort is more a function of the body's resistance than it is the cock itself.

 

[ChrissyClitLit]

Any cock is too big if he doesn’t take the time to open me first. Otherwise? Not really. But is it really about the cock? Or is it the way he grabs my hips and pulls me onto his shaft…?

 

[Islander55]

I think fear was a big issue for me. Vaginal sex almost always hurt unless I was really drunk, and having my cervix smashed hurt even worse. But I'm not very deep, so a hard driving, average length cock can hit my cervix. But my issue with pain from penetration was from me not relaxing (which is why being drunk helped). My Hubby is probably a bit longer than a average (from my experience) and definitely thicker than average, and I can almost always take him pain free. But I've been very comfortable with hime right from the beginning.

As for the cervix issue, Policywank and other women on here have talked about it being pleasurable if done right . Since reading stuff like that, I have had Hubby push deeper to see. I wouldn't call it pleasurable when he pushes against my cervix, but it doesn't hurt if he starts slow and gets me used to it. That makes me wonder if maybe I could take a longer cock if the guy knew what he was doing. The guys with above average length that I hooked up with in college didn't seem to know...

Hard to remember that far back but younger guys with a big one tend to think they are hot just because they have a big cock. It takes some experience before they figure out how to use it properly or perhaps they just need a woman who understands what she needs and can explain things to them.

 

[policywank]

Hard to remember that far back but younger guys with a big one tend to think they are hot just because they have a big cock. It takes some experience before they figure out how to use it properly or perhaps they just need a woman who understands what she needs and can explain things to them.

Like so many aspects of sex I think it takes some effort on the part of both partners to find their way. And that usually requires some trial and error.

I think that when I was younger there was a bit more of an expectation that everything should be magical and effortless and there was something wrong if it wasn't. My first big dick was not that, but I am glad that I kept on trying.

 

[Badxxxwifey]

From my experience with enough oral beforehand and lube, every cock can fit in every pussy. And with enough practice any cock can fit in any mouth or ass too. But is this just my experience?

I mean I've seen some cocks online which look just crazily big like I've linked below and wonder if it would still fit? What do you guys and girls think? Have you ever had a cock which you just could not fit inside of you no matter what?

Thanks x

Mega cock - https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/15806363/505521752

Booze helps XD and lots of lube!
I’m only 5’0 and I’ve taken 11” before

 

[haventdonethat]

Booze helps XD and lots of lube!
I’m only 5’0 and I’ve taken 11” before

My second ex is 5'1" and took 13" a couple of times.








My 7" and friends 6" in a DVP

 

[BongoGal]

I think that when I was younger there was a bit more of an expectation that everything should be magical and effortless and there was something wrong if it wasn't. My first big dick was not that, but I am glad that I kept on trying.

I don't know about magical, but my experiences with genuinely big dicks have been something close to effortless. It usually becomes clear after a thrust or three that if he keeps at it for a decent length of time, an orgasm is going to happen, even in the unlikely event that I didn't want it to happen.

Over the years, I've read plenty of women say some version of "it's not the size that matters as much as how he uses it". I don't necessarily disagree with that, but I know that in my case, a big one will have me responding even if he's clueless. Hell, I hooked up with one such dude ages ago, and I know for a fact that I was his first. He was winging it this first time, so he didn't really know 'how' to use it, but he still was able to make me come twice.

 

[luckyseven]

I don't pretend to be an anatomy expert, but as I understand it the cervix is not strictly at the end of the vaginal canal in the way that the base of a bottle is at the end of the bottle (i.e. straight ahead). It is actually on the side of the vaginal canal near its base - sort of a 90 degree turn towards the front of the body right near the end of the vaginal canal. So it isn't a forgone conclusion that a large dick will slam into the cervix. If positioned right it will slip past the cervix and push up against the base of the canal. I find that point too be pleasurable, and I don't mind some pressure on the cervix (but not slamming right into it), but you really need the right angle and rhythm which requires a guy who knows what he is doing and a woman who has figured out that aspect of her own body.

Absolutely correct.

The vaginal fornix is a crucial part of the female reproductive system. It refers to the upper end of the vagina, where it meets the cervix. During sexual intercourse, the fornices can expand to accommodate larger penises during penetration, and it also serves as a storage area for sperm after intercourse.

During sexual intercourse in the missionary position, the tip of the penis reaches the anterior fornix, while in the rear-entry position it reaches the posterior fornix.

The vaginal fornix consists of a series of recesses or pockets that surround the cervix. These fornices are named based on their location in relation to the cervix. Each fornix has a slightly different shape and depth, allowing for flexibility and movement during sexual activity.

1 Anterior Fornix

Located towards the front of the vagina and closest to the pubic bone. It is often called the “deep spot” or the “A-spot” due to its sensitivity and potential for pleasurable sensations.

2. Posterior Fornix

Is the back part of the vaginal fornix, which is situated towards the rear of the body close by the G-Spot. It is closer to the cul-de-sac/rectum and can also be pleasurable to stimulate during certain sexual activities.

3. Lateral Fornices

Located on each side of the cervix, they form a circular shape around it. These fornices can also be stimulated during sexual activity and play a role in providing pleasure and support.

Sometimes, the body of the fornices is referred to in two parts: the anterior (in the front) and the posterior fornix (towards the back). But what’s its function? Interestingly, the posterior part is shaped in a way that’s conducive to getting you pregnant. Its pocket-like shape allows your body to catch and retain ejaculated semen at the back of the vagina.

The semen can hang out in the posterior fornix for up to 20-30 minutes, after which it liquefies. This makes it easier for semen to be absorbed into the cervical canal.

The Anterior is also known as the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (AFE) or A-spot. Located at the top of the vaginal wall, studies suggest that A-spot stimulation may provide pleasure and increase lubrication, helping AFAB (assigned female at birth) individuals effectively reach orgasm. In a study, most individuals reported increased arousal and lubrication after stimulation of this spot for 10-15 minutes.

And by the way - it isn’t a ‘who can get the furthest’ competition. Some women don’t actually like that degree of penetration.

 

[policywank]

I don't know about magical, but my experiences with genuinely big dicks have been something close to effortless. It usually becomes clear after a thrust or three that if he keeps at it for a decent length of time, an orgasm is going to happen, even in the unlikely event that I didn't want it to happen.

Over the years, I've read plenty of women say some version of "it's not the size that matters as much as how he uses it". I don't necessarily disagree with that, but I know that in my case, a big one will have me responding even if he's clueless. Hell, I hooked up with one such dude ages ago, and I know for a fact that I was his first. He was winging it this first time, so he didn't really know 'how to use it, but he still was able to make me come twice.

For me it was primarily a matter of learning to relax and give direction. It wasn't long before I found what worked for me.

I think that the problem I have with the sentiment "it is not the size but how he uses it" is that it is often treated as though it is one or the other. And we like to make the silly (IMO) comparison of a guy who is well hung and doesn't know what he is doing to a guy who is average but does know what he is doing. Yes in that comparison I will pick the latter, but most times what I prefer is a guy who is well hung and does know what he is doing.

As I have said many times here. Size isn't everything. It isn't even one of the most important things. But it isn't utterly irrelevant. The possibilities aren't limited to a binary choice of its is all important or of no consequence at all.

To the extent that it is relevant it isn't a linear matter of bigger is always better - most women have a range of preference. And in my purely anecdotal experience the vast majority of women will tell you that they prefer a range close to the statically average size of the male penis or a range somewhere above the average size with very few preferring a range below average. So the weighted preference across a population of women is somewhere above average.

And to the extent that some of us prefer substantially larger than average, yes I know that they are not all that common. But that doesn't make them as rare as hen's teeth. Nor does it change the fact that I like them. I'd guess that there are a larger proportion of women who like XL cocks than there are men who have XL cocks, so those dudes get a lot of action as long as they aren't ugly or assholes and are attentive lovers.

Furthermore, for those of us that like them I think that cock size rates higher in importance for a casual relationship or sex primarily for pleasure than it does in a long-term mate. So yes there is a decent chance that your wife fucked a few XL cocks before settling down with your more modest cock. And if she cheats or you have an open relationship she is quite likely to seek out a larger cock. I know that seems unfair to lots of guys, but it isn't really so different from the way guys seek one thing when they are sowing their wild oats and another when they are looking for a life mate.

 

[RawDad]

My wife is small, 5'2, and would often find my size difficult when we were first having sex, we started young, but it took patience and practice and we made it work, and it's been amazing ever since.

 

[Islander55]

Like so many aspects of sex I think it takes some effort on the part of both partners to find their way. And that usually requires some trial and error.

I think that when I was younger there was a bit more of an expectation that everything should be magical and effortless and there was something wrong if it wasn't. My first big dick was not that, but I am glad that I kept on trying.

It is amazing with the difference of our expectations from our younger self to our older selves. I know I started with the expectation that everything would be wonderful and I would just have to lay back and enjoy.. It did not take too long before I was introduced to the real world. For the most part sex was fun even in my early attempts but it can be so much better when both parties are willing to work at it. I really have not found too many men to be total jerks and unwilling to listen to me. It has been mostly about my being willing to let them know my desires.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

It is amazing with the difference of our expectations from our younger self to our older selves. I know I started with the expectation that everything would be wonderful and I would just have to lay back and enjoy.. It did not take too long before I was introduced to the real world. For the most part sex was fun even in my early attempts but it can be so much better when both parties are willing to work at it. I really have not found too many men to be total jerks and unwilling to listen to me. It has been mostly about my being willing to let them know my desires.

Which begs the question, why doesn’t our vaunted sex education programs teach the pleasure side of the equation?

It’s been many moons since my last formal sex ed class but it was all about proper terminology and biology, not anything remotely on how one should try to administer pleasure or receive pleasure. What I’m reading over this thread is how we were all sort of thrown into the breach with no real knowledge of how to actually please.

Maybe things have changed for the better. I somehow doubt it though.

 

[Islander55]

Which begs the question, why doesn’t our vaunted sex education programs teach the pleasure side of the equation?

It’s been many moons since my last formal sex ed class but it was all about proper terminology and biology, not anything remotely on how one should try to administer pleasure or receive pleasure. What I’m reading over this thread is how we were all sort of thrown into the breach with no real knowledge of how to actually please.

Maybe things have changed for the better. I somehow doubt it though.

Can you imagine what would happen to a teacher that tried to teach real sex education. People can get a lot of info online but it is tough to decide what is realistic and what is BS.

 

[Escierto]

Which begs the question, why doesn’t our vaunted sex education programs teach the pleasure side of the equation?

It’s been many moons since my last formal sex ed class but it was all about proper terminology and biology, not anything remotely on how one should try to administer pleasure or receive pleasure. What I’m reading over this thread is how we were all sort of thrown into the breach with no real knowledge of how to actually please.

Maybe things have changed for the better. I somehow doubt it though.

You were being sarcastic right? In most places in the United States there are concerted efforts to remove sex education completely out of the schools.

 

[Bbl87]

For me it was primarily a matter of learning to relax and give direction. It wasn't long before I found what worked for me.

I think this has been my biggest hurdle with my wife. As I'm sure I've mentioned in passing I'm not packing a monster but my girth is relatively rare, statistically speaking, so as far as size I'm fine.

But lack of communication about what feels good in the moment, what might feel better, what she wants me to try, etc. has been a huge hurdle for sex in my marriage. I've learned to read her body language and reactions fairly well, but sometimes she'll let me go on for minutes with something that's not doing it for her. I don't get why, because it's wasting our time, but is what it is. Not saying I need her to be a screamer, but I imagine things could be soooo much better with a little communication.

 

[dave's thing]

I think this has been my biggest hurdle with my wife. As I'm sure I've mentioned in passing I'm not packing a monster but my girth is relatively rare, statistically speaking, so as far as size I'm fine.

But lack of communication about what feels good in the moment, what might feel better, what she wants me to try, etc. has been a huge hurdle for sex in my marriage. I've learned to read her body language and reactions fairly well, but sometimes she'll let me go on for minutes with something that's not doing it for her. I don't get why, because it's wasting our time, but is what it is. Not saying I need her to be a screamer, but I imagine things could be soooo much better with a little communication.

It's true with most things in a relationship

 

[Bbl87]

It's true with most things in a relationship

Very true.

 

[Briant23232323]

Any cock is too big if he doesn’t take the time to open me first. Otherwise? Not really. But is it really about the cock? Or is it the way he grabs my hips and pulls me onto his shaft…?

Definitely the way he grabs your hips…size is a bonus though!