Cock Talk

[hotwords229_A]

That's what I thought. The photo at the start of the post is of a woman, and it begins by saying, "Men need to cum frequently for prostate health. Do women have an equivalent of that?" So it reads like that is introducing all the following questions, as though they are being addressed to women.

Well, yes, but see above: it reads like you're posing the questions to women specifically.

How can you talk about cocks without mentioning vaginas?

If I went in the shower then I’d have a time and place to cum.

This is probably the best answer!

It has been my experience that any questions in Cock Talk are both odd and normal for here at the same time...

By now, everyone knows about 'shrinkage'. A dip in a cold pool does make a cock shrink down to its tiniest as well as make the scrotum pull up tight against (into?) the body. Guys, let's say you jumped right out of a chilly pool and onto a room temperature mattress in a quiet and private room. Compared to, say, right after a hot shower, would it take a lot longer to go from zero to ejaculation if you decided to masturbate? Does it take a while to get that thing working again?

Yes. My balls need to warm up and stop hiding to get everything moving again. It doesn’t take long, but definitely needs a minute to warm up.

 

[dontneedone]

By now, everyone knows about 'shrinkage'. A dip in a cold pool does make a cock shrink down to its tiniest as well as make the scrotum pull up tight against (into?) the body. Guys, let's say you jumped right out of a chilly pool and onto a room temperature mattress in a quiet and private room. Compared to, say, right after a hot shower, would it take a lot longer to go from zero to ejaculation if you decided to masturbate? Does it take a while to get that thing working again?

Maybe a few extra seconds. But in similar situations like this I can get hard again pretty quick.

If it would take me five minutes to jerk off, this would take me 6 1/2.

 

[BongoGal]

How can you talk about cocks without mentioning vaginas?

Very easily?

 

[Ricardus]

Orgasms help with cramp relief and I believe headache but now I’m intrigued. There must be more reasons.

These are interesting. I have known people for whom that was true and others for whom they made it worse.

I just deal with it and get needier and needier.
Sometimes I will lean into it and help other people cum and just build the tension more.

That's an interesting thought. So if you're in a situation where you can't release yourself, you'll sometimes make a point of talking to a friend online who can, and use that to intensify your own need for later?

If I went in the shower then I’d have a time and place to cum.

If that's the case, that means you have the basic opportunity at least once a day, hopefully

Both. I will often masturbate after sex because I didn’t orgasm during. Sometimes he wants to be involved but usually I am on my own. Why hide that.

This is so strange to me. I can't imagine leaving a partner in that state and not feeling a deep need to take care of her myself. In this scenario, he is still there, so there hasn't been some sudden emergency he had to deal with.

So first, I can't think why I couldn't take care of her myself, given that we've just been having sex. But if there were some reason, how could you not even be involved? Are you saying he just rolls over and leaves you to get on with it, laying next to you but not even paying attention, talking to you, anything?

I can get not hiding that but at the same time, it just seems so surreal to be masturbating in the same room as someone who knows what you're doing and is ignoring it.

 

[MindYaBitness]

All horned up and no place to blow

According to some research, a man needs to blow his wad on a regular basis to keep a happy, shiny, good-as-new prostate. But is there a female equivalent to this? Is there a specific physical benefit to a female orgasm?
How often do you need to orgasm to stay normal?
When you can’t orgasm due to circumstances, do you have a go-to method of dealing with it?
Do cold showers work?
Are your orgasms generally more intense when masturbating or having sex?
If in a sexless relationship, do you masturbate on the sly, or just go to town on yourself in the bed next to your partner?
Do you masturbate in the same position every time, or do you mix it up?
Have you ever masturbated in nature?
Are you too reliant on masturbation?

*I feel like I should preface my answers by saying I have a natural mix of hormones that makes me a touch hypersexual. My OBGYN said that she doesn't know if at she should be jealous or pity me

According to some research, a man needs to blow his wad on a regular basis to keep a happy, shiny, good-as-new prostate.

Last year my spouse came home from his urologist with a prescription for bi-weekly orgasms. Best script I've ever seen!

But is there a female equivalent to this? Is there a specific physical benefit to a female orgasm?

Yes, endorphins & oxytocin are released, immune system is boosted, etc. Plus, I'm not an angsty bitch if I get them regularly.

How often do you need to orgasm to stay normal?

Once or twice a day. Three if I can manage.

When you can’t orgasm due to circumstances, do you have a go-to method of dealing with it?

Call my mom. I adore her, but she is the best boner killer that ever lived.

Do cold showers work?

Nope. Then I just start imagining who is love to have in that shower with me

Are your orgasms generally more intense when masturbating or having sex?

With someone in person or on cam, definitely a bit more intense than just me & my imagination.

If in a sexless relationship, do you masturbate on the sly, or just go to town on yourself in the bed next to your partner?

On the sly. He likes watching me, so it's sometimes a together thing, but usually I'm sneaking around to get my quota.

Do you masturbate in the same position every time, or do you mix it up?

Usually same position, though I've switched it up out of necessity or boredom before

Have you ever masturbated in nature?

Once or twice

Are you too reliant on masturbation?

Somewhat. My partner is addicted to his work, and his drive doesn't match mine. I could stand there stark naked, wet & ready and he'd bolt the moment duty calls. If not for masterbation & online play, I'd spontaneously combust from sheer frustration. I don't have much of a choice.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Very easily?

To me, they go hand in hand. Or cock in hand. Or cock in vagina.

 

[Wand3rlust]

That is the part that both baffles me and makes me incredibly sad. For me, that joy of learning and discovery is so amazing, so much of what makes sex enjoyable. Asking a woman to show me how to make love to her, what she wants, needs, fantasizes, desires...all of that is such a wonder and a joy to me. Maybe it is just me. I had a person on here tell me that she had never had a partner who was so interested in knowing her, what made her tick. I would think that, given where we are, that would be even more prevalent, but I don't know.

This is not uncommon...

I've never had a partner who truly listened to me.

 

[UnquietDreams]

This is not uncommon...

I've never had a partner who truly listened to me.

Then I am truly sad for them.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Yes! This!

That's why sex and orgasm when you are menstruating is so good. I always enjoyed it.

Some men are so squeamishly pathetic.

 

[justanotherguy80]

That's why sex and orgasm when you are menstruating is so good. I always enjoyed it.

Some men are so squeamishly pathetic.

Sex during menstruation generally needs to be a bit different. I’m not squeamish, but I’m not going full Saltburn either.

It’s definitely not off the agenda though and I’m not put off by it at all.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Then I am truly sad for them.

Fuck them, I'm sad for me.

 

[lavendersilk]

Sex during menstruation generally needs to be a bit different. I’m not squeamish, but I’m not going full Saltburn either.

I didn't need to remember that scene. *goes and watches the ending*

 

[Ricardus]

That's why sex and orgasm when you are menstruating is so good. I always enjoyed it.

Some men are so squeamishly pathetic.

I have had partners who found it helped cramps, and ones who found it exacerbated them, plus one or two (briefly) who didn't know because they were so squeamish about it themselves that they had never tried.

With those, I always felt bad that I couldn't help them in the way that seemed most natural to me, but the former always seemed to have had bad experiences in the past with squeamish partners. I never understood how such a normal healthy part of being a woman could make a man not want to be intimate with her.

 

[lavendersilk]

I have had partners who found it helped cramps, and ones who found it exacerbated them, plus one or two (briefly) who didn't know because they were so squeamish about it themselves that they had never tried.

With those, I always felt bad that I couldn't help them in the way that seemed most natural to me, but the former always seemed to have had bad experiences in the past with squeamish partners. I never understood how such a normal healthy part of being a woman could make a man not want to be intimate with her.

Not all girls want to have sex on their period. Sometimes just snuggling in bed with a heating pad is fun.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Sex during menstruation generally needs to be a bit different. I’m not squeamish, but I’m not going full Saltburn either.

It’s definitely not off the agenda though and I’m not put off by it at all.

I've not seen it.

For me, I get that. I may not agree, but I get it.

 

[justanotherguy80]

I've not seen it.

For me, I get that. I may not agree, but I get it.

I’ve been telling you to watch it for months now!

I’ve been with women who are more horny when they’re on their period and those who say it’s when they feel the least sexy.

I guess it’s like a lot of things and there’s no right or wrong answer. Just listen to your partner and figure out what works for you both.

 

[Ricardus]

Not all girls want to have sex on their period. Sometimes just snuggling in bed with a heating pad is fun.

Oh, sure. If she simply isn't feeling it, that's a different thing, and there is never a time I am not happy to cuddle. The part I don't get is being repulsed by a normal part of a woman's body and sexuality.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I’ve been telling you to watch it for months now!

I’ve been with women who are more horny when they’re on their period and those who say it’s when they feel the least sexy.

I guess it’s like a lot of things and there’s no right or wrong answer. Just listen to your partner and figure out what works for you both.

Of course. Horses for courses and all that.

I have always been - I've got a headache. Orgasm will help. Period cramps, orgasm will help... even if you need to be more gentle with sex etc... but .. it can still feel good. But that's me.

 

[Ricardus]

Of course. Horses for courses and all that.

I have always been - I've got a headache. Orgasm will help. Period cramps, orgasm will help... even if you need to be more gentle with sex etc... but .. it can still feel good. But that's me.

Sounds like a fine approach!

And yes, it seems if she has been cramping badly, I've needed to take her more gently, at least for some time, or it could be too uncomfortable otherwise for her to enjoy and get where she needed to go. But that's hardly a problem

 

[hotoldrguy]

By now, everyone knows about 'shrinkage'. A dip in a cold pool does make a cock shrink down to its tiniest as well as make the scrotum pull up tight against (into?) the body. Guys, let's say you jumped right out of a chilly pool and onto a room temperature mattress in a quiet and private room. Compared to, say, right after a hot shower, would it take a lot longer to go from zero to ejaculation if you decided to masturbate? Does it take a while to get that thing working again?

Takes a couple more minutes to get going.

 

[Photog1rl]

These are interesting. I have known people for whom that was true and others for whom they made it worse.

I can only speak from personal experience.

That's an interesting thought. So if you're in a situation where you can't release yourself, you'll sometimes make a point of talking to a friend online who can, and use that to intensify your own need for later?

Yes. I consider myself a pleasure seeker. While an orgasm is the end goal it does not need to be mine. Also, I love to edge and let things build. If the situation does not allow for me to have an orgasm I willl work to get a partner there.

If that's the case, that means you have the basic opportunity at least once a day, hopefully

The point here was that if I want to orgasm but couldn't taking a cold shower wouldn't help because then I could just play and cum in the shower.

This is so strange to me. I can't imagine leaving a partner in that state and not feeling a deep need to take care of her myself. In this scenario, he is still there, so there hasn't been some sudden emergency he had to deal with.

So it may just be that this is a sensitive topic for me but it does no good and actually feels kind of shitty to have someone say they can't
imagine it. You don't have to imagine it and unfortunately I don't either. It is a lived experience.

So first, I can't think why I couldn't take care of her myself, given that we've just been having sex. But if there were some reason, how could you not even be involved?

We used to have a very satisfying sex life where we both cared about each others pleasure. That is not always the case now. If he is only focused on his pleasure I don't want him involved.

Are you saying he just rolls over and leaves you to get on with it, laying next to you but not even paying attention, talking to you, anything?

Yep. That is what I am saying. And yep it feels as fucked up and shitty as it sounds.

I can get not hiding that but at the same time, it just seems so surreal to be masturbating in the same room as someone who knows what you're doing and is ignoring it.

Why the heck should I hide or leave my space because he doesn't care or I don't want him involved.

I want to take the time to address something that is bothering me. Again, I know this is a sensitive topic for me and I have chosen to share but your comments, about me and others, feel slightly judgemental and or
mansplainy. I don't think you mean them to but please remember there are real people sharing openly and honestly on the other side of the screen.

 

[Indie]

@Indie can confirm. She said my vag is tiny like my nipples

It's just so... so...petite

 

[justanotherguy80]

I have always been - I've got a headache. Orgasm will help. Period cramps, orgasm will help... even if you need to be more gentle with sex etc... but .. it can still feel good. But that's me.

I’m picking up on a theme here…

 

[hotoldrguy]

I can only speak from personal experience.

Yes. I consider myself a pleasure seeker. While an orgasm is the end goal it does not need to be mine. Also, I love to edge and let things build. If the situation does not allow for me to have an orgasm I willl work to get a partner there.

The point here was that if I want to orgasm but couldn't taking a cold shower wouldn't help because then I could just play and cum in the shower.

So it may just be that this is a sensitive topic for me but it does no good and actually feels kind of shitty to have someone say they can't
imagine it. You don't have to imagine it and unfortunately I don't either. It is a lived experience.

We used to have a very satisfying sex life where we both cared about each others pleasure. That is not always the case now. If he is only focused on his pleasure I don't want him involved.

Yep. That is what I am saying. And yep it feels as fucked up and shitty as it sounds.

Why the fuck should I hide or leave my space because he doesn't care or I don't want him involved.

I want to take the time to address something that is bothering me. Again, I know this is a sensitive topic for me and I have chosen to share but your comments, about me and others, feel slightly judgemental and or
mansplainy. I don't think you mean them to but please remember there are real people sharing openly and honestly on the other side of the screen.

I can tell this is a sensitive subject for you. Thank you for sharing.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Not all girls want to have sex on their period. Sometimes just snuggling in bed with a heating pad is fun.

For me it's timing.
Before I got the coil fitted I had horrendous periods. Like almost two weeks of misery. Add the week of headaches, mood swings and bloating beforehand and I was the spokeswoman for "not tonight dear"
But after the first few days were done sex could feel amazing and, despite his many, many faults, my ex never had an issue with squeamishness.

Now, thankfully, that horror show is over and orgasms and even just masturbating without finishing can do wonders for pain relief but not on the first day. That's a hands off zone.