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It's control for me. Not pain. Sensations.
I never understood the pain is pleasure thing.
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It's control for me. Not pain. Sensations.
Me too.
I never understood the pain is pleasure thing.
I hate my nipples being touched.Me too.
Heat, cold, soft, hard - make my senses come alive.
But each to their own.
Gosh forbid a girl just wants to be smacked a lil’ bit, geeeeeezus
I never understood the pain is pleasure thing.
All these years of therapy trying to forget that first job interview of mine and move on with my life and you just have to go and reopen those wounds!
And before you ask.....NO. I didn't even get the job.All these years of therapy trying to forget that first job interview of mine and move on with my life and you just have to go and reopen those wounds!
FUCK!
Dude. You should probably get you some quality time with @TotallyNotTaegulAnd before you ask.....NO. I didn't even get the job.
FUCK!
Who do you think I lost the job opportunity to?Dude. You should probably get you some quality time with @TotallyNotTaegul
I was going through a rough patch and for only access to my bank account she really … comforted me.
I mean, did you know who you were up against? You should have just … pulled out of the interview.Who do you think I lost the job opportunity to?
FUCK!
It's like ripping the band-aid right off the wound again and again!
Oooooh! A question I can answer!

More on the dominant side for sure. But most definitely not a DOM.Are you sexually more dominant or submissive?
I don’t really think about it. Sex to me is much more about pleasing each other, so if my partner wants me to take control I’m more than happy to do so, but I’m also ready for her to take the initiative and do what she wants in the moment. But I will also be telling her what I want her to do when the time is right.Do you switch from one to the other or always the same?
Nope.Is your daily persona the opposite of your sexual self? (Are you a power CEO by day, Dungeon submissive by night, etc.?)
LolDo you top from the bottom, bottom from the top, like to be in the middle, or what? Also, what does any of that mean?
Never had any interest in whips or chains. But the mental power exchange stuff is fun.How dominant/submissive do you get—are we talking whips and chains, or do you just like being in or out of control?
I know what I want. Hopefully I’ve learned what she wants.What do you like about being the dominant one?
Nothing.What do you like about being the submissive one?
Depends.Generally speaking, do you consider the person giving the blowjob to be in control, or the person getting the blowjob to be in control?
None.What submissive act makes you the most curious?
Why a sub is a sub. Which doesn’t really answer the question I suppose.What dominating act makes you the most curious?
See above. Though I intellectually understand it, but my own brain space is too far away to get it.What questions do you have about Dom/Sub stuff?
This is the part I never seem to wrap my head around.But the mental power exchange stuff is fun.
I have always been more submissive. I've been doing a lot of thinking about this lately. I think some of it has to do with being a people-pleaser. I get joy from giving, and being submissive is a way of giving of myself.
I have no interest in switching. But I'm also happy being an equal.Do you switch from one to the other or always the same?
I have also felt like this plays into things. I am not a power CEO, but I do like control and order. I wonder if this plays into the joy of relinquishing controlIs your daily persona the opposite of your sexual self? (Are you a power CEO by day, Dungeon submissive by night, etc.?)
Do I want a spanking? That's how one gets a spanking.Do you top from the bottom, bottom from the top, like to be in the middle, or what? Also, what does any of that mean?
Um, well, um.... whips, no. crops? canes? belts? yes. red marks, welts, bruises, yes, it's happened. Chains? ummm, technically... I guess I'd have to say yes.How dominant/submissive do you get—are we talking whips and chains, or do you just like being in or out of control?
N/AWhat do you like about being the dominant one?
I enjoy being fully in the moment with someone I trust. I enjoy giving myself freely to him. I enjoy the feeling of being completely and fully engaged that comes from letting go.What do you like about being the submissive one?
Um, yes. Isn't that the beauty of it?? The giver is in control and it's fanfuckingtastic. The receiver is in control and it's fanfuckingtastic.Generally speaking, do you consider the person giving the blowjob to be in control, or the person getting the blowjob to be in control?
The 24/7 lifestyle. How is that possible? I've never understood that.What submissive act makes you the most curious?
Is it difficult to balance love and dominance?What dominating act makes you the most curious?
Those are my current questions...What questions do you have about Dom/Sub stuff?

I’m a writtle itty bitty submissive, of courseAre you sexually more dominant or submissive?
Never!!! Could you imagine what Daddytron2000maximus AlphaDo you switch from one to the other or always the same?
Alright alright, I’ll answer semi-seriously and drop the bit.Is your daily persona the opposite of your sexual self? (Are you a power CEO by day, Dungeon submissive by night, etc.?)
If the dynamic is right, I’m topping from the mental.Do you top from the bottom, bottom from the top, like to be in the middle, or what? Also, what does any of that mean?
So submissive I’ve wondered if I shouldn’t just throw those silly fluffy little labels away and just call myself a masochist but that’s not as cute and girlyHow dominant/submissive do you get—are we talking whips and chains, or do you just like being in or out of control?
Seeing them all squirmy.What do you like about being the dominant one?
Being made to squirm.What do you like about being the submissive one?
I’ve never put a single thing in my mouth that I didn’t intend being in there - from the questionable leaves that sprouted from my grandparents garden where my sister and I buried a dead bird to the cock of a man’s last name I never bothered to learn.Generally speaking, do you consider the person giving the blowjob to be in control, or the person getting the blowjob to be in control?
Yea, so first of allllll, what is wrong with you/me/us?What questions do you have about Dom/Sub stuff?
In other words, there’s no physical control, it’s all through words. Others can probably describe it better.This is the part I never seem to wrap my head around.
What is a mental power exchange?
These might be some of, if not the best responses I've seen on Lit threads, to date!View attachment 2595283
I’m a writtle itty bitty submissive, of course
Never!!! Could you imagine what Daddytron2000maximus Alphawould think of me like, hulking out like that?!!!! soooo super mega embarrassing
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Alright alright, I’ll answer semi-seriously and drop the bit.
I’m the decision maker in nearly every aspect of my life, soooooooooo yea. That’s the complete opposite of what I’m seeking in a power exchange dynamic. Which gets trickyyyyy becauseeeeee ↯
If the dynamic is right, I’m topping from the mental.
and if the dynamic is dynamic-ing, he’s doing the same. We’re constantly toppling each other off the pedestal, competing and struggling to maintain that control.
and then there are the rare occasions I let him win, or he lets me win. Sometimes we both lose. It’s the risk of the game
So submissive I’ve wondered if I shouldn’t just throw those silly fluffy little labels away and just call myself a masochist but that’s not as cute and girly
Seeing them all squirmy.
Being made to squirm.
I’ve never put a single thing in my mouth that I didn’t intend being in there - from the questionable leaves that sprouted from my grandparents garden where my sister and I buried a dead bird to the cock of a man’s last name I never bothered to learn.
It doesn’t mean they were smart decisions, but I was definitely in control. #yolo
Yea, so first of allllll, what is wrong with you/me/us?
View attachment 2595283
I’m a writtle itty bitty submissive, of course
Never!!! Could you imagine what Daddytron2000maximus Alphawould think of me like, hulking out like that?!!!! soooo super mega embarrassing
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Alright alright, I’ll answer semi-seriously and drop the bit.
I’m the decision maker in nearly every aspect of my life, soooooooooo yea. That’s the complete opposite of what I’m seeking in a power exchange dynamic. Which gets trickyyyyy becauseeeeee ↯
If the dynamic is right, I’m topping from the mental.
and if the dynamic is dynamic-ing, he’s doing the same. We’re constantly toppling each other off the pedestal, competing and struggling to maintain that control.
and then there are the rare occasions I let him win, or he lets me win. Sometimes we both lose. It’s the risk of the game
So submissive I’ve wondered if I shouldn’t just throw those silly fluffy little labels away and just call myself a masochist but that’s not as cute and girly
Seeing them all squirmy.
Being made to squirm.
I’ve never put a single thing in my mouth that I didn’t intend being in there - from the questionable leaves that sprouted from my grandparents garden where my sister and I buried a dead bird to the cock of a man’s last name I never bothered to learn.
It doesn’t mean they were smart decisions, but I was definitely in control. #yolo
Yea, so first of allllll, what is wrong with you/me/us?
The website would implodeeeee, Catshould we wreck some mayhem in the world together?
The website would implodeeeee, Cat
Feminine divine and intervention and then, maybe just then, the world could begin to heal!!