Cock Talk

[Taegul]

Please continue, ladies.

 

[Endless_Night]

Wow. I was going to respond the questions, but after that @EvaLane and @Cat exchange anything I could say would be wildly anticlimactic.

So.

Maybe tomorrow.

 

[Apisto42]

Wow. I was going to respond the questions, but after that @EvaLane and @Cat exchange anything I could say would be wildly anticlimactic.

So.

Maybe tomorrow.

Well, I suppose that’s one way to ruin my orgasm.

See, this is why I much prefer to be in control.

 

[hotwords229_A]

The 24/7 lifestyle. How is that possible? I've never understood that.

That sounds like way too much work!

and if the dynamic is dynamic-ing, he’s doing the same. We’re constantly toppling each other off the pedestal, competing and struggling to maintain that control.

and then there are the rare occasions I let him win, or he lets me win. Sometimes we both lose. It’s the risk of the game

Now this I understand.

 

[EyesOnHers]

Ooo, I want to play this one...

DOM! These Subs are hot!

Are you sexually more dominant or submissive?

Definitely submissive

Do you switch from one to the other or always the same?

Variety is the spice of life... so happy to switch Also, sometimes a girl just needs a cuddlefuck

Is your daily persona the opposite of your sexual self? (Are you a power CEO by day, Dungeon submissive by night, etc.?)

Definitely. I'm a single mum and work a full -time stressful job... always having to be the decision maker. Nice to hand over the control to the right person.

Do you top from the bottom, bottom from the top, like to be in the middle, or what? Also, what does any of that mean?

Yeah, need to know what all this means too
A bit of game playing and sass before being made to submit is always fun.

How dominant/submissive do you get—are we talking whips and chains, or do you just like being in or out of control?

Might be partial to restraint. And a bit of pain can enhance the pleasure But don't go hurting me.
The CMnf is a turn on.
Ultimately, it's the not being in control.

What do you like about being the dominant one?

The feeling of unadulterated power... mwaah haa haa... just kidding!

What do you like about being the submissive one?

The anticipation of being vulnerable. That someone else has control.

Generally speaking, do you consider the person giving the blowjob to be in control, or the person getting the blowjob to be in control?

Depends whether I have tied my partner up and am teasing the hell out of them
Depends whether I am tied up and they are... erm... yeah
But, honestly, both sides should have control in any situation regardless of whatever role they are playing.

 

[Peter_Out]

I need more than a pretty body . Substance…. There’s no substitute

Any particular substance? *eyes his whisky collection*

Or do you mean more like chloroform? 'Cause that's a hard (i.e. "no", I'm not putting my hand up because I want to be the next one chloroformed!)

 

[Peter_Out]

Are you sexually more dominant or submissive?

More dominant than submissive, but I've subbed in the past, for funsies. I'm not a "dom" though, really. Maybe a "pleasure-dom".

Do you switch from one to the other or always the same?

Almost always the same, because my partner is very much the opposite.

Is your daily persona the opposite of your sexual self? (Are you a power CEO by day, Dungeon submissive by night, etc.?)

As far as I know I'm always just me.

Do you top from the bottom, bottom from the top, like to be in the middle, or what? Also, what does any of that mean?

I possibly topped from the bottom when I "subbed". I don't know. I can't really just ignore that part of that wants the control, no matter how hard* I try.

* Oh stop sniggering at the back there!

How dominant/submissive do you get—are we talking whips and chains, or do you just like being in or out of control?

Not whips, or chains, but I have occasionally tied partners up. Spanking yes, lasting marks from "instruments" no.

Generally speaking, do you consider the person giving the blowjob to be in control, or the person getting the blowjob to be in control?

I've always thought the one receiving was in control, but the more I've thought about it over the years, the more I've wondered. Next time I receive one, I'll stop her in the middle of it and ask her what she feels.

Ha! Yeah. Right. Like I'm going to stop that

What submissive act makes you the most curious?

I'm not sure "curious" is the right word, but being pegged was fun, and I'm sure many would consider that to be a submissive act.

 

[Peter_Out]

I bailed before seeing the video because it tried to verify I was human.
Why do I need IT to verify I’m human?
What am I supposed to do if it doesn’t verify?
What then shall I think of me?
I don’t need this type of existential threat on a Sunday morning.

Indeed. I already know I'm human (with the tiny possibility that I'm a Replicant), so fuck 'em.

 

[Peter_Out]

A sound policy.

I've never tried sounding, but I think my policy is similar to the one I have on chloroform!

 

[Peter_Out]

..... So, if I were not a female, straight as a female gets, without identifying as something I have not even imagined before breakfast.

I would totally..

*faints*

 

[MedicalMuse]

Any particular substance? *eyes his whisky collection*

That’s a good start

Or do you mean more like chloroform? 'Cause that's a hard (i.e. "no", I'm not putting my hand up because I want to be the next one chloroformed!)

I don’t believe chloroform would be all of that effective as an aphrodisiac

Really though, talk to me. That’s really not that hard, I don’t think

 

[EvaLane]

I don’t believe chloroform would be all of that effective as an aphrodisiac

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Are you sexually more dominant or submissive?

Dominant

Do you switch from one to the other or always the same?

I used to be a switch.. But now I'm more dominant for sure

Is your daily persona the opposite of your sexual self? (Are you a power CEO by day, Dungeon submissive by night, etc.?)

Yes/no I'm pretty controlling, but I'm passive in some degrees.

Do you top from the bottom, bottom from the top, like to be in the middle?

Lol??

How dominant/submissive do you get—are we talking whips and chains, or do you just like being in or out of control?

I like giving JOI, controlling orgasms, choosing things for him

What do you like about being the dominant one?

Taking him out of his comfort zone, and I have lived a life where I had zero say and control. As an adult, being in control heals me in a way.

What do you like about being the submissive one?

Nothing

Generally speaking, do you consider the person giving the blowjob to be in control, or the person getting the blowjob to be in control?

Equal, differently equal

 

[Endless_Night]

Well, I suppose that’s one way to ruin my orgasm.

See, this is why I much prefer to be in control.

Oh!

Uh . . . oh!

*jets*

 

[Endless_Night]

Are you sexually more dominant or submissive?
Submissive. Most definitely.

Do you switch from one to the other or always the same?
Always submissive, but I do like to reserve the right to tease my partner into action.

Is your daily persona the opposite of your sexual self? (Are you a power CEO by day, Dungeon submissive by night, etc.?)
'Tis.

Do you top from the bottom, bottom from the top, like to be in the middle, or what? Also, what does any of that mean?
I have been known to occasionally try and top from the bottom.

Okay. Maybe more than occasionally.

My submission suffers from contradictions. I want to submit. I do! But I fight it all the way. From topping from the bottom to setting up innumerable roadblocks to bolting if I start to feel insecure.

Submission to me is synonymous with vulnerability. Vulnerability is not my favorite flavor. Or even one I like to keep in the house. Nope.

(Topping from the bottom, @hotwords229_A, means a submissive trying to steer the dominant instead of letting him take control. Either overtly or through various types of manipulation.)

How dominant/submissive do you get—are we talking whips and chains, or do you just like being in or out of control?
I am not a masochist. Definitely not, though sensation, during extreme arousal, can be quite pleasurable. I am more attracted to the idea of restraint. Makes it feel more . . . helpless.

Force is a big thing for me. Whether emotional or physical. This harks back to the helpless thing.

What do you like about being the dominant one?
N/A

What do you like about being the submissive one?
The mental and physical freedom of giving up control.

Generally speaking, do you consider the person giving the blowjob to be in control, or the person getting the blowjob to be in control?
I think that is probably quite situationally dependent.

What submissive act makes you the most curious?
N/A

What dominating act makes you the most curious?
N/A

What questions do you have about Dom/Sub stuff?
I often wonder how sexual submission would play out for me in a real-time environment. My power exchange has been limited to Lit, and I rather suspect that's the only place it would work.

My sexual identity is so separate from my everyday identity it's difficult to see how they could coexist in the same space. Too, I fight it so hard. I can't imagine how that would play out a present partner. Even if I could manage the flip from one space to another it has the potential to be wildly volatile. I suppose it might calm down after a time, but that's a tough visualization.

 

[hotwords229_A]

being pegged was fun, and I'm sure many would consider that to be a submissive act.

This is similar to the blowjob question. I can see being pegged as submissive for obvious reasons, but if you put yourself in that position and you like it, aren’t you kind of still in control?
Either way . . .

Really though, talk to me. That’s really not that hard, I don’t think

I bet talking to you would make it a LOT harder.

choosing things for him

Always submissive, but I do like to reserve the right to tease my partner into action.

This is hot.

Topping from the bottom, @hotwords229_A, means a submissive trying to steer the dominant instead of letting him take control. Either overtly or through various types of manipulation.

So if you were pegging me and I was instructing “Harder, HARDER! NO WAIT! SOFTER! SOFTER!”, would that be considered topping from the literal bottom?

 

[Endless_Night]

So if you were pegging me and I was instructing “Harder, HARDER! NO WAIT! SOFTER! SOFTER!”, would that be considered topping from the literal bottom?

Well, if the pegging dynamic was set up as a Dominant/submissive situation, sure.

Or are you saying the act of penetration itself is dominant?

 

[MedicalMuse]

This is similar to the blowjob question. I can see being pegged as submissive for obvious reasons, but if you put yourself in that position and you like it, aren’t you kind of still in control?
Either way . . .

I bet talking to you would make it a LOT harder.

You bet your sweet ass

This is hot.

So if you were pegging me and I was instructing “Harder, HARDER! NO WAIT! SOFTER! SOFTER!”, would that be considered topping from the literal bottom?

 

[hotwords229_A]

You bet your sweet ass

That’s probably how I ended up in the below pegging scenario.

Well, if the pegging dynamic was set up as a Dominant/submissive situation, sure.

Or are you saying the act of penetration itself is dominant?

I don’t know. I can’t figure it out.

This is the problem with power dynamics and topping from the bottom—when it’s explained to me it makes perfect sense, but putting it into action makes it very murky.

I think the idea of “Okay, I’m going to be submissive” confuses me. As opposed to I walk in, she tackles me, pulls my pants down and goes to town and I let her—that feels more right, to me anyway.

 

[Endless_Night]

That’s probably how I ended up in the below pegging scenario. I don’t know. I can’t figure it out.

Well, for the pegging scenario, did you tell your partner you wanted to try pegging, get her to agree, and are now orchestrating the order of operations and telling her how to . . . uh, do things?

Or, was it her idea and she is in charge?

It can be confusing. If it helps, sex in general is something of a give and take as far as who takes the lead.

D/s is more orchestrated. One partner deliberately takes the lead. That mental decision creates excitement. The dynamic is deepened by the exercising of control (or lack thereof) in a physical context. The type of which is dependent on the parties involved tastes.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Well, for the pegging scenario, did you tell your partner you wanted to try pegging, get her to agree, and are now orchestrating the order of operations and telling her how to . . . uh, do things?

Or, was it her idea and she is in charge?

It can be confusing. If it helps, sex in general is something of a give and take as far as who takes the lead.

D/s is more orchestrated. One partner deliberately takes the lead. That mental decision creates excitement. The dynamic is deepened by the exercising of control (or lack thereof) in a physical context. The type of which is dependent on the parties involved tastes.

Maybe I’m more of an experimentalist? Like, let’s see where this goes even though we maybe didn’t discuss it earlier.

Maybe that’s where my Lost Tribe of Jungle Supermodels capturing me and having their way with me fantasy comes from?

 

[Endless_Night]

Maybe that’s where my Lost Tribe of Jungle Supermodels capturing me and having their way with me fantasy comes from?

Now see, I would view this as a form of consensual non consent submissiveness.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Now see, I would view this as a form of consensual non consent submissiveness.

Call it what you will. I want it!

 

[BongoGal]

Do all guys have 'penis caught in the zipper' stories?

 

[LostHorizon]

Do all guys have 'penis caught in the zipper' stories?

The damn thing gets in the way all the time!

I’ve only bruised myself once though.