BuckyDuckman
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First off, if we're going by the original definition of cuckold vs wittol, then I'm a wittol. I get so tired of people who insist being a cuckold means a BBC Bull or that I have too small of a dick or that I can't satisfy my wife . . . sorry for the rant. Then again, maybe I've got it wrong and I'm not really a cuckold? Either way, here are my answers.
1) How long have you been married?
Well over 25+ years
2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
Technically? While we were dating. We dated on & off for nearly five years before getting married and she dated lots of other guys during those five years. Sometimes, I knew about them. Sometimes, I didn't. Once we were married, she settled down to just me. A little over seven years into our marriage, we had our first threesome with another man. We tried being swingers for a bit, but she was only interested in threesomes with another guy. About three years after that first experience, she began dating without me and has ever since.
3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
Very much an ongoing thing. Of all the things I can give my wife, there's one thing that's impossible. I cannot give her the thrill of being with a new man for the first time. I can't give her the thrill of learning a new person's body and adapting to their wants, needs, and desires. I can try to touch her differently, but it will always be me doing it unless she's free to explore and experience other men.
4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
It's been both. Typically, it's someone she finds on her own. Sometimes, we'll eventually meet. Sometimes, I know only what she shares.
5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
When it's a new relationship just starting out, it feels like they meet multiple times a week and fuck like bunnies. Typically, it settles into once a week or so. A lot of it depends on their mutual schedules. They almost always meet in a hotel since we still have kids at home. Most of her boyfriends claim they are in a sexless marriage to a wife who can't have sex or has lost interest in sex, so they are technically cheating, too.
6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
While there were some rocky parts transitioning into this lifestyle, it's definitely been an improvement. My wife is significantly sexier, which is fun because she is already sexy! It's our sexy little secret. She's regularly reminded that she's an attractive woman that other men want.
7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
Yes, lots of it, although no sex on the day before or the day of a date, but after her date? I always reclaim her if I'm home. (I travel a lot with my job.) She's more spontaneous than before and much more playful. She knows her wanton ways excite me and takes advantage of that.
8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
She's happier. She feels sexier and that benefits me. The more she's getting, the more I'm getting, too. While it can be tough when she first starts dating a new guy, you just have to ride it out before that puppy-love stage fades a bit. If things in our relationship feel a bit rocky because of outside influences, she'll pull back from her hot wife ways until we're on stable ground. Like when I was going through the experience of losing my parents, she either stopped dating or did it so discreetly that I wasn't aware of it and she was ALWAYS available for me.
9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Absolutely. At times, we feel on the edge of a FLR (female-led relationship). She's much more open and insistent about what she wants and how she wants it. When she has a date, she can dress VERY provocatively, especially if her boyfriend wants that. See-thru tops, skirts without panties, or just very sexy clothing that attracts the eye.
10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
We flirt with the idea of completely exposing our relationship. I'm often confused with how much of that is fantasy play versus "let's really do it!" I know her sisters know and several of her friends, too. It's sort of exciting.
11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
Like I said, it can be tough when she first starts dating a new guy and I feel marginalized until they fall into more of a routine. Otherwise, it's been great fun and I have no reason to believe that will change.
12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
I'm not sure whose answer I'm borrowing here - but it's the best one: "Be absolutely sure that you can handle this type of lifestyle. Have times where you can discuss any issues that come up. Make it about 'her' and pleasing her needs and desires. Try not to make it about you and what you want." For us, my wife's affairs supplement us. They don't replace us. I would also add, expect it to change. Nothing is stagnant. For example, when we first started, I couldn't bear the idea of her spending an overnight with one of her boyfriends. Now? I'm fine with that.
13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
I believe it has to be a team effort. I've talked to a lot of guys who want to be cuckold because they're excited by the memes and videos. It's not like that. Parts of it can be, but you have to be honest with yourself and each other. I genuinely get off on cleaning up my wife after a date when she's hot, sweaty, and still riding the high of amazing sex with this other man. I love hearing what he did to her, what he made her do to him, and reclaiming/reconnecting with her. I also enjoy her being an expressive, sexual creature. Your mileage may vary.
1) How long have you been married?
Well over 25+ years
2) How long into your marriage before your wife cuckolded you?
Technically? While we were dating. We dated on & off for nearly five years before getting married and she dated lots of other guys during those five years. Sometimes, I knew about them. Sometimes, I didn't. Once we were married, she settled down to just me. A little over seven years into our marriage, we had our first threesome with another man. We tried being swingers for a bit, but she was only interested in threesomes with another guy. About three years after that first experience, she began dating without me and has ever since.
3) Was it a one time affair, or is it an ongoing thing?
Very much an ongoing thing. Of all the things I can give my wife, there's one thing that's impossible. I cannot give her the thrill of being with a new man for the first time. I can't give her the thrill of learning a new person's body and adapting to their wants, needs, and desires. I can try to touch her differently, but it will always be me doing it unless she's free to explore and experience other men.
4) Is her Bull, someone that you both knew prior, or a complete stranger to you?
It's been both. Typically, it's someone she finds on her own. Sometimes, we'll eventually meet. Sometimes, I know only what she shares.
5) Does your wife meet with him regularly? And where do they meet?
When it's a new relationship just starting out, it feels like they meet multiple times a week and fuck like bunnies. Typically, it settles into once a week or so. A lot of it depends on their mutual schedules. They almost always meet in a hotel since we still have kids at home. Most of her boyfriends claim they are in a sexless marriage to a wife who can't have sex or has lost interest in sex, so they are technically cheating, too.
6) Has it improved or deteriorated the bond between you and your wife? Either way, can you explain how it has?
While there were some rocky parts transitioning into this lifestyle, it's definitely been an improvement. My wife is significantly sexier, which is fun because she is already sexy! It's our sexy little secret. She's regularly reminded that she's an attractive woman that other men want.
7) Do you and your wife still have sex? How does it differ from what it used to be like?
Yes, lots of it, although no sex on the day before or the day of a date, but after her date? I always reclaim her if I'm home. (I travel a lot with my job.) She's more spontaneous than before and much more playful. She knows her wanton ways excite me and takes advantage of that.
8) What benefits/fears has her affair(s) created? Does she support you emotionally when you are in need?
She's happier. She feels sexier and that benefits me. The more she's getting, the more I'm getting, too. While it can be tough when she first starts dating a new guy, you just have to ride it out before that puppy-love stage fades a bit. If things in our relationship feel a bit rocky because of outside influences, she'll pull back from her hot wife ways until we're on stable ground. Like when I was going through the experience of losing my parents, she either stopped dating or did it so discreetly that I wasn't aware of it and she was ALWAYS available for me.
9) Has your wife changed her attitudes towards sex? Does she dress more provocatively? Does she talk more about sex?
Absolutely. At times, we feel on the edge of a FLR (female-led relationship). She's much more open and insistent about what she wants and how she wants it. When she has a date, she can dress VERY provocatively, especially if her boyfriend wants that. See-thru tops, skirts without panties, or just very sexy clothing that attracts the eye.
10) Do any other family members know about her new 'Hotwife' ways?
We flirt with the idea of completely exposing our relationship. I'm often confused with how much of that is fantasy play versus "let's really do it!" I know her sisters know and several of her friends, too. It's sort of exciting.
11) Are you happier in your marriage now, or has it put a strain on it? How do you support or encourage her?
Like I said, it can be tough when she first starts dating a new guy and I feel marginalized until they fall into more of a routine. Otherwise, it's been great fun and I have no reason to believe that will change.
12) Are there any mistakes you can warn others not to make?
I'm not sure whose answer I'm borrowing here - but it's the best one: "Be absolutely sure that you can handle this type of lifestyle. Have times where you can discuss any issues that come up. Make it about 'her' and pleasing her needs and desires. Try not to make it about you and what you want." For us, my wife's affairs supplement us. They don't replace us. I would also add, expect it to change. Nothing is stagnant. For example, when we first started, I couldn't bear the idea of her spending an overnight with one of her boyfriends. Now? I'm fine with that.
13) Would you advise others to take up the cuckold lifestyle, if given the chance?
I believe it has to be a team effort. I've talked to a lot of guys who want to be cuckold because they're excited by the memes and videos. It's not like that. Parts of it can be, but you have to be honest with yourself and each other. I genuinely get off on cleaning up my wife after a date when she's hot, sweaty, and still riding the high of amazing sex with this other man. I love hearing what he did to her, what he made her do to him, and reclaiming/reconnecting with her. I also enjoy her being an expressive, sexual creature. Your mileage may vary.
