Cyber/phone sex - Does it do it for you or does it leave you cold?

[reignophelia]

Never cybered, but had a long distance boyfriend in my late teens/early twenties. Phone was done, but boring.

I'm at a point now where I know what I want, and I'm determined to get it.

I need warm flesh in my hands, someone real, and tangible to wear me out.
There is something to be said for human touch.

 

[activelysexual]

The delight of warm lustful flesh, meeting in unison, must always be the ideal. Though, like most things in life, the ideal isn't always acheivable and so it's good to have alternatives.

 

[scorpio4uok]

Discreet phone sex is nice, as is webcam fun. Im easy going to accept both as I havent had sex for 4 years so the above two is my only outlet

 

[Casey]

Leave me cold? Not.

When you and your partner have a great, or even good, imaginations and distance prevents physical contact, Phone, text, even cams are a good alternative. Even if one of you is feeling too lazy to come up with a good story, it still works pretty good. It is said, and I know it to be true, sex is 90% mental. As long at you have a mentally and emotionally connected partner, it is a wonderful outlet. Have fun with the non contact. When you have physical contact, wow, you'll have an intense time.

 

[nowgirl]

Call me and we can find out.

 

[BeowulfAgate]

Call me and we can find out.

very tempting, very tempting

 

[somberReality]

I don't care for either to be honest. I prefer in person

 

[Luvkitty33]

Cyber is entertaining - personalized erotica if you will. It makes for a good story. Phone is ok for a bit, but both were never fulfilling for me.

I'm at a point now where I know what I want, and I'm determined to get it.

I need warm flesh in my hands, someone real, and tangible to wear me out.
There is something to be said for human touch.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

In the last two months, I've been exploring both cyber and phone sex for the very first time, and I've definitely enjoyed it very much. The first couple of times I did cybersex, it was fun because it was new. I didn't cum, but I loved knowing that the guy did. I haven't done it since then, though because I MUCH, MUCH prefer phone sex. I love being able to hear the guy's voice, and I LOVE having him tell me what to do to myself and then knowing what it's doing to him. Yummy!!!

The problem I'm kind of having now is that really good phone sex is making me crave......seriously crave.......the real thing. Not that I wasn't before, which is why I started with cyber and phone sex in the first place, plus it's been my way of getting a tiny taste of control and submission, but now part of me feels empty afterwards. I think I need to have the relationship or possibly be working towards that, or at least some emotion and caring between me and the person on the other end of the phone, in order to stop having the empty feeling. I don't know.....it's all very complicated in my opinion, LOL!! Some times it's been great without the empty feeling so maybe it just depends on my mood at the time?????

I probably won't stop having phone sex until I'm in a real life relationship with someone.....unless it's a long distance relationship.....because I just LOVE so many aspects of it. I do wish I could cuddle up and fall asleep in his arms afterwards, though.

"There's something to be said for human touch"..........oh so true, and oh how badly I want this!!!

Great question!!

 

[nh23]

With the advent of the internet, cheap long distance and other means "mass communication" came the advent of cybersex and phone sex.

For some of us, it is a real turn on and for others it just leaves us cold and dry.

I personally encountered cybersex for the first time way back almost 16 or so years ago when the main way of chatting was AOL and was really naive about such things. In fact, I can still recall the what lead me up to the conversation and the affect is had on me.

Phonesex and cyber to me are just extensions of reading an erotic story, instead of one author there are two and I enjoy the chance to learn about a potential partner and what buttons they reveal to me.

What say the rest of you?

I never would have said it did anything for me, but I'm starting to love it.

 

[xPinkxStarsx]

Phone sex does a whole lot more for me than Cyber sex does. When on the phone, you can hear the person and its just more intense.

 

[elusive_buttrfly]

I prefer phone sex to cyber sex, but they can be equally enjoyable given the right partner.

 

[the1eroticgoddess]

I never got into cyber, but I do phone sex for a living and I don't get anything out of it but, hey atleast I am helping other people get off and I like to talk about other's fantasy's... It is also a great industry to work for, with the right company you can make lots of money and just stay home all the time....

 

[Trinique_Fire]

I used to rely on cyber and then phone sex a lot, as a way to escape, to feel safe and secure, a way to disassociate from my life, but the more I used it, the more it became like a drug to me. When I was in the moment I was high, and when it was done, I was on a total downer. I'd become depressed and suicidal, and completely withdrawn.

I don't cyber anymore, not in the traditional sense anyway (i.e. back and forth on an IM), and phone sex has happened maybe twice in the past year.

Both times I ended it feeling empty and suicidal.

Wonder if that says something about addiction, or gives a decent argument about something like this being considered habit forming.

 

[SLUT13]

im a phone sex girl..i like to hear the voice...(voices are a big turn on for me) cyber is kinda boring to me.

 

[chelleb]

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[callinectes]

Have never cybered and have no desire to, especially with someone I don't know. Daddy and I have had phone sex when one of us has been out of town but we don't do it on a regular basis.