YourCaptor
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Dating Sucks!
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Recently I have been getting a lot of first contact messages on the dating sites, that are just,
"Hi beautiful (or sunshine, or whatever...)
Phone #
Guy's name"
I like a bit of banter before phone numbers are exchanged.
Am I being overly sensitive or is this a douchey first message?
Does this work for you guys?
"Hi beautiful (or sunshine, or whatever...)
Phone #
Guy's name"
I like a bit of banter before phone numbers are exchanged.
Am I being overly sensitive or is this a douchey first message?
Does this work for you guys?
midwestyankee
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This doesn't really apply to men because any guy on a dating site who receives a first message offering a phone number would assume that the message originated with a bot. Experience tells us that such things don't actually happen for real.
As to your first question: yes, this seems like a truly douchey message.
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Not overly sensitive.
For a first message, that isn't the way to go. But, I don't know that they were being a douche. They could have just been in a tearing hurry to get out of Mom's basement.
That just sounds weird to me.
Midwestyankee is right: As a guy, if I got a first message like that, I wouldn't call the number because I'd expect to be answered by a recording asking for credit card information.
That seems less likely with messages going to women, but I wonder what the angle is here. Perhaps those guys have Google Voice numbers or some other arrangement so that they can't be casually identified,. That could allow them to get away with the sort of broadcast contacts that we see here on Lit via PM.
I actually wouldn't answer a message like that even if I wasn't worried about phishing scams, just as I don't respond in here to the occasional PM that says, "Hi, wanna RP with me?" and nothing else. No. Who are you, why are you interested in me, and why would I be interested in you? Because you obviously haven't even taken a moment to learn something about me if you think a message like that is sufficient.
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So fucking frustrated with these type of exchanges.
After chatting for a while...
Guy "where can I see more pics of you?"
Me "I don't have enough on here?"
Guy "I'd like to see more if you don't mind ........ : )"
Me "Yeah, not interested in sending any risqué pics"
Guy "k"
First of all, I have 6 photos of myself, all recent (one from 3 days ago) three are full body shots.
Secondly, isn't there enough porn online???? For crying out loud. Do a fucking google search and fap away. Lazy ass creeper
After chatting for a while...
Guy "where can I see more pics of you?"
Me "I don't have enough on here?"
Guy "I'd like to see more if you don't mind ........ : )"
Me "Yeah, not interested in sending any risqué pics"
Guy "k"
First of all, I have 6 photos of myself, all recent (one from 3 days ago) three are full body shots.
Secondly, isn't there enough porn online???? For crying out loud. Do a fucking google search and fap away. Lazy ass creeper
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Also in my "viewed me" section was A CLOWN. Seriously, a full on, scary-ass CLOWN!!!!
Maybe it's time for another internet dating break...
Maybe it's time for another internet dating break...
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"You look so awesome. But I hate cats. Haha. Oh well. But you you are amazing. Looking at least. Haha."
Charming. Why tell a cat lover that you hate cats? This happens a lot too. I don't get it.
Charming. Why tell a cat lover that you hate cats? This happens a lot too. I don't get it.
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If you want more messages, Trying To Meet A Guy Online? Apparently, You Shouldn't Call Yourself A 'Woman'.
Speaking of cats if you follow the second link you'll find this, "Mentioning cats is fine, but mention “my cats” and you’re a weirdo."
From the second link, "The data shows that lesbians appreciate nice legs, gay men prize nice arms, and straight women and men are looking for flat stomachs above all else." I have to admit I love shapely legs but I tend to be draw to faces.
This is awful your turning into an online dating addict and I don't have to nor do I desire dating.
Edited to add:Sadly I still haven't found any advice on finding a guy worth dating.
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I almost spewed coffee...
(The Men™ became known as "The Men™" because they were both John, and people kept getting confused about which one I was talking about. It wasn't quite as delineated as your list, but yeah - both offered different things, so between the two a lot of stuff got covered.)
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My friend shared a blurt from a dating profile she was sent that I thought you could appreciate:
"I'm half Korean, half Italian, and half German..."
Math is hard. *facepalm*
"I'm half Korean, half Italian, and half German..."
Math is hard. *facepalm*
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5/4ths of people don't understand fractions.
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This is kind of interesting...
First of all, what does "respond better" mean? Does this mean the response is 31% less insulting?
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I don't think all online dating sites are as what you're describing it. Actually, I've met a lot of people who got lucky and found the love of their lives through OLD, including myself. I say it just depends on the site. On www.getlove4u.net, I got no problems at all. I'm speaking from experience so, I don't think all that you see and hear is what they seem until you try and check them out.
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I don't think all online dating sites are as what you're describing it. Actually, I've met a lot of people who got lucky and found the love of their lives through OLD, including myself. I say it just depends on the site. On www.getlove4u.net, I got no problems at all. I'm speaking from experience so, I don't think all that you see and hear is what they seem until you try and check them out.
lol...
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There's spam in my thread
NOTICE! This thread is for bitching, poor grammar, and amusing stories only. NO SPAM.
NOTICE! This thread is for bitching, poor grammar, and amusing stories only. NO SPAM.
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There's spam in my thread
NOTICE! This thread is for bitching, poor grammar, and amusing stories only. NO SPAM.
Feeling overrun by spam? Tsk tsk.
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Dear too many guys on dating sites,
Stop using the photo of "Ridiculously Photogenic Running Guy" as your photo. We're on to your lying ass. Own your ugly.
Stop using the photo of "Ridiculously Photogenic Running Guy" as your photo. We're on to your lying ass. Own your ugly.
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I kind of want to send them a message saying how handsome they are just to see if they'll admit to the fake photo.
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Would you reply to ridiculously ugly guy running?
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Well, i don't know, are his moobs bouncing?
I just completely do not get why people post fake photos on dating sites. It's so tedious as is. Isn't the whole point to DATE someone? They're going to find out you aren't who you claim to be on the first date. Why waste your time?
Well, people have been known to forgive finding out that someone wasn't exactly who they said they were... Assuming that such profiles are not spurious, I'd assume that those guys think that their chances of getting first dates by presenting themselves as themselves are much less.
