Dating Sucks!

[Sebastian_Plz]

No wonder you're having so much trouble finding someone to date.

I'll quote BiBunny to make my point!


I might add intelligently on anything. Not that those kinds of men don't exist but obviously from reading this thread not many of them are available on dating sites.

I realize you're a man and sex for most men seems to be your driving force. Like they say you think with your little head, the problem is most women, those who want men, want one who thinks with his brain.

I so thank god I'm a lesbian. Not that all lesbians are perfect, I've met my share of dumb as a box of rocks lesbians or those who are just plain bitches but over all we do want a relationship of some kind before we have amazing, mind blowing lesbian sex.

I never said I was having issues finding someone to date. Or at least, I do not believe I did...I may be mistaken. W/o sharing credentials, given my profession, appearance, and interests...yea, interaction with women, be it one time or lasting, is not something I struggle with. Rather, it is more finding the 'right' person with whom actually compliments me in attributes rather than just me 'supporting' them. Having begun the transition from casual dating to more lasting encounters/relations, that is what I have struggled with.

Dating is about having fun and meeting new people. Maybe it is possible to meet someone with whom one wants to have extended longevity with in both the legal and relation-ship sense, but I chose this forum thread only to vent on bad experiences or comment on unique encounters of such aforementioned events.

My comments are on the 'waiting' aspect associated with finding the 'right' partner for dating and/or relations. Cutting out the BS, this is a freaking sex site and most other 'dating' websites are fronts for the same. At least for the majority of the male populace. Women want the emotion (in the general sense); men want the physical (in the general sense). I am not saying that this polarization is set in stone, far from it, but one has to consider that as a motivating factor. Its puerile to think otherwise....

You are correct men and women having differing interest but in regards to me, I am not frequenting sites (this place included) with the subconscious desire or intent of sex. My belief, and its just that, is that most people here say that they want a relationship when in fact all they really care about is having 'someone' regardless of overall suitability. It is far easier to settle than to actually wade through the selection pool and find some talent. But that does not stop people from trying, as this thread and the OP are a testament to.

And a big part of that, again tying into the theme of this site, is to have 'someone' and obtain sex. Sex is a big part of relationships and to dismiss that as a priority based on either my gender or orientation is an extremely facile argument.

 

[BiBunny]

Solution? Don't date. Problem solved.

It's working out wonderfully for me. I haven't been this happy in...well, ever, now that I think about it.

 

[Loverskitten]

But then they start to smell

 

[YourCaptor]

But then they start to smell

But don't we do that anyway?

 

[Loverskitten]

But don't we do that anyway?

Yes, indeed.

 

[Dyslexicea]

But then they start to smell

I'm going to enlarge this, print and frame it with a plaque saying Wisdom by LoversKitten.

 

[Loverskitten]

Not to turn this into a man bashing thread but, hey you brought it on yourselves

 

[SailorJerry]

LMFAO!!!!!!

Not to turn this into a man bashing thread but, hey you brought it on yourselves

 

[smallgirl]

A place for bitching about dating. Please share, misery loves company

Online dating
Today a very handsome guy messaged me, "looking for someone to chill wid"
I don't care how hot you are, if you can't be bothered to spell "with", it's a NO

bahahahahaha..too funny. I sooooo needed that laugh. I've had a really crappy day and night last night over a man. Who would have ever thought it?

 

[Loverskitten]

I remember once asking a barista who worked in the same grocery store if she wanted to go find coffee after work.

"dude, I work in a starschmucks, why would you ask me for coffee?"

For once I had the wit to answer quickly; "It's an adventure. Do YOU know where to find coffee at midnight? I do, and it's a lot better than starschmucks."

"oh. uhhh..."

"just forget it."

~~~

why ever did I think that "invitation to adventure" was a good idea?

apart from my barista-ex having snagged me with a similar ploy, back when I didn't remotely care for coffee.

Haha " invitation to adventure" sounds like a scary, forced hike to remote woods.

I would have come back with "ok how about an Irish coffee?" (or for a girl, Bailey's coffee)

 

[Loverskitten]

LMFAO!!!!!!

Long time, no see. *waves tail*

 

[SailorJerry]

Long time, no see. *waves tail*

Hey Kitten.

I see I've been caught stalking your thread.

Have to catch up later.

 

[Loverskitten]

At what age do I just give up on finding a relationship, and start dating all these young boys? It seems I only get messages from boys almost half my age. They're persistent little fuckers too.

 

[drinkz]

If Query put as much effort into real life as he does trolling, maybe he would still have a marriage.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

At what age do I just give up on finding a relationship, and start dating all these young boys? It seems I only get messages from boys almost half my age. They're persistent little fuckers too.

How old are you now? Have some fun!

 

[Loverskitten]

How old are you now? Have some fun!

41 (I'm told I look younger all the time, though) Most of the guys are 21-26

I actually tried not long ago. Had a date with a 25 year old. It just wasn't working for me, don't know why?
Telling my friend about it, "he was hot, had a really nice body, sexy..... what's wrong with me?"
My friend, "maybe it's because you're dead inside"
Haha

 

[Loverskitten]

Who said that young guys aren't capable of relationships?

I did.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

41. Most of the guys are 21-26

I actually tried not long ago. Had a date with a 25 year old. It just wasn't working for me, don't know why?
Telling my friend about it, "he was hot, had a really nice body, sexy..... what's wrong with me?"
My friend, "maybe it's because you're dead inside"
Haha

If you use age as a filter, it seems it would be more of a factor. Sounds like there was no chemistry more than there is anything actually wrong with you.

I can't count the number of times I have "eh" feelings toward the people/celebrities that a group is drooling over in conversation but it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with me. Just means that I can't pretend to be attracted when I am not. There seems to be very specific things that flip my want switches and I am honestly surprised when it happens because it is so rare to truly capture and hold my attraction and attention.

Maybe it is about reaching a point where you are able to let go of the idea of someone being everything and just whole heartedly indulge? I honor your frustrations and fatigue of course, I just think you are worthy and maybe overdue for some fun. Maybe think of it as dating recess and just go outside of your norms and play a little while. The older I get, the more and more I respect the importance of stopping to take really deep breaths sometimes or even often.

 

[Loverskitten]

If you use age as a filter, it seems it would be more of a factor. Sounds like there was no chemistry more than there is anything actually wrong with you.

I can't count the number of times I have "eh" feelings toward the people/celebrities that a group is drooling over in conversation but it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with me. Just means that I can't pretend to be attracted when I am not. There seems to be very specific things that flip my want switches and I am honestly surprised when it happens because it is so rare to truly capture and hold my attention.

Maybe it is about reaching a point where you are able to let go of the idea of someone being everything and just whole heartedly indulge? I honor your frustrations and fatigue of course, I just think you are worthy and maybe overdue for some fun. Maybe think of it as dating recess and just go outside of your norms and play a little while. The older I get, the more and more I respect the importance of stopping to take really deep breaths sometimes or even often.

Great advice, thank you.

 

[YourCaptor]

How about one guy to have dinner with
Another guy to snuggle and watch movies with
Another to play kitty with
Another to play pony with
Another to meet the parents
Another to fix the house

You could call them all John and pretend they are the same guy.

 

[Loverskitten]

How about one guy to have dinner with
Another guy to snuggle and watch movies with
Another to play kitty with
Another to play pony with
Another to meet the parents
Another to fix the house

You could call them all John and pretend they are the same guy.

I WISH!!!!!!!!!! I can't even get a guy to actually show up to meet me though.... so ummm yeah.

 

[Dyslexicea]

I WISH!!!!!!!!!! I can't even get a guy to actually show up to meet me though.... so ummm yeah.

Which make me wonder is it dating that suck or just guys?

If you asked me out I'd show up. I've been known to actually have a conversation other than just talk about myself and if treated just right I purrrrrrrrr.

 

[Loverskitten]

Which make me wonder is it dating that suck or just guys?

If you asked me out I'd show up. I've been known to actually have a conversation other than just talk about myself and if treated just right I purrrrrrrrr.

I've been teetering on this idea for a while. As my work friend said, "I knew it was just a matter of time"
I love the purrrs!

 

[YourCaptor]

I've been teetering on this idea for a while. As my work friend said, "I knew it was just a matter of time"
I love the purrrs!

Speaking of purrs, I am once again feeding a cat.

How do they know?
What signals do I give off that tell every damn cat in the street, free home!!

This one is huge, buff, and loud as fuck. However s/he is a total pussy. Everyday when I come home its sitting in front of the door and starts screaming like its getting anal fucked for the first time. But it won't let me touch it, even with food in my hand.

One time I sneaked up on it and touched its back, the thing rocketed straight up about 4-5 feet.

 

[Acktion]

Cats know a good sub when they smell one, YourCaptor.

On that topic, Loverskitten, speaking as a guy, anyone who would even think of dating a guy (cyber or IRL) is a masochistic sub. Time to turn in your claws and crop, pussycat.

**Note to guys prepping to respond - Seriously, would you do you or anyone even remotely like you?**