Dating Sucks!

[the captians wench]

That bad? Makes me glad to be permanently out of the dating scene and not looking to expand beyond the two of us.

Yeah, I have some horror stories.

I've met a few decent guys that I got on well with, but they all have their quarks. living 3500+ miles from me, or the married guy (open marriage), or the one who has actually managed to satisfy me for more than a few hours at a time but likes to pop in and out of my life with out warning.

And the one's I've dated that I liked, well they've all turned out to be fucktards.

I've given up again. Maybe I'm just not relationship material.

 

[waaitg]

I've given up again. Maybe I'm just not relationship material.

Just because the milk is sour is no reason to blame the fridge.

* And yes, aren't I the smooth talker. Comparing a woman to an appliance when she's already feeling down about romance.

 

[YourCaptor]

Whats your recommendation for finding peps that are at minimum willing to put up with crazy sex shit?

 

[StrayKat]

I was never fucked over like I was on CM. And not in a good way.

My own fault I suppose, telling a dom no, how dare I!

Still, I'm not fond of being afraid to walk to my car at night, so I've stayed away. Not that other sites don't have creepies, but my track record with CM just sends off too many warnings.

Sorry to hear that sweetie

I dont know, I am chatting with about 5-6 people and I met 2, all perfectly normal. The 2 I met, with one I just didnt click so nothing happened but he is genuine and pretty decent person.
The second one is even more than I asked for. I am the one that doesnt meet his needs but he adjusts to me. He is good relationship material, gentle, confident, stable and with great sense of humor, the problem is I am not. What doesnt stop him from hoping and giving me as much support as he can in things outside BDSM as well. Not so good for him but great ego boost for me and I dont feel guilty because I was completely open and honest from day one, he took the risk knowing what he is getting into.
So I got not only the Top and a teacher I was looking for but a friend in a way to.

One of the people I was chatting with stood me up, got cold feet when we were about to meet and while I admit being grumpy for a bit, I dont really expect much until I see person face to face so no big loss.

That is my summary of about 3 months on CM. Yes, I do get a fair share of idiots and wannabes too but they are easily discarded, it doesnt take long to recognize them and I deal with that type fast.
Maybe its me, I was not looking for a serious relationship but to learn and experiment. And yes, @YourCaptor, some kinky sex.
I am not very prone to get all emotional over someone I never actually saw and I dont get hooked on Mr. CyberPerfect easily, the entire online thing was hot for about 3 weeks some 12 years ago but got old for me very fast. So I guess I am lucky to be a bit of a skeptic and cynic and not looking for something complicated.

 

[the captians wench]

Just because the milk is sour is no reason to blame the fridge.

* And yes, aren't I the smooth talker. Comparing a woman to an appliance when she's already feeling down about romance.

Meh, I'm not really bitter. I might be if I took any of these guys seriously from the begining, but I haven't really. My real issue is that I don't know what I want, and I know that. I don't like defining things before they begin, I think that limits posibility, but "open to a relationship, but not nessisarily seeking one" means different things to different people. So I go through my fazes.

Well, I take that back. I do know what I want, I just don't know how to get it.

Sorry to hear that sweetie

I dont know, I am chatting with about 5-6 people and I met 2, all perfectly normal. The 2 I met, with one I just didnt click so nothing happened but he is genuine and pretty decent person.
The second one is even more than I asked for. I am the one that doesnt meet his needs but he adjusts to me. He is good relationship material, gentle, confident, stable and with great sense of humor, the problem is I am not. What doesnt stop him from hoping and giving me as much support as he can in things outside BDSM as well. Not so good for him but great ego boost for me and I dont feel guilty because I was completely open and honest from day one, he took the risk knowing what he is getting into.
So I got not only the Top and a teacher I was looking for but a friend in a way to.

One of the people I was chatting with stood me up, got cold feet when we were about to meet and while I admit being grumpy for a bit, I dont really expect much until I see person face to face so no big loss.

That is my summary of about 3 months on CM. Yes, I do get a fair share of idiots and wannabes too but they are easily discarded, it doesnt take long to recognize them and I deal with that type fast.
Maybe its me, I was not looking for a serious relationship but to learn and experiment. And yes, @YourCaptor, some kinky sex.
I am not very prone to get all emotional over someone I never actually saw and I dont get hooked on Mr. CyberPerfect easily, the entire online thing was hot for about 3 weeks some 12 years ago but got old for me very fast. So I guess I am lucky to be a bit of a skeptic and cynic and not looking for something complicated.

When I was on CM, all I was looking for was a play mate. That was clear from the begining, but either they took that to mean they could just contact me when they wanted something and keeping "dates" was optional, or after a bit they wanted to push things further and I wasn't interested (stalker guy).

But this has been a few years ago, and I'm a much stronger person than I was then. Not to mention I've had a bit more life experience, so I do pick 'em a little better.

Still, I haven't had much success. Haven't found one yet that could be honest with me. If we don't click then fine, just have the balls to say that, ya know?

 

[Loverskitten]

I think I'm going to give up...

 

[mediocre]

Just got home from drinking at a friends place. I miss coming home with a date/girlfriend/slave/someone to have sex with....grins. Could really use some "cuddle" time. Since I hardly EVER drink, this is a rare occasion.

 

[YourCaptor]

I think I'm going to give up...

http://sharemyguitar.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/YOU-LACK-discipline.jpg

 

[Loverskitten]

http://sharemyguitar.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/YOU-LACK-discipline.jpg

Yeah, yeah and I had another meh date to show for it. Bleh! He was cute but.... No, I do not want to split the check. Later

 

[YourCaptor]

Yeah, yeah and I had another meh date to show for it. Bleh! He was cute but.... No, I do not want to split the check. Later

What? Was it a good date up to that point?

As I understand it, if I ask date to split bill it indicates a meal between friends. If I pay I want more of her.

 

[Loverskitten]

Oh, he wanted more. Kept kissing me, trying to get me back to his apartment, and seriously, I had 3 cocktails and we split a dip. It's not like we went to Mastro's or anything. He just had no money, sure talked like he did though, ugh industry people.
I have NEVER been asked that, my face must have been priceless. Especially on a first date, tacky.

He was cute, there just was something off. I didn't feel chemistry, even before the check thing. Can't pin-point it though, like one of those times you go shopping and hate everything you try on. Even the bartender was picking up on it, or maybe it was the leaning away from his kisses the bartender noticed. "I'm going to mess my red lips" giggle. And he went right for the neck :\

 

[waaitg]

Meh, sounds like you made the right choice. Someone who was trying to force himself on you without getting to you. I find chemistry occurs simply by taking an interest in someone rather just going through the motions and I think that is what you are describing here.

W~

 

[Loverskitten]

And just checked CM. I see that three wieners and Charles Manson "viewed me"... yay

 

[YourCaptor]

And just checked CM. I see that three wieners and Charles Manson "viewed me"... yay

Yea, good old CM. I get a lot of old gay dudes.

Maybe I give off a vibe....

Anyway, dating I never get chemistry, ever. These days I see if I pick up on any chemistry before asking her out. I don't know how you would do that online.

Dating is just too structured, too forced. It blows.

 

[mediocre]

And just checked CM. I see that three wieners and Charles Manson "viewed me"... yay

It wasn't Charles Manson, it was Jackie Mason....

http://www.laughstub.com/images/comedians/Jackie-Mason.jpg

 

[Loverskitten]

It wasn't Charles Manson, it was Jackie Mason....

http://www.laughstub.com/images/comedians/Jackie-Mason.jpg

I wish... Hubba hubba
Nah, this guy looks exactly like Charles Manson, scary. You gotta really be a masochist I suppose. I'm too ascared to click on it.

 

[Loverskitten]

I'm going to give up and marry bacon.

 

[Kurokami]

I'm going to give up and marry bacon.

Well, congratulations: now I want to see a slab of bacon dressed up in a little tux, marrying a fried egg in a wedding dress. Now I have to go and make that happen.

 

[waaitg]

I'm going to give up and marry bacon.

I'm sorry to inform you that Bacon and I are already in love with each other. The best you can hope is to be polyamourus with Bacon (but if you have to be in poly relationship with a pig, you could do far far worse).

W~

 

[mediocre]

I'm going to give up and marry bacon.

Why marry the bacon when you can get the bacon for free?










Or something like that.

 

[waaitg]

Why marry the bacon when you can get the bacon for free?

Because unlike men, you always have to pay for Bacon.

And unlike men, Bacon is always worth paying for.

 

[mediocre]

Suddenly I want bacon for dinner.

Maybe I'll make pancakes and imbed the cooked bacon in the batter.

 

[Loverskitten]

Oh boy!

"For all you single mothers looking for your "SOULMATE"

Note to you all. The man who you had your children with was your "soulmate"

Why on earth would another man want to take on a middle age woman with kids from another man is beyond me.

Hate me for being honest but at least I wont date you, sleep with you and bail on you.

I have everything to offer a great woman. If you have made mostly good choices in your life and have something

to bring to the table, please contact me."


Would it be wrong of me to make a fake profile, lure this asshole out, and whip his ass raw?

 

[Loverskitten]

Yep I give up, at least a break is in order.

 

[SailorJerry]

Oh boy!

"For all you single mothers looking for your "SOULMATE"

Note to you all. The man who you had your children with was your "soulmate"

Why on earth would another man want to take on a middle age woman with kids from another man is beyond me.

Hate me for being honest but at least I wont date you, sleep with you and bail on you.

I have everything to offer a great woman. If you have made mostly good choices in your life and have something

to bring to the table, please contact me."


Would it be wrong of me to make a fake profile, lure this asshole out, and whip his ass raw?

LOL. Once you get him tied to the bed, pour lighter fluid on him, and flick open your kitten-themed zippo, please make sure to take a few priceless pics of his surprised face. (kidding)

Personally, I have date three single mothers.
- one dumped me because she found a better 'supporter', even though we had amazing chemistry for over a year of dating,
- one dumped me because I wasn't rough enough in bed,
- and the last one just used me for sex until I caught on.

Bitter. No, actually. I find single mothers to be much more responsible, grounded, selfless, appreciative, independent, and reasonable than their single counterparts my age, who expect the world, and Manhattan too.

If I can give some advice (and I know that you didn't ask) - if you're doing online dating, 'hide' your ad. and do your own chasing. Instead of letting all of the asshats find you. - the really good ones, tend to be a bit shy at first.

peace.