Seems he needs to get help! If my wife was as keen as you, I wouldn't need to be on Lit or anywhere else.
As crazy as it sounds, he wants me to look elsewhere. When I found Lit and other guys were on here saying they wanted their wife to have sex with another man, I learned that my husband was not alone. I read these forums for hours and hours trying to figure it all out.
It's clue to our prepatriarchal past relationship dynamics
He might want you to look elsewhere - and I'm sure you wouldn't be short of offers - but when you actually told him you had found someone, would he still feel the same way? Would he give you his blessing, want to watch or just throw you out onto the street (or worse)?
Idk, but a lot of the guys at work flirt. I told my husband about it once over a year ago, and he said I should flirt back. I told him that was not going to happen, but as time has progressed and I get to know these guys better, sometimes I do flirt back. I used to feel bad about it, but I don't feel that way anymore.
Sometimes you wish you worked in a different place ... I do now
I don't know what I am looking for anymore. I just want a normal marriage.Sometimes you wish you worked in a different place ... I do now
I'm sure one (or more) of the guys would be interested in taking things further if they knew you were looking for something "extra"
What you want is a long chat with your husband to find out what his feelings are - obviously if he's no longer interested in a relationship of any kind with you, then it's time to call it quits and look for someone new. If he is still interested and wants a "normal" relationship, you need to get to the root of the sex problem (maybe even counselling) and trust that he will make more than just an effort to keep you happy in the bedroom (and anywhere else the mood takes you). If he's happy enough with the status quo, you have a choice - cheat on him (or get his OK for you to have sex outside the marriage) or live the rest of your life getting enjoyment from your fingers and some toys ...
I'm interested why YOU aren't calling "it quits and look for someone new", if you're in a sexless relationship with no hall pass? No judgement, just curious. I understand there are many reasons people stay in unsatisfying relationships (money, kids, religions, social stigma, etc.), but I equally see people leaving to start a new, and often times find the love of their life and a fulfilling relationship.
Basically I'm a coward. Plus I would rather have something left of my bank balance and a roof over my head than being left to live in a sleeping bag under a motorway bridge
Same here it's a long story but...
You lost it or your wife did?
Somehow I have given you the wrong impression. My husband wants sex all the time. He just doesn't want intercourse.
Then I'd say it's over. A marriage without fucking at your age is unthinkable.
Exactly !
It is very liberating and exciting. My husband has basically begged me to cuckold him and I started late last year. Can’t see stopping
Now I'm confused ... how does he want sex all the time but not intercourse? Does he think he's not "big" enough or that he won't last long enough for you to get satisfaction too?
To me, that seems like a very shallow view of marriage, and it makes me think maybe our conservative upbringing was correct. Since we were virgins when we got married, we married each other for the person we are, not for the amount of pleasure we provide. i do not think anything could hurt my feelings more than to find out that my husband married me just for sex.
