"Disabled and sexy."

[WillowedCabin]

in an attempt to get some more interest in this thread here are some more pics of women in wheelchairs.




http://img166.imagevenue.com/loc335/th_76351_WChair_06_123_335lo.jpghttp://img128.imagevenue.com/loc99/th_76351_WChair_19_123_99lo.jpghttp://img229.imagevenue.com/loc567/th_76353_WChair_20_123_567lo.jpghttp://img150.imagevenue.com/loc599/th_76354_WChair_21_123_599lo.jpg
http://img169.imagevenue.com/loc906/th_76355_WChair_42_123_906lo.jpghttp://img107.imagevenue.com/loc225/th_76356_WChair_45_123_225lo.jpg

Hope everyone likes these.

I'm also wondering what reactions people have had from people they have hoked up with/started a relationship with, about their personal care i.e diapers/catheters/legbags?

This was always the hardest thing for me to bring up with a potential girlfriend. I never knew if I should mention it before we got naked or just left her deal with. What have others found worked best?

Purrrrrrrr
these pictures are HOT.

And the thing about diapers/catheters/legbags... I think you're looking at this the wrong way. Once I decided that I didn't want to be 'pretty', I ended up chopping off all my hair, piercing myself, tattooing myself, and dressing just the way I wanted. What did this accomplish? A sense of autonomy, a lovely sense of self (which may be a total dichotomy... but that's for another existentialist discussion).

Now, guys usually hesitate when near because I look different and am more interesting than pretty. I figure this is a good thing about me--a filter, if you will. It's just a way to screen out all the people that are rubbish.

So if someone unzips your pants and the first thing out of their mouth is "I don't do yellow", guess what-- You've just saved yourself a lot of heartache and stupidity for someone who isn't worth your time. I think you should be honest and open about it from the beginning. There is no need for it to be your opening line, but there is no reason to hide it!!! Why should you? You're body is a SURVIVOR. You have survived and your body has carried you to where you are now. So when someone says they're not interested in seeing your catheter, essentially they are saying, "I'm not okay with the way you get around every day."

Tell them to fuck off
and then go find someone who is going to respect you.

 

[paulthewetcd]

Purrrrrrrr
these pictures are HOT.

And the thing about diapers/catheters/legbags... I think you're looking at this the wrong way. Once I decided that I didn't want to be 'pretty', I ended up chopping off all my hair, piercing myself, tattooing myself, and dressing just the way I wanted. What did this accomplish? A sense of autonomy, a lovely sense of self (which may be a total dichotomy... but that's for another existentialist discussion).

Now, guys usually hesitate when near because I look different and am more interesting than pretty. I figure this is a good thing about me--a filter, if you will. It's just a way to screen out all the people that are rubbish.

So if someone unzips your pants and the first thing out of their mouth is "I don't do yellow", guess what-- You've just saved yourself a lot of heartache and stupidity for someone who isn't worth your time. I think you should be honest and open about it from the beginning. There is no need for it to be your opening line, but there is no reason to hide it!!! Why should you? You're body is a SURVIVOR. You have survived and your body has carried you to where you are now. So when someone says they're not interested in seeing your catheter, essentially they are saying, "I'm not okay with the way you get around every day."

Tell them to fuck off
and then go find someone who is going to respect you.

I agree 100%!

 

[dudeinachair]

Glad you guys like the pics. There are not enough sexy disability pics out there. Even on the web it seems hard to find images like this.

Guys I agree 100% with what you have said. I learned pretty early on that it was easier not to raise it as a subject until I had her naked. LOL they always seemed more willing to just work around it at that point. Thinking about it most reactions where along the lines of 'you can still have sex though right?'. Trying to explain and describe the plumbing in words was always far harder than to just show someone. A picture paints a thousand words as they say.

Even now thinking back on it I was always more worried about the incontinence side of things rather than my impotence. How weird.

I wonder if others have found that the hidden side of their disability (I don't just mean incontinence although yellow is a kink of mine) have found it easier to let some one just deal with it rather than to tell them flat out.

 

[crewchief524]

This is a great thread...one that I have been looking for for a while. I love to play online, and am always honest with the women I chat with and tell them that I am disabled. I am me and can't pretend I am someone else. The line I always use when I get the "well does it work" question is this. God may not have blessed me with a working cock....but I have 10 fingers and a tounge that doesn't quit.....

 

[JNaylor]

One of the most beautiful women I have ever met in person was in a wheelchair and appeared to not have use of her arms or legs and could not speak. She got my attention because she wanted to go into a bicycle shop but could not get in due to some steps. I could not get over how pretty she was and I developed an instant crush on her. I was married though so I didn't say anything to her but lord she was a beauty. It broke my heart because she appeared to not have much money because her clothes were worn and tattered. If I had been single I would have tried to get to know her.

 

[Anubis73]

I have a close friend with severe CP and she is very dependent on others for pretty much everything. She is also non-verbal. Her communication however is via computer and there is a very intelligent person in there. She, like most people has wants and desires but not much opportunity to act on them. I'm gonna tell her about this thread in an effort to make her more comfortable with this topic and show her that not only are there people in the same boat as her, but that there are people out there that either don't have an issue with disabilities or are actively turned on by them. Thanks guys

Nice pics as well

 

[Boundlife]

I think this thread needs a bump

 

[justabrick]

I think it needs a bump, too...!

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

as someone who was born with a disability and in a wheelchair, i find these types of threads very encouraging. i always tell people that just because someone is disabled, doesn't mean they can't be great lovers. i've tried to find wheelchair porn, but the people who are in the chairs aren't really disabled. i've only ever been sexually involved with 3 women in my life (36), but i made all of them orgasm. we may not be able to do a lot. but if you give us a chance, the ending is very rewarding.

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

This is a great thread...one that I have been looking for for a while. I love to play online, and am always honest with the women I chat with and tell them that I am disabled. I am me and can't pretend I am someone else. The line I always use when I get the "well does it work" question is this. God may not have blessed me with a working cock....but I have 10 fingers and a tounge that doesn't quit.....

it's stupid to lie. i find it more fulfilling, if i end up making friends, that they know what i can and can't do.

 

[Boundlife]

rant before I explode

I am a sexual being...not Still a sexual being
Some times I leave Lit feeiing good knowing that at my core I can be sexy...That who I am as a person is worth getting to know...
Other times I leave and it feels like I'm fooling myself...How am I suppose to meet someone when it takes so much concentration to move when I'm in my chair and my head is attached to the head rest and I can't look around...gravity decides my body language...when I'm in my bed and more relaxed there is no one to meet...
I feel so stuck...I can deal with the everyday things, but the lack of physical contact...it gets to me...

 

[sdineen]

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Having struggled with a lot of the same issues, I can deeply understand my friends struggle. She is an example of physical and moral greatness

 

[TheLM]

Topic is great.

 

[spooned_mango]

as someone who was born with a disability and in a wheelchair, i find these types of threads very encouraging. i always tell people that just because someone is disabled, doesn't mean they can't be great lovers. i've tried to find wheelchair porn, but the people who are in the chairs aren't really disabled. i've only ever been sexually involved with 3 women in my life (36), but i made all of them orgasm. we may not be able to do a lot. but if you give us a chance, the ending is very rewarding.

I'm really glad to see this thread! I'm a sub, I met Sir online. We've been together (online and phone) for almost 8 months and plan to meet later this year.

He was very upfront with me about his disabilities, which I appreciated. He was born with spina bifida and is comfortable with who he is. He gets a kick out of teasing me when I use terms like "walk away" or "stand up".

I think one reason we get along so well is we are open and talk about everthing. I ask any question that comes to mind, and vice versa. I know he has been rejected a lot because of his disability, and although I am angry at how he has been treated; I'm glad he was available for us to meet.

My biggest worry when we meet? Even though we've exchanged pictures; I'm afraid he'll take one look at me and want to high-tail it back home! I'm a big girl and have been rejected many times because of it.

He has the same worries as I do, that I'm going to run away as fast as I can. But to me he is attractive, sexy, handsome, smart, funny, caring... (I could go on for a long time.) and everything I've ever dreamed, asked, or prayed for in a man. He doesn't have to worry about me wanting to run away when we meet; he needs to worry about me stowing away in his trunk when he leaves!

 

[Boundlife]

My biggest worry when we meet? Even though we've exchanged pictures; I'm afraid he'll take one look at me and want to high-tail it back home! I'm a big girl and have been rejected many times because of it.

Welcome to Lit
May I suggest you check out the pics on Bold Flesh 2.0...It may ease your fears...(I have both those "strikes" against me...bigger and disabled)...It sounds like you have the makings of a great relationship there

 

[1Wheels111]

Hah! You're welcome.

I figured this was the kind of article that Lit could always use more of.

*Also, I've always thought guys in wheelchairs were outrageously sexy. As in, if I'm in a club and see a guy in a wheelchair, I spend my entire night planning how I'm going to approach him. Apparently this is called Abasiophilia (thanks Wikipedia). I don't think I'm alone in my kink...

There are two other words that are used to discribe this interest too ... "Devotee" and "Admirer". Devotee is a more commonly used term. There is a whole subculture of "Devs" as some people refer to others with this attraction.

 

[1Wheels111]

The sites for these fetishes that I could find don't even let you have a peek until you sign up. I didn't go there. I was mostly looking for proof that I was some guys wet dream.
If your into scars I've got a nice one from the back of my head to between my sholder blades
(Just teasing )

There are many Yahoo groups with TONS of pics and people that find us HOT. Just word search ...deformed, sexy disabled, quadriplegic beauties, wheelchair admirers, etc.

 

[spooned_mango]

Welcome to Lit
May I suggest you check out the pics on Bold Flesh 2.0...It may ease your fears...(I have both those "strikes" against me...bigger and disabled)...It sounds like you have the makings of a great relationship there

Thank you Bound!

 

[WillowedCabin]

I <3 tumblr

"My Pleasure Sex & Disability Guide"
http://sexxxisbeautiful.tumblr.com/post/16561877624/my-pleasure-sex-disability-guide

Enjoy.

 

[1Wheels111]

Bump

 

[1Wheels111]

Here is a beautiful drawing of a nude amputee.

http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa253/bi_jewel234/RobertKimball.jpg

 

[peachesmelba]

I agree

He has the same worries as I do, that I'm going to run away as fast as I can. But to me he is attractive, sexy, handsome, smart, funny, caring... (I could go on for a long time.) and everything I've ever dreamed, asked, or prayed for in a man. He doesn't have to worry about me wanting to run away when we meet; he needs to worry about me stowing away in his trunk when he leaves! [/QUOTE]


with Boundlife - you two sound like you are off to a GREAT start - hold on tight to each other. As the name Peaches implies I am a big girl too and was terrified my SO would take one look and run the other way once we finally met in RL - but I was very wrong, and have been very glad of it ever since. I'm SURE that he has just as long a list of things that he admires, respects, loves, and finds charming/adorable and SEXY in you - yes YOU! Continue to be honest and upfront and talk to each other and, no matter what other troubles you face, you'll know you're facing them together! HUGS!

 

[peachesmelba]

Hope folks like the pics.[/QUOTE]

Ummmmmmm - There is NO part that I saw that wasn't smokin' HOT!

 

[phoenix1105]

Just my two cents on this one... For the last 6 years I have relied on being in a wheelchair for distances more than say 50 feet or so. I can get around the house ok, not great, but ok. The rest of the time I use a cane. It has taken me a long time to accept that I am not as physically able as others. It is really hard to move around in a club or bar when you are in a wheelchair or electric cart.

 

[Hopeorless1]

That is so great that you did this !! <3 Lit member of the year IMO