Champakian
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Is that what we're calling tits now?Show us your pronouns!
I think that's a little too PC even for this blizzard of snowflakes...
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Is that what we're calling tits now?Show us your pronouns!
Sorry to hear about the emotionally abusive marriage. I'm glad that you're out of that situation and able to move on with your life.A little background: I came out of an 8-year emotionally and verbally abusive marriage three years ago.
I went on a date a few days ago and I thought it went well. We had been talking a couple weeks prior and we seemed to click wonderfully! The next day, however, he told me he was considering dating his ex-wife after telling me there was no chance they would get back together.
I embarrassingly cried for four hours that night because I felt so foolish! It was like a bad April Fool’s joke.
Fast forward to today where I was supposed to meet my cousin for brunch, and he stood me up.
I KNOW all men aren’t abusive and terrible. I know there are some genuinely good men, but now I’m not sure if I ever want to open myself up to the possibility of meeting someone like that due to my past interactions with men.
Can any of you relate to this? Am I just being completely sexist and rude and judgmental?
One thing you have to consider is where are you finding these potential suitors? In alot of online venues it is just simply a meat market. Guys (and sometimes girls) will just say or do anything at all to get laid. That is the entire goal and once achieved they just ghost you and move on. So, maybe there is some other venue where you can find an actual decent guy who is interested in a relationship.A little background: I came out of an 8-year emotionally and verbally abusive marriage three years ago.
I went on a date a few days ago and I thought it went well. We had been talking a couple weeks prior and we seemed to click wonderfully! The next day, however, he told me he was considering dating his ex-wife after telling me there was no chance they would get back together.
I embarrassingly cried for four hours that night because I felt so foolish! It was like a bad April Fool’s joke.
Fast forward to today where I was supposed to meet my cousin for brunch, and he stood me up.
I KNOW all men aren’t abusive and terrible. I know there are some genuinely good men, but now I’m not sure if I ever want to open myself up to the possibility of meeting someone like that due to my past interactions with men.
Can any of you relate to this? Am I just being completely sexist and rude and judgmental?
While little Dixie has a great point, try to think how you got there at the vacant second date.....Sorry to hear about the emotionally abusive marriage. I'm glad that you're out of that situation and able to move on with your life.
The other two events seem more to be about you being stood up, and the way that hurts you is noteworthy.
I think you really need to explore that and ask yourself - what is it that I am really feeling? Why did them standing me up or turning towards someone else hit me so hard?
Dig deep. You have the answers in you, you just need to take some time and really think it through. Take a walk in the park (just you) and think about why you feel the way you do. I think you'll find the real source of your issues.
Speaking as a man you're not entirely wrong there... but it swings both ways... there's a grey area though between inability to function appropiately in society, especially men with women, and those who set out to mislead and use women - my advice [for what it's worth] is always to never give trust but allow it to be earned in stepped increments ... most genuine people will feck up occasionally and need at least one get out of jail card
I’ve been around and dated some really crappy guys. It definitely can effect the way you view men.A little background: I came out of an 8-year emotionally and verbally abusive marriage three years ago.
I went on a date a few days ago and I thought it went well. We had been talking a couple weeks prior and we seemed to click wonderfully! The next day, however, he told me he was considering dating his ex-wife after telling me there was no chance they would get back together.
I embarrassingly cried for four hours that night because I felt so foolish! It was like a bad April Fool’s joke.
Fast forward to today where I was supposed to meet my cousin for brunch, and he stood me up.
I KNOW all men aren’t abusive and terrible. I know there are some genuinely good men, but now I’m not sure if I ever want to open myself up to the possibility of meeting someone like that due to my past interactions with men.
Can any of you relate to this? Am I just being completely sexist and rude and judgmental?
Sexist? Perhaps a little. People is people. And an egocentric asshole is still an egocentric asshole regardless of gender, sex, race, religion, politics, socio-economic bracket, or whatever other categories they may or may not fit.A little background: I came out of an 8-year emotionally and verbally abusive marriage three years ago.
I went on a date a few days ago and I thought it went well. We had been talking a couple weeks prior and we seemed to click wonderfully! The next day, however, he told me he was considering dating his ex-wife after telling me there was no chance they would get back together.
I embarrassingly cried for four hours that night because I felt so foolish! It was like a bad April Fool’s joke.
Fast forward to today where I was supposed to meet my cousin for brunch, and he stood me up.
I KNOW all men aren’t abusive and terrible. I know there are some genuinely good men, but now I’m not sure if I ever want to open myself up to the possibility of meeting someone like that due to my past interactions with men.
Can any of you relate to this? Am I just being completely sexist and rude and judgmental?
I think you are spot on....it's hard for me to relate to this in the sense that I'm interested in women and don't have any experience dating men. So, I'm about to embark on a relationship, my second, with a lady who who has these sorts of experiences and is somewhat afraid or timid in the relationship due to it. If I had a few hard a fast rules for guys it would be:A little background: I came out of an 8-year emotionally and verbally abusive marriage three years ago.
I went on a date a few days ago and I thought it went well. We had been talking a couple weeks prior and we seemed to click wonderfully! The next day, however, he told me he was considering dating his ex-wife after telling me there was no chance they would get back together.
I embarrassingly cried for four hours that night because I felt so foolish! It was like a bad April Fool’s joke.
Fast forward to today where I was supposed to meet my cousin for brunch, and he stood me up.
I KNOW all men aren’t abusive and terrible. I know there are some genuinely good men, but now I’m not sure if I ever want to open myself up to the possibility of meeting someone like that due to my past interactions with men.
Can any of you relate to this? Am I just being completely sexist and rude and judgmental?
Wow first comment is real win. Any wonder why so many of us don’t wanna touch y’all dudes with a ten foot pole? That’s a horrible comment to this post.Don’t worry about it.
You’ll be craving some newguys cawk soon enough!
Case in point about how the OP's struggle to find a decent guy is real.Don’t worry about it.
You’ll be craving some newguys cawk soon enough!
The first guy is mean tweeting from Mom's basementThere are cunts out there of all genders and sexual persuasions.
I'm not defending your ex in any way shape or form, he sounds like a total and utter cunt. But is this a distrust of men or a distrust of relationships?
Comments like this are pathetic and unnecessary, and will reinforce your view that men are generally cunts
But comments like this won't help either.
If it's seen as a pure male vs female thing, it will only lead to further pain and upset. You're a woman physically attracted to men (or it seems that way). So if you do decide to date again, it will likely be with a male. Having the nagging doubt in your mind that all males are untrustworthy won't help with finding the right person for you.
As others have said, go out, make friends, have fun and see what (if anything) develops. Going out looking for a relationship is a recipe for disaster