Distrust in Men. Help.

[rockcasbah]

Lovecraft68 truly understands female pain.

Her cousin was a no-show for brunch, and yet he can still comfort her.

Without sniggering.

 

[the_single_gal_unconfidential]

just personal observations about life - everyone's number one thing on their list - is number one.
myself included.
to me, the problems w people come when you leave yourself vulnerable to someone - and that someone is going to use you to augment or substitute you for their shortcomings. sort of like a drug?
it was a not so healthy relationship way long ago, that I realized that I was going to have to make it thru my whole life on my own.
to me that meant just one thing - financial independence. that leaves you non dependent.
no one's going to send you on vacation, buy you a house, car, fill up your gas tank - except you.
I didn't realize it at the time, but thinking that way long ago has made life so much more easier or lacking bad issues. some bad issues.
along the way I had bfs that started taking advantage or moving in on my decisions of life - it was good bye time for them. they're dumped - vamoose. gone.
so yes, lonely times. I've never found an equal to me. someone that liked me because of me. but that's ok.
I've had a lot of galfriends expressing their angst about some guy expecting them to do things, or them expecting the guy to do things.
that song - I am a rock. Simon n garf. don't talk of love.
and if you like legs - Tina turner, love is just a second hand emotion.

 

[ace195008]

Sorry, the_single_girl about your difficult experiences had the too because of my ADHD and some Aspergers of misreading ppl. Someone told me work on acceptance that’s hat I am doing … peace

 

[Elite_Goblin]

It is a pity that you are going through such a rough time. Not all men are assholes. At least you are free to keep searching. Don't rush in your search. Enjoy yourself!

 

[ace195008]

Elite_goblin I totally agree. My father used to say there are assholes no matter where you go, I feel they can be male or female. After 40 yrs of business in NYC and Europe, I totally agree with. I have also discovered an lot of very nice caring , empathetic people.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

Elite_goblin I totally agree. My father used to say there are assholes no matter where you go, I feel they can be male or female. After 40 yrs of business in NYC and Europe, I totally agree with. I have also discovered an lot of very nice caring , empathetic people.

What Lovecraft said, squared. Think about how and where you are looking and consider changing venues. Good guys are out there, no doubt about it.

 

[ace195008]

Yes i feel that way about this insane world right now.