Do any of you drink/do drugs while playing?

[KravingKitty]

I occasionally do drink and/or do drugs before play. I'm never "out of control" when I do. I'm still aware of the other person and their limits. But, depending on the person and your body's reaction to certain drugs, it can be pleasurable. Often, smoking marijuana and having a drink relaxes my sub and makes the scene that much better. I don't intentionally incorporate drugs/alcohol into a scene. But, if they're there and I'm in the mood to indulge, I don't have a problem with it.

 

[petrel]

I occasionally do drink and/or do drugs before play. I'm never "out of control" when I do. I'm still aware of the other person and their limits. But, depending on the person and your body's reaction to certain drugs, it can be pleasurable. Often, smoking marijuana and having a drink relaxes my sub and makes the scene that much better. I don't intentionally incorporate drugs/alcohol into a scene. But, if they're there and I'm in the mood to indulge, I don't have a problem with it.

I agree and afterall your body reacts to chemicals both artifical (drugs/drink) and natural (endorphins adrenelin) in all kinds of ways. I think I am rarely 'sober' when in the midst of a heavy scene whether that be a pure head rush or because I have had a couple of glasses of wine!

 

[James Blandings]

I think this is one of those areas where good public policy becomes like a sacred text. Most BDSM venues do not allow drinking (and obviously not drugs) for good reasons, both legal and practical.I've knoen more BDSM clubs to get busted for alcohol violations than for anyhting to do with BDSM.
Also, I have DMed at a club where drinking was allowe, and from that point of view, I don't want to have to make the decision as to who has or has not had too much to drink before playing, so a zero tolerance policy is good.
On the other hand, if experienced players want a glass or wine, or a joint before a scene, and they know their limitations, I don't see that as much of a problem.
Where I first got involved in what we then called "rough trade" back in the 1970s, there was a lot of drug use, particularly poppers, and there were many instances of abuse. I myself had a bad experience in which I was bound and someone kept hitting me up with poppers while another Dom was paddling me, and as I was completely wasted I had no idea until afterward that I had been beaten beyond what I considered safe. So the prohibition at most parties and clubs is well founded in my view.

 

[KravingKitty]

I agree with not allowing drug use at open parties or fetish clubs. It is after all illegal. But in your own home or dungeon with subs that you know well, I believe that it can be handled safely.

 

[Skally]

It's all about feeling comfortable with your partner.

Being a newbie to this, I wouldn't allow any drink / drugs because I feel that I need my senses about me in order to be able to read the situation properly.

I know myself when I am drunk, I'm less likely to realise what's going on around me. I've been known to not realise that people are being sick behind me when I've been drunk.

 

[petrel]

Hi there KravingKitty and Skally:

you both make good points - welcome to the board

and James? as always you have words of wisdom for us all - thanks

 

[P. B. Walker]

*bump*

 

[SierraMoon]

My previous Dom and i used to drink beer when we would play. After awhile, i started noticing the difference in him, when he would have too much to drink. i asked him to not drink during his time with me, and he refused. That ended up in us not seeing each other for a couple months... after which, he contacted me, and told me that he was clean (legal problems forced him to quit drinking), so i decided to play with him again. During that first play session after our long split, he consumed almost 2-12 pks of beer, within a 24 hour period.. although he still appeared to be aware of everything that was going on, i could see a dangerous sadistic streak starting to surface....that is the last time i played with him.

So, no.. i don't want to be under the influence of anything when i play now. To me, it's not worth the risk of harm to myself. But.. as others have said.. to each his/her own

 

[P. B. Walker]

OMG Sierra... that is ALOT of beer. There is no way he was in his right mind, no matter how cognizant he appeared. And obviously there was no way he was legally sober. I think you were very right to put a stop to "playtime" with him. I congratulate you for having the backbone to putting your foot down.

Personally, I feel the alcohol can be saved for after the scene... when you can enjoy it together while discussing what occurred... kind of a have a beer to enjoy some good hard work type thing

PBW

 

[SierraMoon]

i'm sorry PB... that was supposed to read 2-12pks of beer..

still a bit too much for 1 person, who has me bound, with whip in hand, i think

 

[lovetoread]

Does prescription pills count?

Then yea, I am on drugs alot when doing things.

Makes it a bit hard to focus though.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I think prescription drugs are a slightly different matter, mainly because you more than likely need them for a valid reason. I say more than likely because some prescriptions are not needed all the time, but rather are used only when needed, for example, when pain flares up.

I think this thread was mostly meant to ask about recreational drugs.

I think prescription drugs are ok, but only as long as you remain lucid enough to make clear decisions that you will not regret the next day or make decisions that will bring unintended harm to other people.

JHMO

PBW

 

[sterlingclay]

Dear God NO!

Why spoil the natural high of play time with a cheap chemically induced thrill you might not even remember?

I never drink, do drugs or smoke... Partly so I can actually live to the fullest, partly cause the majority of these substances taste awful, partly because intoxicated people are annoying... I just don't like it.

As for play time, it's got to be real or I'm just wasting my time. If a partner is on some fake high then they are wasting my time too. I'm not going to tell anyone how to live (sometimes wasted people provide decent entertainment) but we do have choices.

Cranky Sterling

 

[silkee_A]

For normal "vanilla sex" I do enjoy a toke or two. It heightens my excitement. Now it may not be as "good" but it seems to be. Alcohol I cannot do I become useless even if it is one glass of wine or a beer. I do agree though with people who have already posted about it not being a safe thing to do when involved in BDSM or any other type of sexual encounter that may not be safe. My opinion is both need to have all their faculties in check.

silkee_A

 

[Wizard]

Yea well, diffrent strokes for diffrent folks .............I know most say it is bad but if we all agreed it would be boring here.......

I stlll spin a fatty and skitten joins in with me..........been doing it for years, not every time we play but I admit we do.

 

[Justina123]

On a couple of occasions, I have had a few drinks before play with my Dominant, B. Since I don't drink often, a few drinks is quite enough to dull my inhibitions and make me a bit more adventurous than normal. B knows that, and he knows if I have had anything to drink, so I feel perfectly safe doing this on occasion and in fact, it has made for some extra fun play times that we might not otherwise have enjoyed.

Would I drink before playing with someone I didn't trust as utterly as B, or who didn't know me as well as he does? No way. But for us, it can be fun. Does B ever drink before play? No, and I would not feel comfortable if he did, but being who he is, that is not a question.

Just my two cents added on...
-justina

 

[zipman]

Yea well, diffrent strokes for diffrent folks .............I know most say it is bad but if we all agreed it would be boring here.......

I stlll spin a fatty and skitten joins in with me..........been doing it for years, not every time we play but I admit we do.

I'm right with you Wizard! I think that when you are playing with someone you don't know, or don't know well, that a no drinking/no drugs rule would be wise.

For people who have been with a sub for a while, and choose to indulge in a drink or two or smoke a joint, I see nothing wrong with that. If I do have drink or two, I always minimize or eliminate any activities where impaired judgement could be harmful. I would never use a flogger or give more than a light spanking for mood enhancement.

I would never scene after a night of heavy drinking.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I'm right with you Wizard! I think that when you are playing with someone you don't know, or don't know well, that a no drinking/no drugs rule would be wise.

For people who have been with a sub for a while, and choose to indulge in a drink or two or smoke a joint, I see nothing wrong with that. If I do have drink or two, I always minimize or eliminate any activities where impaired judgement could be harmful. I would never use a flogger or give more than a light spanking for mood enhancement.

I would never scene after a night of heavy drinking.

I have to agree with this. I've been with my Master for a very long time now. I know him totally, can read him utterly, and will not play with him when he's been drinking heavily.....only because I know he doesn't realize how rough he gets then. He's a loveable drunk, when he is drunk that is.....just doesn't hold back like he normally does.

That said, if he's only had a beer or two, or a margarita or just light drinking.....no problem, I'll play. He respects my choice in this too.

Drugs don't happen in our household so that's a no brainer.

~smile~
dixi

 

[WriterDom]

A little wine can calm a new partner. But I don't need to drink when I play. Play is intoxicating enough on its own.

 

[Wizard]

I'm right with you Wizard! I think that when you are playing with someone you don't know, or don't know well, that a no drinking/no drugs rule would be wise.

For people who have been with a sub for a while, and choose to indulge in a drink or two or smoke a joint, I see nothing wrong with that. If I do have drink or two, I always minimize or eliminate any activities where impaired judgement could be harmful. I would never use a flogger or give more than a light spanking for mood enhancement.

I would never scene after a night of heavy drinking.

I can certainly agree and appricate that.............


I also must say this is an intresting topic...................

 

[HzDomme]

I very seldom drink before playing. My actions are definitely different.

I find when he drinks before playing I have a hard time being rough enough with him. He is a pain slut and wants WAY more than is safe. Alcohol dulls the senses.

No drugs.

 

[sterlingclay]

A little wine can calm a new partner. But I don't need to drink when I play. Play is intoxicating enough on its own.

There ya go! Play is intoxicating enough on its own. I don't have a problem with others drinking (or more) to calm them down. But for me, I'm comfortable enough with adrenaline to skip the mind/body altering stuff. Gimme all the feeling you got, I get high on that shit!

 

[wetandslave]

No.

 

[Hecate]

Drugs are a No for me (in general as I have no interest in the hard stuff and dope doesn't do anything for me so I can't be bothered)

Drinks is another issue. I do not drink while playing, nor in "preparation" for play time, but I will not rule out play after a drink either, meaning:

If I go out for a nice dinner and have a glass or two of wine with it and later in the evening the occassion presents itself for some fun time I will not NOT play because I had a glass of wine earlier in the evening. But just as well will I not hit the afterdinner drinks big time if I know we will be playing later.

Drinking for me is a question of taste and joy, not of getting blasted... no matter if it is in relation to play time or not.

 

[Bjarni]

For us the answer has to be no. Mainly because neither of us drinks regularly and a little has a much bigger effect than it would have if we did, also we are still new at this and anything which affects our reactions is definitely not a good thing.