Do any of you drink/do drugs while playing?

[DisGirlisNutz]

I trust my other half with my life.... I know he knows his limits as well as mine... and vise versa....

I understand that others don't so I don't play with others unless Jason is around....He will make sure they don't get out of hand...

DGN

 

[deepstare]

Me personally, I wouldn't do anything to artificially alter myself while playing around. The dom/sub relation is far too important, personal, and intimate to be ruined with booze/drugs. I'm probably thinking too hard..a few drinks is cool...

 

[hurtme]

I really don't think you can equate it to driving under the influence...like comparing apples and oranges...I mean, sure, some ppl can't handle it, and tey shouldn't, but there are lots of ppl who know thier responsibilites and limitations, and can engage in safe play...

 

[catalina_francisco]

I really don't think you can equate it to driving under the influence...like comparing apples and oranges...I mean, sure, some ppl can't handle it, and tey shouldn't, but there are lots of ppl who know thier responsibilites and limitations, and can engage in safe play...

My comparison is reflected in your answer perfectly. Many of those who enjoy being under the influence of any substance which alters the brain functions, as alcohol and drugs do, often feel they can handle the effects safely and responsibly, but sober intent does not an inebriated reality make. While it may be true to some extent in your perception after a minimal amount, it is a proven scientific fact it is not a factual truth, but is a misconception many draw comfort from.

How many cases have you seen where someone under the influence has appeared in court on charges resulting from their behaviour under the influence and sworn they thought they were OK and safely in charge of their actions, or even better, claimed diminished responsibility because they were under the influence? The reality is there is impaired judgement skills, and a lessening of the attention span, and often an addition of false bravado with even a minimum intake...the outcome, whether the receiver or the giver your judgement and perception of reality is altered and can have disastrous results which may not be reverseable. It is your body and mind to choose what you will, but unfortunately in hindsight you may wish you had left your indulging until a safer moment which I am sure are many.

Catalina

 

[hurtme]

If the limits are clearly outlined before one imbibes any mind altering substances, then there shouldn't be a problem. I won't leave my home to drink unless there is a plan set out beforehand with a safe, reliable DD whom I trust. If one wishes to experiemnt, limits should be set long before. I won't use anything aside from pot and alcohol anyway, but if I did, I would never play my first time experiencing the drug, and I wouldn't engage in any play while under the influence until I was sure I could handle it. My partner is never under the influence...he wouldn't be comfortable with it. But to be on the safe side, if I am under the influence we don't engage in certian things (to use my earlier example, breathplay) because i am aware that my threshold for pain is higher. I am throughly aware of how my body reacts under the influence, and for that reason, we set out limits beforehand so that no one gets hurt. Of course, there are some people who practice dangerously, as there are in every situation, but I don't see why some peoples bad experiences means no one can play safely under the influence of something. Also, when I say under the influence, I mean (well, for me since I have no tolerance for anything) a couple hits off of a joint. two or three drinks tops...not to the point where i am so wasted I can't see or spell my name...

 

[Etoile]

I have only been really drunk once, and I think I was fucked (by Daddy) but I don't remember! We do like to fool around while getting high (well, I don't partake much), but I don't think Daddy would ever want to do something potentially dangerous while stoned. So playing sounds like it would be out.

 

[snoozebutton]

Just some anti inflamatories for my knee, otherwise why alter what is already my natural stimulant.

 

[hellcity]

a few years back me and the wife often had 12 hour long marathon fucking sessions on crystal meth( crank). now before you freak out, if you have never done it, they give a non-addictive version to military pilots who are flying missions because it increases sharpness and awareness of what is around you. it is not a drunk or drugged feeling but an intense awareness of yourself and your surroundings. you do not get tired and have the stamina that can only be imagined.

the entire time i would have the most incredible hard on that never quit. one line at the begining is all we ever needed and we would start around midnite on saturday an go til noon sunday when we would finally collapse in each others arms. i actually fucked her non-stop in the missionary position for well over two hours one time.

for awhile, 3 years, i had a connection to pure uncut crystal that was amazing and we used it often. when the supply disappeared and all that was available was crappy stuff we stopped because the stepped on product did not produce the same results. we no longer do it because i don't go out looking for it because in todays close minded society all drugs are bad and you will go to jail for a pot seed, unless rush limbaugh and addicted to synthetic herion, then you go to a cushy re-hab country club.

i am sure many of you who have never done it think i am crazy but remember to the MAJORITY of society who have never tried BD/SM everyone on this board is crazy. just like alchohol it can be done in moderation and sanely, not everybody in a bar will become a homeless bum sparechanging on the street.

i don't recomend it to anybody who is in-experienced to drugs but that was my experience.

 

[hurtme]

thank you hell, I think you made a good point.. Not all drugs are intended to disaccociate oneself from sensation, in fact just the opposite. Of course they can be used dangerously...almost everything can be dangerous, or can be used in a method that is unsafe (even sporks). And not everyone who uses substances is addicted to them...if that were the case everyone who had a drink would be an alchoholic, and so on...

 

[Desdemona]

Nope. I don't want to miss anything. If I take a trip, I want the destination to be subspace.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Nope. I don't want to miss anything. If I take a trip, I want the destination to be subspace.

I'm with yu though subspace would not be his ideal destination for me. LOL. Why take the power of the where we go from his hands by chemical/artificial means, or submit ourselves to anything other than his domination, similarly without interference? For me, I have found what and who it is that has the power to make the earth move, and hey, it's not only available anywhere, anytime, but it's free!!!!

Catalina

 

[LovingDaddy]

Re: Playing while even remotely under the influence

Before I stopped drinking (and using), which was before I "found" D/s and BDSM, I frequently fucked while (or after) drinking. I found sex while high on pot was really tremendous.

When I am with my sub, I quite literally hold her life in my hands. She trusts me to take very good care of her, providing her with what we both enjoy for our ultimate pleasure. If I was not in full and absolute control of my faculties--and even one beer or high ball or glass of wine can diminish this, as I'm sure you learned while becoming an orthopod (what do you know about shoulders?)--and thus she should not trust me as much. Trust probably should drop in direct proportion to the amount I've had to drink.


Well said. There are too many things that can go wrong during a scene even not being under the influence of drugs or alcohol. I don't take drugs but I do enjoy an ocassional drink or two but will never get into any scening after I've been drinking. I definately am not making judgements towards those who feel drugs or alcohol may enhance things. To each their own.

 

[Birch Twig]

As long as we're not pissed drunk, it takes away the nervousity. We play when drunk, yes. But I, as a male, usually gets a little too insensible and can't get an orgasm, so I might last forever.

 

[tahira_GC]

under the influence

a glass of wine for me with our meal and a bud for Master but thatss it and no never ever done drugs...though being in a scene can be a drug on its own it certainley seems to make me float lol.

 

[DarkLadyOfDeath]

In general drinking and drugs can be are are bad for your health. I've smoked some pot and had a few to many drinks in my day. I've not had a problem with either in the general context of sex and my relationship. If anything after some time it's taught us to trust eachother even more by putting ones self into a slightly compromiseing or very compromiseing position. And on occasion when my hunny ( who is more of a 'nilla) in bed wants little to no play in bed that night. I allow myself some fun in other fashions by getting a few drinks or a few puffs before going to bed for the night. I can then have far better orgasms then being "clean".. And in the end we both get what we want... he gets a few nights of just easy lovemakeing.. and I can still get off. On the flip side he may have a few drinks.. and I'll be compleately sober. Then he can stay harder much longer and I can get off. And yes I'm just that hard to get off, unless pain is involved.

moral of my long statement..

as long as everyone is playing safe and happy..

Have fun getting off however you see fit.

That being said.. I enjoy squeeky clean rough rideing the most

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Helen von Hochmuth

Since this is a celebratory season, slow down and think, or end up like this alcohol foul.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Bump too?

 

[Shankara20]

I am curious. I have always loved to fuck after a few drinks. (Perhaps it is the relaxation that induces the easier orgasms-who knows?)
BUT
I have never played when I have been drinking.
I am curious if any of you do or if any are completely against it or if any of you have any "rules" concerning this issue.
Thanks.

as this is a very old thread just now bumped to my attention so I will drop in my .02 worth.

I do not drink/drug while playing. So much on my play involves working along the edge of damage / bad pain that I want to be able to speak/hear just before it go from very-good to very-bad.

I from the old "Safe-Sane-Consensual" school and any or all three can get messed up with drink/drugs....

 

[cati]

Old thread new day.

When scening in private my Master and I have never indulged in alcohol or drugs. First of all because he doesn't drink and secondly it's just not a good idea. He may indulge in a little smoke now and then, but during those occasions he isn't interested in doing anything but relaxing. What's good about it is then this girl can do no wrong and he laffs at my lame jokes...chuckles, which just fuels the comedic fire.
Anway......
I have to admit to having a couple of beers once or twice before scening publicly.
I may have been relaxed and "happy" but it took away much of the sensation.
My excuse for "mild-drinking" is being made to wait until well into the evening before we scene and by then I will have downed a couple (sometimes too quickly) I usually drink because I'm bored or because I'm uptight....since I'm not much of a socializer.
At every public play party we've been to, the Dungeon monitor keeps a close eye on the people that seem to maybe have had too much or are known problem drinkers. Either they are kept from "playing" entirely or a monitor will supervise the scene from a close vantage point.
Usually a bottom will refuse to play with any Top who has had too much to drink but I have seen one twit who got involved in some not so serious knife play, claiming she didn't know the Top had had too much to drink (...she knew). The next day she showed me and anyone else who wanted to see the thin red lines that had been carved into her back, crying "abuse" and where were the dungeon monitors at that time.
I'm not sure that my mentioning that this was a private function, where everyone knew everybody would have anything to do with it, but the pair of them were a couple of asses! She (the bottom) was a known trouble maker and attention seeker (a Narcissistic/Histrionic personality) and he/she (the Top) was well... just a little fucked up.
What people want to do in private is their own business but why spoil a perfectly good play session by not being "all there?"

 

[shy slave]

On rare occasions I have had sex having had a few drinks and its been ok.
I don't like drugs and after three drinks I am very tipsy and not in complete control of my own actions.
Andante has seen me like this and its not a pretty sight lol

When I first played in r/l the person I was with gave me poppers. I had never had them before and he said it would help me relax (I was so nervous I was almost sick), they worked and I did relax but they also made my body temp rise so I felt too hot to play until I calmed down.

Now I have a little more knowledge and understanding I really disagree with mixing any session with drink or drugs.

They affect how someone reacts, they slow down response times; if a PYL is influenced by stimulants and something starts to go wrong his response time to what is happening is slower. They are also less aware of what is happening with their own actions, laying a flogger on someones back and avoiding the liver/kidneys take precision and skill; these skills are hindered if they have taken stimulants.

I want to be able to trust the PYL and if they are under the influence of drink or drugs they are not in complete control either of themselves or the scene.
It feels a bit like playing russian roulette, most of the time everything works out ok, but sometimes it all goes horribly wrong.

 

[graceanne]

I was with gave me poppers.

Shy, I keep begging you . . . stop taking drugs!

It's so sad when subbies go bad. *shakes head*

 

[raven2]

I have had some drinks before but I don't think that they enhance the experience and my wife bas yo there Shy, she falls asleep after 2. So the idea of getting her drunk so I can have my way with her really doesn't make it.

In terms of drugs, no. But what type of drugs are we talking here? ED's are quite enhancing.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Shy, I keep begging you . . . stop taking drugs!

It's so sad when subbies go bad. *shakes head*

yes...bad bad grace caused me to eat a monkey.

 

[graceanne]

yes...bad bad grace caused me to eat a monkey.

I did not! That was snowy's fault, remember? Cause she had designs on your *ahem* virtue! She's so bad.


As for me, I only drink when K's with me. For one thing, I'm not supposed to drink - cause of the Crohns. But beyond that I am the mellowest, most agreeable drunk in the world. I'll go along with anything. K says it's a good thing I never partied or I'd have been the group slut.

 

[Kajira Callista]

I did not! That was snowy's fault, remember? Cause she had designs on your *ahem* virtue! She's so bad.


As for me, I only drink when K's with me. For one thing, I'm not supposed to drink - cause of the Crohns. But beyond that I am the mellowest, most agreeable drunk in the world. I'll go along with anything. K says it's a good thing I never partied or I'd have been the group slut.

you say that like its a bad thing