Do any of you drink/do drugs while playing?

[HottieMama]

crystal is the best aphrodisiac i have EVER experienced. i have literally watched a woman's clit become so engorged an sensitive after she did 1/3 of a g in one blast, she had orgasms from nothing more than a tap or no more than a 2 or 3 second rub of her clit. she came over and over for about 30 minutes before she started coming back to reality. it was a sight i'll never forget.

Crystal is a horribly addictive chemical that is positively DESTROYING large segments of the population. (Gay men, and college age women are the first two that come to mind.) Using it for sexual pleasure is a concept completely abhorrent to me.

My best friend Jeffery died of a crystal meth. overdose. He tried to get clean countless times but that evil shit kept creeping back into his life. Eventually his life ended...in a gay male bathhouse in downtown Philly.

i've been off drugs for years and will NEVER go back. i don't associate myself with illegal/recreational drug users either.

 

[twysted73]

D/s requires too much attention, focus and, most importantly, trust to lose myself in drugs while I do it.
However....'nilla sex on Ecstacy? Fun.

I haven't tried anything else. And to be completely honest, I really wouldn't want to. X is my only chem. drug vice and even then once in a blue moon.
Ooh but the amount of pain I can take on it...*drools a little like homer on a donut* Yeah....*shivers and sighs a little*

 

[Puman]

I had a crap experience when I smoked weed for the first time... (I thought I saw dead people/spirits and then they tried to talk to me...eeeeuuuwww). With my reaction to something as simple as weed being so harsh, I vowed to stay very far away from chemicals - I'd probably wind up in a straight jacket for the rest of my life...
so no... I don't bring drugs into my sex life at all.

 

[northwoods_sub]

As a person who avoids taking cold medicine because of the way it affects me I am not about to do a scene while on any mind altering substance. Be it alcohol or drugs, Sir would be able to do a lot of damage before I even realized it.

Not to mention I get off on the feelings of pain so why would I want to dull them?

 

[girl_inacage]

. If I love something, I certainly am not looking for a way to diminish the experience in any way. Maybe it is my perfectionist tendencies which always influence me to be a purist of sorts as in natural is best so why add something to contaminate the mix. LOL.

Catalina

Respectfully:
alcohol aside, I think you need to understand if someone enjoys smoking weed to enhance their enjoyment of,say, a pretty sunset, or a walk in the woods, then why would it be diminishing the experience,when engaged in bdsm? I think the people who feel that way are not pot smokers, and so smoking to enhance an experience would be a foreign concept. I don't smoke beforehand to escape the sensations, or dull the experience. That's not what pot does for me. It makes me slow down and focus on things....the anticipation, the physical sensations,the goosebumps raising on my skin.
Now, alcohol, I think might be more dangerous. I've had partners before where I would not play if they had been drinking. My partner now is not one of them. But, he just gets buzzed enough that he doesn't feel shame at being rough with me,to the degree I want. Straight, he will tweak me, then apologize, spank me,pull my hair,apologize...(sigh) yeah,well, it's a learning process. I think he's coming along nicely. But, I totally respect all the diff opinions on here, I just wanted to add my 2 cents.

(puff)

 

[catalina_francisco]

Respectfully:
alcohol aside, I think you need to understand if someone enjoys smoking weed to enhance their enjoyment of,say, a pretty sunset, or a walk in the woods, then why would it be diminishing the experience,when engaged in bdsm? I think the people who feel that way are not pot smokers, and so smoking to enhance an experience would be a foreign concept. I don't smoke beforehand to escape the sensations, or dull the experience. That's not what pot does for me. It makes me slow down and focus on things....the anticipation, the physical sensations,the goosebumps raising on my skin.
Now, alcohol, I think might be more dangerous. I've had partners before where I would not play if they had been drinking. My partner now is not one of them. But, he just gets buzzed enough that he doesn't feel shame at being rough with me,to the degree I want. Straight, he will tweak me, then apologize, spank me,pull my hair,apologize...(sigh) yeah,well, it's a learning process. I think he's coming along nicely. But, I totally respect all the diff opinions on here, I just wanted to add my 2 cents.

(puff)

LOL, well I guess if you need something to really enjoy the whole experience, and are not concerned with the possible negative if not serious outcomes, that is your choice, though I feel sorry you feel the need to add something to achieve that....myself, I can get on a natural high from a variety of experiences and certainly don't need a chemical substance to help me focus and for that I am eternally grateful. Sorry, I am just not an advocate for chemical enhancements of any kind in any situation...and yes, I don't drink, don't do drugs, don't smoke, and don't even drink coffee...I'm just lucky I guess.

Catalina

 

[girl_inacage]

wow, I guess it's a good thing you like to fuck,or life just might not be worth living...

did that come off catty? sorry, I'm Catwoman, for Halloween...

 

[catalina_francisco]

did that come off catty? sorry, I'm Catwoman, for Halloween...

No, just as someone who has missed out on a lot in life and thus feels it necessary to artificially create it....Catwoman? nah, likely just another alt/troll who obviously is bored this evening.

Catalina

 

[girl_inacage]

I think you should consider re-naming this thread "Bash the people who drink/do drugs while playing"

 

[HottieMama]

Let's just make it clear that i was not bashing anyone specifically.

Drugs for me are a death sentence. Period. End of story. Doesn't matter if it is pot, meth, or heroin...all leads to the same "places" for me.

 

[h_i_s]

I am curious. I have always loved to fuck after a few drinks. (Perhaps it is the relaxation that induces the easier orgasms-who knows?)
BUT
I have never played when I have been drinking.
I am curious if any of you do or if any are completely against it or if any of you have any "rules" concerning this issue.
Thanks.

I've been played with after a few drinks.
I have also been played with after WAY more than just a few.
Add to that, some of these times have included a little bit more than drinking..

I rarely drink. I can count on one hand how many times I have ever been drunk and be left with a few fingers not counted.

The dynamics of the relationship which I share with IYM doesn't allow for planning of anything on my part. He doesn't micromanage which means I can have a couple of glasses or wine or whatnot if I feel like it. Because of the dynamic I don't know when He may decide we will be playing. If I have had a glass of wine or am drunk on my ass, it won't matter much to Him. When He wants to play.. we PLAY.

Life isn't always neat as a pin and planned to the T.
Some people just 'live it'.

 

[Sprinkles22]

Both my PYL and I drink occassionally, but He is very strict in limiting our play time if either of us has had too much (what constitutes 'too much' is His decision). He is first and foremost safety concerned vs. pleasure concerned.

Neither of us do drugs nor have the desire to do drugs, so therefore, drugs are a non-issue in our relationship.

 

[Quint]

.............

 

[Marquis]

Do any of you drink/do drugs while playing?

Is there a better time?

 

[unfoundiamond]

playing is like a drug...

I have read a lot of diffrent things on BDSM and safety, I am typing on a sidekick or I would leave a link... The only thing I have heard stressed is doing drugs or drinking can block your ability to feel pain, and this can put you at risk of getting injured seriously since you will not feel the pain that is ment to be warning signals telling you to stop...

That being said I have had a beer or two while relaxing and watching T.V. With Him and ended up bound and spanked...

I just think people should be extra careful with drugs that make you numb, like cocaine or pain killers... It sounds pointless to counteract the sensationality of BDSM with drugs that rob you of the expirience...

That being said, I don't smoke weed during or just before.... but you can call me Smokey... everyone else does, So I may have had residual calmness left over, but I have been smoking for so many years my eyes don't even get red... I don't think I even get "high" I just relax... but like I said, I don't smoke just before I play with Him...

My last comment is something I have actually noticed since playing with Him, I feel less craving for weed and little to no want for alcohol... I am the type of girl I need an escape, my whole life I thought drugs was the only strong medicine to quiet my stress and anxiety, But, I have recently learned how much I enjoy pain in that capcity. I smoke several times a day usually, when I am with Him- I don't smoke... I don't even think about it. So, I find drugs and drinks less necesarry when playing... in fact, the strong sensations my body feels coupled with the peaceful release of stress mentally I expirience through BDSM play is far better than any drug I ever tried, and I pretty much tried them all.
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~Don't quote me, Boy, cuz I aint said shit... (Easy E)

 

[ecstaticsub]

I usually have a few drinks when playing. I don't do it to dull my senses, or to lower my inhibitions or any reason like that. I do it for the same reason I drink at a party.

I want to remember everything and I don't want to be worshipping the porcelien god at the end of the night so I watch how much I am drinking.

I enjoy the jello like feeling of hard pounding sex while I am a little buzzed. Not everytime, but it is different than sober. Variety and different sensations are good.

Same thing with pain meds. I had shingles once when playing. I was in intense pain and having a hard time finding something that worked. I had a mix of drugs in me (I am a pharmacist so it was a safe mix) I have to admit, though I would never recommend it to anyone else, the play and sex was awesome!! (and my shingles didn't hurt)

I trust my Dom with my life, he doesn't drink much at all. He would never allow his senses to be dulled while with me.

 

[Netzach]

I like to have some cocktails and do stuff - but I limit myself to "stuff" that involves no equipment. Well, maybe a bath brush or something at most. I don't do bondage if I've been cocktailing. I don't use canes, only spanking that might be OTK or close in contact so I can see and feel readily. Nothing challenging is ever done. It's usually very silly and sexual in nature.

Realize "a few" for me, is about 1, also.

And I love fucking/sexual bottoming/sexual topping buzzed on overpriced vino. I also like it without. They're different, though, so one does not replace or best the other. Sue me.

That's about as altered as I get.

I know the person who worships my boots while I'm in the cups takes her life in her hands, but I've managed not to kick anyone to death in the throes of demon rum.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think this is out of line. You made your opinion clear, she did the same in a respectful and articulate manner; why assume troll or say that she "has missed out on a lot in life"?

FWIW, not everyone's bodies work the same. I DO miss out on a lot in life due entirely to genetic wirings--pain and pleasure don't leave me elated and euphoric the way they do to others who happen to be gifted with "better" receptors or connections. So if I'm lacking the holy grail of masochism, I should be condemned to live a life of half-sensations because it's "safe"? Is it better to live a long, safe life but not feel it along the way? Everyone's answer to that question may be different. Mine is that I agree with Geoff's response. In public, you have obligations to the safety of everyone in the location. In private, do what makes you happy.

Maybe, and we are all entitled to our opinion, but to tell the truth I have been sick for 3 weeks, basically in bed that whole time unable to do much at all, even check Lit for more than a few moments at a time a couple of times a day, so it is beyond me to really lose sleep over what happens online, especially over someone who posts something which personally I will never uphold as a the wonderful past time the poster wants to promote it to be. And yes, we all know a lot of names which pop up here posting such inflammatory things on the day they just happen to sign up at Lit (and I didn't miss the undertones posted toward me in the first place which seems OK it appears) are alts or trolls.

I may be sick, but I don't have to lay down and take shit thinly disguised as being from someone pretending to respect the opinion of others...reading between words and lines can often reveal the true intention of the words. It is the rare poster who signs up and posts, especially on a controversial topic and in a way intended to sarcastically oppose the words of someone else, within a day or so of each other. Call me cynical but it appears I am not alone of late in thinking along these lines. If you are OK with it when it involves you personally, and have never responded to someone in a less than perfect way, I applaud you and all those who do 100% of the time...I'm not that perfect obviously. Sheesh, I could have commented on the fact a submissive is posting about how they are leading a Dominant along to doing what they like, how they like 'quite nicely'....seems a strange type of submission to me, but hey, as we know, we all do it differently and this might just be one form of submission I missed.

Catalina

 

[intothewoods]

I like to have some cocktails and do stuff - but I limit myself to "stuff" that involves no equipment. Well, maybe a bath brush or something at most. I don't do bondage if I've been cocktailing. I don't use canes, only spanking that might be OTK or close in contact so I can see and feel readily. Nothing challenging is ever done. It's usually very silly and sexual in nature.

Realize "a few" for me, is about 1, also.

And I love fucking/sexual bottoming/sexual topping buzzed on overpriced vino. I also like it without. They're different, though, so one does not replace or best the other. Sue me.

That's about as altered as I get.

I know the person who worships my boots while I'm in the cups takes her life in her hands, but I've managed not to kick anyone to death in the throes of demon rum.

Yep, yep, yep, except I'm the bottom. But my PYL is also the same way. If he had a couple drinks, we wouldn't do anything complicated.

And I don't drink all that much. I drink wine, and almost always with dinner.

I don't do drugs. Period, end of story. It's not that I think all drugs are the devil or anything, but because they're illegal, I won't do them. I have a kid, and it's just not worth the risk that I'd end up in jail.

 

[Netzach]

Maybe, and we are all entitled to our opinion, but to tell the truth I have been sick for 3 weeks, basically in bed that whole time unable to do much at all, even check Lit for more than a few moments at a time a couple of times a day, so it is beyond me to really lose sleep over what happens online, especially over someone who posts something which personally I will never uphold as a the wonderful past time the poster wants to promote it to be. And yes, we all know a lot of names which pop up here posting such inflammatory things on the day they just happen to sign up at Lit (and I didn't miss the undertones posted toward me in the first place which seems OK it appears) are alts or trolls.

I may be sick, but I don't have to lay down and take shit thinly disguised as being from someone pretending to respect the opinion of others...reading between words and lines can often reveal the true intention of the words. It is the rare poster who signs up and posts, especially on a controversial topic and in a way intended to sarcastically oppose the words of someone else, within a day or so of each other. Call me cynical but it appears I am not alone of late in thinking along these lines. If you are OK with it when it involves you personally, and have never responded to someone in a less than perfect way, I applaud you and all those who do 100% of the time...I'm not that perfect obviously. Sheesh, I could have commented on the fact a submissive is posting about how they are leading a Dominant along to doing what they like, how they like 'quite nicely'....seems a strange type of submission to me, but hey, as we know, we all do it differently and this might just be one form of submission I missed.

Catalina

She called him "a partner" not her Dom. Which implies to me that they're people who like to get tipsy/high and do some rough sex.

Which isn't my cup of tea, the "high" bit, but hardly a source of personal outrage, just don't overdo the rough or the high part and life is fine.

Most of the people I learned hard play techniques from are gay male 70's and 80's scene vets though, so very few have aspersions to cast. A lot don't indulge based on "been there, done that" and a lot still do, but know themselves well. I did a workshop with a lot of these guys and a lot of the questions that surfaced had to do with substances and how to talk to a hook up about them, questions I would never have gotten in a less mixed audience. It really made me think about ways to get information out of people in less judgemental fashion, so that you are armed with what your trick has been doing and are able to make an informed decision about IF and HOW you will play with him or not, as opposed to creating a situation where people feel put on the spot and say they have not been drinking have not been doing poppers or don't tell you about their prescription meds.

When I was pro I never put the "if you are high or drunk I WILL NOT SEE YOU" lingo in my ads, because people will just lie lie lie lie. I would ask my new flesh "been partying at all?" or "do you party?" which would elicit a much more genuine and off guard answer.

 

[girl_inacage]

He's not my Dom, or a Dom at all,yet.

Catalina - I was a bitch yesterday. Sorry I rubbed you the wrong way.

I hope you feel better soon. There are no lines to read between on this.

 

[_kiana_]

I've been known to take an aspirin or ibprofen before some intense bondage scenes, because I know my shoulder (old injury) will act up, and just one of those will help it hold up to the bondage. I've been flamed over this in the past, been yelled at that it would inhibit me from knowing when real damage was being done to me etc. I personally think that's taking the "no drugs" thing just a little too far. The prescription meds I'm on are there in order to change the balance of chemicals in my brain. So...those types of using drugs I'm ok with. I've never taken any 'recreational' drugs, ever, and very likely never will. I never got into that scene and it puts me off so I'd never play with someone who'd been on something if I knew or could tell.

Alcohol is a little different. A few drinks to some may have then drunk off their ass yet might not even give another person a buzz. So that comes down to how well I know someone. I'd let my husband tie me up in a heartbeat even if he'd had 4 beers. Because I know him and how well he takes his alcohol. If it's someone I don't know very well and haven't seen them while drinking, nope, not gonna do it. That goes for someone I haven't played with much.

I think I can still count on my two hands the amount of times I've had more than one or two drinks. (Probably one hand, lol) I know on the night I'd had the most drinks I was a flirty little tease. So it might be fun to see how I'd react during play when like that. But then if I decided to do something like that, the trusted PYL wouldn't have had much (or any) just so someone would be able to know when to stop and it'd be a pre-negotiated scene as well.

 

[SmilesByMiles]

Something to experiment with when in college maybe, but I think drugs are certainly best left alone in my oppinion, sorry

 

[missy_me]

J can take quite a few drinks before it has any effect on him, so I trust him being totally in control of himself and his actions after two or three beers or a couple of glasses of wine. I myself, on the otherhand, don't mix well with any kind of alcohol. I can have a glass of wine with dinner and even then I feel a bit fuzzy, but that's my absolute limit. And especially if there's going to be some pain involved, J won't let me have even that one glass of wine, and rarely has a drink himself in those situations.

Drugs are not an issue for us, as neither of us in interested in trying any.

 

[DeservingBitch]

I am ridiculously ADD. I discovered a while back that a little bit of weed goes a long way in helping my brain to better focus and filter white noise. For instance, when i'm struggling to organize my thoughts when writing my dissertation, I will often smoke a little and it helps a lot in clarifying my thinking.

So, while I stayed away from drinking/drugs when i first started playing, now I will often smoke a small join before a scene. It helps a lot in keeping me focused on what I'm doing and on how my bottom is doing. Obviously, I've been smoking this stuff for long enough to know how much of it will have the desire effect, and to test what I'm smoking before I'll have some while playing.

Drinking though I stay away. It has the complete opposite effect on me, ie, makes me even more ADD, so I don't drink at all if I plan on playing.