Do imperfections really matter?

[JamieJ424]

I wouldn't describe myself as idealogically pure, I just know what works for me and what doesn't. I have rolled around with women of of a variety of sizes shapes and ages. The ones that pose and/or fret about lights on vs lights off...in a nutshell women who think their own opinion of their appearance trumps mine in that moment...it makes it less fun.

J

Personally, I don't think that I am that ideologically pure!

I have been known on occasion to lower myself to Making the beast with two backs with young perfect bodied girls.

Now I don't know if I'd let them eat crackers in my bed but, I don't reject them out of hand for being perfect.

I'm open minded like that.

 

[gdub31]

I think guys sees the imperfections, but to me it really doesn't matter if you love someone or want to get to know someone. I personally am superficial about other girls, but my girlfriend I could care less about any physical flaw.

 

[Blazexx]

imperfections

It depends on the person imo. I've had guys acknowledge my imperfections but not let it bother them. Hubby, however, views me as perfect which god knows ain't so. I guess I see all my imperfections and wish it was different.
I joke that hubs and a few other guys are blind. I don't understand it at all.

 

[Aphro]

Girls model their moms.

Christ, I sure as hell hope not! I'm doomed, doomed I tell you...

 

[jakereeder22]

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[Allison_RN]

It seems the older I get the more I worry and stress about it. I've gained weight and certain body parts are not as firm as they use to be. It has been on my mind a lot lately. I am very critical about my appearance, but rarely if ever notice imperfections in others. This is especially true for my boyfriend. He is perfect and I would not change one hair on his sexy self.

 

[Porkwarrior]

I love all the small "imperfections" (I call them differences) on all the women I've seen naked. It's those differences that are...them. It's the personality of their body.

If a man complains that something is too stretched, too sagging, or not shaped right...it's usually a symptom of something else. Only he is too chickenshit to say what is really bothering him.

DTMF.

 

[BrownIslandGurl]

I am curious how much the stuff we obsess over as women - stretch marks, soft post-baby bellies, scars, droopy boobs, cellulite - are a real or perceived turn off for men?

I am my worst critic, but I personally think that it is out inperfections. Our quirks that give us that extra little something that sets us apart.

Also helps that a lot of the time something we find that we dont like about ourselves is something that someone else just absolutely adores

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I like beauty. I love to look at beautiful people. There is something about certain people that is so extraordinarily stunning that they become almost like art.
It has never been the reason I have wanted to sit beside someone, share a cup of tea, or welcome a sunrise.

 

[Cone_ten]

I've always been drawn to people with uniqueness and eccentricity about them, whether physically or intellectually. I think the imperfections we're talking about are just part of the human condition. We all have them to some degree and at any rate we largely construct their importance socially. What we choose to value is in many ways arbitrary.

The above is all just my opinion, but the most fulfilling sexual and emotional relationships I have ever had were with partners that society would deem less "attractive" than some of my other partners. I am glad I ignored the conventional wisdom (and that they overlooked my many "flaws" as well, physical or otherwise).

I think the only way that these things truly matter is if they matter to you, and somehow reduce your happiness. In the end only you can make the decision to be happy with yourself, and I think everyone has a right to be.

Perhaps it all sounds a bit too sunshine and rainbows, but I grew up with a chronic bone condition and was very overweight as a teenager before eventually overcoming both issues and being thought of as more attractive by others. The experience was different than I imagined it being as a kid and really provided some useful perspective for adulthood.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

 

[Lord Pmann]

Sometimes your eyes are just made for someone. Their imperfections that they see are part of them and it doesn't matter to the beholder. They'll know it when you look at them. They'll feel it.

 

[Domesticity]

I am curious how much the stuff we obsess over as women - stretch marks, soft post-baby bellies, scars, droopy boobs, cellulite - are a real or perceived turn off for men?

I think it depends on the man. I will always be very critical of myself but it's amazing how much I can shrug off my imperfections if I feel the man I'm with finds me beautiful. Some men don't like imperfections, but I think most men (or at least the ones I'd want to have sex with) see women as whole beings and don't see imperfections but see beauty.

 

[magicalmoments]

I am curious how much the stuff we obsess over as women - stretch marks, soft post-baby bellies, scars, droopy boobs, cellulite - are a real or perceived turn off for men?

It seems most women tress out over this but really, all the guy is thinking is "YES!!!!! I'm bed with a naked chick and I'm going to get laid".

 

[LallyH]

Recently, I had a conversation with someone and I mentioned that I'd been sent a random cock pic and that I didn't understand why anyone would think I would find that appealing. The guy I was talking to said perhaps it was because men like looking at women's bodies so they assume that women feel the same way about men.

So I wondered whether I was making a huge generalisation in thinking that men are more visual creatures than women. I think it's something that most of us women believe, and that is why we concern ourselves so much with our appearance.

I'm as guilty as the next person in finding grey hair and wrinkles 'distinguished' in a man, but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't feel the same if it was me

 

[norfolklad]

Recently, I had a conversation with someone and I mentioned that I'd been sent a random cock pic and that I didn't understand why anyone would think I would find that appealing. The guy I was talking to said perhaps it was because men like looking at women's bodies so they assume that women feel the same way about men.

So I wondered whether I was making a huge generalisation in thinking that men are more visual creatures than women. I think it's something that most of us women believe, and that is why we concern ourselves so much with our appearance.

I'm as guilty as the next person in finding grey hair and wrinkles 'distinguished' in a man, but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't feel the same if it was me

Leaving aside the question of the random cock pic - though it fascinates me why men send them while few women do the equivalent - the increasing sales of men's hair colourants and skin creams suggest that a lot of men no longer think that grey hair and wrinkles are distinguished.

 

[Bert_Fegg]

Recently, I had a conversation with someone and I mentioned that I'd been sent a random cock pic and that I didn't understand why anyone would think I would find that appealing. The guy I was talking to said perhaps it was because men like looking at women's bodies so they assume that women feel the same way about men.

So I wondered whether I was making a huge generalisation in thinking that men are more visual creatures than women. I think it's something that most of us women believe, and that is why we concern ourselves so much with our appearance.

I'm as guilty as the next person in finding grey hair and wrinkles 'distinguished' in a man, but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't feel the same if it was me

I suspect that like most gender differences, the variation within the groups is far greater than the difference between them. I've certainly known women who are highly visual - Not sure how many of them thought willies were cute though. my last gf had a thing for shoulders - she followed a guy into a shop once in a lecherous haze - Anyway, I don't think that women are necessarily less visual than blokes, but I suspect they have more criteria than we do, so it might appear that way.

Also it's got to be said that what one person thinks of as disfiguring, another might see great beauty in. I have a surgical scar on my forearm and it used to give shoulders girl a seriously gooey gusset. I myself have spent hours kissing my kids' mother's stretch marks. In both cases it's not the scars per se, it's what they represent. As for grey hairs and wrinkles, what they represent is experience. That can be a huge turn on.

If I had a point to make I've forgotten was it was. Sorry about that...

 

[NightL]

Recently, I had a conversation with someone and I mentioned that I'd been sent a random cock pic and that I didn't understand why anyone would think I would find that appealing.

The cock sender is a lonely masturbator - the thrill was not intended for you.

I asked a cockatar poster in a thread "why the penis avatar"? The replay was basically "I don't do it for any one else, I only do it for myself because I find it thrilling". Kind of creepy really. They will have little regard for any one else but themselves.

An acquaintance of mine said she had been basically raped at the end of a bad relationship. When she told the person the relationship was totally over he responded with a dick pic.

 

[NightL]

Also it's got to be said that what one person thinks of as disfiguring, another might see great beauty in. I have a surgical scar on my forearm and it used to give shoulders girl a seriously gooey gusset. I myself have spent hours kissing my kids' mother's stretch marks. In both cases it's not the scars per se, it's what they represent...

If I had a point to make I've forgotten was it was. Sorry about that...

You made it very well indeed.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Leaving aside the question of the random cock pic - though it fascinates me why men send them while few women do the equivalent - the increasing sales of men's hair colourants and skin creams suggest that a lot of men no longer think that grey hair and wrinkles are distinguished.

Nonsense, I get naked pix all the time, and I never request them. Females like to see cocks, and theyre liars if they deny it.

 

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[LallyH]

It's interesting to me how smoothly you cross back and forth between insightful, helpful comments and troll garbage. I guess I'm a liar, though. I have zero interest in a cock pic from anyone (including my husband who is far too intelligent to think otherwise). I love his cock, we have a lot of fun together, but if he's going to arouse me with a photo that would not work. I want to see his strong arms, his eyes, his smile, his hands... No woman I know is turned on by a random guy's cock. I feel very comfortable saying it's a small number who would.

^^^^ this

Count me in as one of the liars - I'm more interested in the man than the cock, I'm afraid.

 

[bailadora]

It's interesting to me how smoothly you cross back and forth between insightful, helpful comments and troll garbage. I guess I'm a liar, though. I have zero interest in a cock pic from anyone (including my husband who is far too intelligent to think otherwise). I love his cock, we have a lot of fun together, but if he's going to arouse me with a photo that would not work. I want to see his strong arms, his eyes, his smile, his hands... No woman I know is turned on by a random guy's cock. I feel very comfortable saying it's a small number who would.

^^^^ this

Count me in as one of the liars - I'm more interested in the man than the cock, I'm afraid.

Me three. If someone leads with their genitals, then what that tells me is that they think that's the best and most important thing they have to offer someone. Thanks, but no thanks. I'm interested in the whole package, not just the dangly bits of flesh between the legs.

That's not to say I don't enjoy looking at naked pics of some men, but I'm picky about what I want to see. I'd say 95% of it is more about the way the shot is composed, and how it allows me to build a narrative in my mind. To date, I can think of only one cock shot that really got me all hot and bothered, and I think it had more to do with the rope work, than anything else.

 

[silverwhisper]

j quoth:
it's interesting to me--

ah, i see you're using a new & novel definition of the word "interesting"...

ed