Do men ever actually crave romance?

[Crownvic]

I've been married 24 yrs. today. The romance has gone out of our marriage about 8 yrs. ago. She went back to school to finish her degree, I sat at home alone. Most days it was 8 hours at school and 5 or 6 hrs. at out home computer. NO interaction. I'd start something new but too old for that young shit. ( I'm 73 ) Totally boring life. She's on one end of the couch, and I he other ,, hours go by without a word spoken.

That really sucks..

 

[j23in03]

I think we do, at least I do sometimes. I also think romance is a form of affirmation and I need that also.

 

[AutisticBits]

Not sex, not "the chase"/pursuit, but actual romance. Like holding hands, a makeout session with a long term significant other, buying flowers just because, etc.

As a woman, I love making his favorite food for dinner just because, or putting on lingerie before he gets home to spice up the mood. I get a thrill from a kiss on the head, the emotional closeness a pure expression of affection brings. Is this a purely female need? I am genuinely curious.

Absolutely yes. I crave it more than sex actually, with sex being just the icing on the cake. It seems to be a lost art these days, especially amongst the younger generation.

 

[Stoicbutfun]

Honestly and totally yes, I do and have felt that, to want your wife, lover, to know she is adored and cared for, and that is reciprocated, it’s surely what we all want, that doesn’t mean you can’t have a truly animalistic and sexual relationship with someone, if that is what is on offer.

 

[ColeyD]

Of course we do! We just aren’t as good as showing it as women are

 

[MrMakersMark]

Crave?
No.
I can't even imagine craving romance.

Appreciate and enjoy spontaneous romantic moments?
Absolutely.

 

[InterestedBlonde]

Never known a man (I'm not talking casual acquaintances) who wasn't romantic. Very.

 

[Southernjohn]

I will keep it on the "I"...I do. I love connecting with a wonderful woman, sharing vulnerabilities, life experiences. Communication is another form of intimacy and its so wonderful to share it with someone

 

[Mike130]

There’s definitely a place for romantic love and definitely a place for wild, physical sex. Hopefully if you’ve been married for a while, you have both. I have that with my wife. Sometimes I’ll just walk by her while she’s on her tablet and just kiss the top of her head. I’m not expecting sex, just happy for all the experiences we’ve shared together. Other times, one of us will initiate a hot sexual encounter.

When we began dating, we both had casual sex with others and it taught me the difference between love and lust. I was not jealous of her fucking other guys; sex is a physical thing, for the most part, and many guys would have no problem fucking multiple girls with no emotional attachment. She was the same.

Love on the other hand is an emotional thing. You want, and need, to be together. To share experiences. It’s more than just sex. A gentle touch, a romantic dinner. A stroll on the beach. Comfortable being together. No physical tension. There’s a difference between lust and love. Romance I feel, encompasses both.

 

[lil_jenni]

I am by far the less romantic spouse. Hubby does seem to crave being romantic, and I have grown to appreciate it in way that goes beyond just accommodating him. Hell, sometimes now I really like it, which is a huge change for me from a few years ago, when some folks on here posted they felt sorry for him because I was not looking forward to Valentine's day as I didn't all the romantic stuff. But I don't see it as necessary for love. I love my husband more than I can ever say, but that doesn't stop me wanting raw sex over romantic shit, at least most of the time.

 

[Bbl87]

I do. I would say more intimacy than romance, but romance is part of it. And I don't mean intimacy as in solely sex (though that is a part of it), I mean intimacy as in closeness.

For most of our marriage, I've noticed that even when we have sex there's not much intimacy involved, it tends to be more mechanical. Little in the way of any eye contact, talking, etc.. It's something I definitely crave, but not something she seems to want. And that extends outside of sex. I'm a cuddler, she's not. I'd love to just kiss/hold each other, she doesn't want that.