do you ever feel bad about the things that turn you on?

[nakedplay]

I continue to do what makes me feel guilty, because I like those things. When I am done then I deal with the other feelings

 

[bill3901]

I still do feel bad sometimes. I get turned on by different things but whatever it may be I enjoy doing it shamelessly. Like if I wanted to act like a complete slut in bed; taken and used for his own orgasms, called names and forced to my knees. I would always feel bad during and after like somehow I didn't act like the decent girl I am suppose to be.

I think sometimes there is a symbiotic relationship with guilt and sex, the guilt can make it hotter somehow.

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[nakedplay]

I agree. Some of the hottest things ive read or seen is when someone is hesitant before giving into their desire.

Makes it better when you are trying to weigh should I or shouldn't I

 

[Scheherazade88]

I concur

 

[DirtySecrets11]

I think sometimes there is a symbiotic relationship with guilt and sex, the guilt can make it hotter somehow.

I agree it can make it hotter but personally for myself it depends. I'm still quite reserved in real life with men that I actually care about and want to build something because I feel like I'm somehow tarnishing the image that I want to be seen a SO. So often I find myself in the position of being hesitant, then being coaxed and then finally giving in to my desires. It's tedious at times for the guy because I may have acted a certain way and then suddenly it's expected that I'm instantly now at that comfort level every night. I feel guilty for feeling guilty.

On the bright side: Tequila usually bypasses all the stages.

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[DirtySecrets11]

Two peas lol

I wish I could squeeze you we're so similar... although i don't drink but the vixen/coy thing surely its not just us. the thing is its not an act its just... i dunno personas both are mine.

Aw ^_^ I love being cuddled lol

But I get why you enjoy rape scenes. I don't mind them either but I go for something more softer like Japanese scenes on the train or principal's office that is forced. I always figured it's because I know that desire is in me but my irrational mind holds me back, so my shackles around the idea can only break through with force from another person. I would make a good slave if I was into that lol

 

[free_and_easy]

For example, I like to watch rape scenes mostly from mainstream films because the acting quality is higher hence making it look real. But because actual rape is something I wouldn't wish on anyone and would hate to have happen to me I find it strange that I'm into that.

Maybe its a control thing, the idea of being taken.
Eitherway I feel about it sometimes and other times I can't get enough.

Christ yes: the depth of the guilt probably enhances the peak of the pleasure, and I don't readily admit to some of those fantasies. But the healthy thing us that they are purely that - 'fantasy'

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[Annatartywife]

Sometimes yes and sometimes no...

I guess we all have moments of reflection and can get caught up in a moment then think back later and go.."oh my gosh did i just do that!" or " was I really turned on by that".

So long as no one gets hurt and its consensual I am pretty happy with it...

I have to say I don't like the 'rape' scenario stuff...Not judging anyone, just saying for me thats a step too far (even though I like to be treat roughly and kinda man handled...but 'rape' is an alltogether different kettle of fish for me)....

 

[satin_and_lace]

I used to feel guilty about everything that turned me on. I guess it's a side effect of being raised Catholic. As I grew older I kind of realized that everyone's has sexy little secrets in their closet.

 

[Tastytooter]

I've definitely experienced some guilt and shame resulting from different kinks or desires, but it isn't so much the subject or idea itself that brings the guilt. It's more a sense that I don't deserve to have those kinds of needs; or, maybe that it isn't for me, and so it's embarrassing or upsetting when that thread of thinking crops up. A typical example: I've got a real fetish for women in knee-length boots (which makes fall and winter particularly delightful) and from time to time I'll see a woman in boots on the subway and everything clicks, such that I end up thinking about it throughout the day, it might turn into a fantasy, I'll think about it while masturbating, you get the idea. But at some point in that sequence I'll be aware that I'm putting a lot of emphasis on something that most likely has no grounding in reality - maybe that woman would like knowing how turned on I was by her choice of footwear, but just as likely not.

SELF-PSYCHOANALYSIS WARNING - LEAVE NOW IF THAT'S NOT YOUR THING

A lot of that has to do with being poorly socialized in sexuality, and made overly conscious of how putting too much emphasis on sexual desire makes you ridiculous. For years my father would put underwear in my mom's Christmas stocking, and without fail she rolled her eyes and sighed about it, and said a sarcastic "thank you". This scene transpired every Christmas for my entire adolescence. And I think the combination of those actions - the weirdness of having the underwear in the stocking, and my mom's dramatic rejection - messed me up.

Anyway, great thread, and also I'm sorry!
=tt

 

[DirtySecrets11]

SELF-PSYCHOANALYSIS WARNING - LEAVE NOW IF THAT'S NOT YOUR THING

A lot of that has to do with being poorly socialized in sexuality, and made overly conscious of how putting too much emphasis on sexual desire makes you ridiculous. For years my father would put underwear in my mom's Christmas stocking, and without fail she rolled her eyes and sighed about it, and said a sarcastic "thank you". This scene transpired every Christmas for my entire adolescence. And I think the combination of those actions - the weirdness of having the underwear in the stocking, and my mom's dramatic rejection - messed me up.

Anyway, great thread, and also I'm sorry!
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I like this a lot and also I want to cuddle your face.

 

[MissMissyMiss]

thank you for your post TT

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[Tastytooter]

I like this a lot and also I want to cuddle your face.

My face is my most cuddly feature, so this works out for everyone.

 

[yandere]

i wouldn't announce that too loud round here it wouldn't take you long to find a dom or wannabe dom.

I saw one Japanese forced kinda clip which i found ridiculously stimulating, the girl was so shy she didn't put up a fight but because the man was kinda gentle... you know what let me see if i can find it.

oh god this kind of scenario is so hot to me. i frequently feel shy or ashamed during sexual scenarios (just part of the kink for me).

putting up a fight against a partner who is forcing me by gently teasing me in all the ways I like, is my idea of heaven.

 

[free_and_easy]

oh god this kind of scenario is so hot to me. i frequently feel shy or ashamed during sexual scenarios (just part of the kink for me).

putting up a fight against a partner who is forcing me by gently teasing me in all the ways I like, is my idea of heaven.

Yummy !

 

[MissMissyMiss]

so glad you're here vandere

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[yandere]

i couldn't find the clip i was referring to, i came across it in passing so i see that as a sign not to watch it again cause right now i'm denying any sense of guilt lol.

but there's others so i'll send you a PM vandere if i ever come across the good ones as not even who may come across this thread will be into that and i don't wanna offend anybody

that would be great! thanks Missy

 

[Porkwarrior]

Aw ^_^ I love being cuddled lol

But I get why you enjoy rape scenes. I don't mind them either but I go for something more softer like Japanese scenes on the train or principal's office that is forced. I always figured it's because I know that desire is in me but my irrational mind holds me back, so my shackles around the idea can only break through with force from another person. I would make a good slave if I was into that lol

The only Japanese porn I found oddly tittilating has been the Nippon fetish of a sexy newsreader. Cute Asian woman reading the teleprompter and a man, usually masked, starts sliding her clothes, twisting her nipples, slides a finger in her...and she does her best to resist her body's urges until she's bent over the desk getting pounded. But yeah, the first squeak when her polished, professional voice cracks always gives my cock a twitch.

My guilty pleasure has always been dominant role play. Rape fantasies are not exactly unique, and being the GGG partner if that is what she wants to try I have no problems obliging. But if she asks for it, I throw myself into. Physically dominant, picking her off the ground, throwing her around where I want her, tearing clothes, leaving bruises, forcefully giving orders without a trace of smile & smirk...
Usually in everyday life I am the big, snuggly, teddy bear and I catch my partners unaware with that side of me. Sometimes it ends with an exhausted, enthusiastic "HOLY FUCK...that was fantastic"...but other times it gets awkward the next morning and she can be scared of me.

Either way it always leaves me with a churning gut.
I like being the snuggly bear.

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[Porkwarrior]

heaven help me if he's sexually repressed lol

Hey I prefer the term "Vanilla"

I had a FWB that loved watching rape porn to get in the mood. Role play...but in her head. She loved stroking me while watching other women be raped, the more realistic the better. But never alone, she needed a man there with her.
i.e. The most intense orgasm I ever witnessed from her, was sucking me off watching the Monica Bellucci rape scene from Irreversible, while she used her Bullet.

Always made me more than a bit queasy and lot's of guilt after.

 

[MissMissyMiss]

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[Porkwarrior]

i know the scene of which you speak... thats all i will say.

I had a suspicion, and the first thing that popped to mind when I read the thread.