Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[SPARTAN047]

Yes. And it's not just here, I've developed feelings for the people I met in other chat sites sometimes.

I won't be giving details of what and where, sorry, I'm just venting.

It's really difficult to find someone sexy enough and understanding enough of your deepest, darkest desires. I've started to find out that there are a LOT more people with my fetishes, so it's not a lost cause.

However, it doesn't match the feelings you get from people who you built a connection with, of course. I found it very hard to let go of all of them, but in most cases there was no choice. They made it clear they weren't interested, or I felt that they'd been leading me on due to circumstantial evidence and so on.

It's my own fault in a way and I take full responsibility for that. No one owes you anything at all, not even your parents. I've always been too soft since childhood and while I've learned to become much more guarded about my feelings in life, since I've been hurt by all genders at some point, it's very easy to get into my inner circle as I have almost nobody that close. The hookup partners obviously don't count.

My parents are like this too, over-sensitive to most situations and my siblings are too. We let people into our world very easily and are upset when they don't want to stay.

Confession time: It's not just about me, of course, I'm pretty sure I've also had people contact me sometimes and I didn't respond to them often as I wasn't that interested, or busy. There have been a lot of them and I'm honestly regretful I did that. Perhaps I deserved what I got in some ways, but that's the circle of life.

 

[dombeotch]

Yes I have, there's nothing more enjoyable...

 

[boo56]

I weighed in on this a year or so ago, but I will again. Yes indeed. Real emotions, excitement, attraction, desire and perfectly real disappointment when online interactions seem to have run their course and cease. It may be online, but it's real.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I have in the past, on several occasions. I think it's normal. A lot of people equate sexual contact to love in some way. And being around someone intimately for a while will make any average person develope some sort of feelings. We are not robots here.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Sometimes my feelings for a certain few people here are so intense it's almost too much to bear.
I wish my fragile heart could handle it better but I wouldn't change anything.

Wanted to revisit this.

I don't feel fragile anymore.
Yes I still have incredibly strong emotional connections here. Some are friendships, some are more but I don't feel as dependent on those relationships as I was.

I have sobbed my heart out on many occasions over people here and I've learned how to protect my heart more. I no longer will excuse away being an afterthought or not prioritised by people who would demand so much of me.

I've stopped giving my whole heart, no questions asked, and I'm now able to recognise and ask for what I need too which makes for much stronger connections all round.

 

[Sweetdreams71]

I tell people here things that I can't tell friends, family or husband in fear of judgement....so it's a nice outlet
Of course it's after many conversations and some level of trust has been established

 

[Slyder935236]

I tell people here things that I can't tell friends, family or husband in fear of judgement....so it's a nice outlet
Of course it's after many conversations and some level of trust has been established

Same…but no husband…or wife.

 

[Polranny]

Of course, there is one, no names, no pack drill but she knows who she is, as do a couple of other litsters. There was one other but she ghosted me and has disappeared from Lit

 

[Dirtyoldhornyman]

I think it’s easy to get some real emotions with contacts here on Lit. You chat about the most personal sexual things. I have shared things a about me to some that I haven’t come close to sharing with anyone else in my life.
And they have too. Even a few guys.
There are some super ladies in here. Easy to get emotionally close to them. Close friends happen quickly when you share so much of yourself.
It’s not all about sex and getting off. That’s great but deep mental is what it’s all about.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Im currently very good friends with a guy here on lit for a couple months now.
I made assumptions about him in the beginning that weren't true (nothing bad) and honestly wasn't looking to get emotions for anyone.
One weekend my mental health spiraled out of control nearly.. and he chased me when all I wanted to do was run away.
He planted a seed in my heart you could say.

Now he's still in my life daily, and I am very grateful for him!

 

[mobleedzblue]

Yes and let me tell you how much it hurts. That being said I think its a natural risk when having conversations and connecting.

Agreed. I've never set out to become attached but it has happened in the past.

 

[BreukelenAnima]

A great thread.

It’s very difficult not to form an emotional attachment with people on here. There have been instances when I’ve shared my most intimate secrets with others and that’s a very slippery slope. The cloak of anonymity makes it safe to do so, but it also makes one vulnerable and a sense of longing for the one holding those secrets quickly develops. Too quickly, if I can base it on my experiences here. Lit, I believe, exists as a porthole to escape our daily troubles and pressures and enter into a type of dreamscape. It’s a castle painted atop a cloud, encircled by a rainbow, and the different threads are like rooms where one can explore their fantasies and fetishes, make friends, share random thoughts with like-minded people, or just lose themselves for a little while. But when one leaves this site, reality is right there — and sometimes it crashes upon us. And a fun thread or that one person who has provided this sweet escape has their own reality to deal with. It’s hard to reconcile the longing to further develop what looks like an obvious connection with the messiness of our individual lives. Maybe the only thing in my life that I’m certain of is that there is MORE THAN ENOUGH pain in the world for each and every one of us, so a sincere effort to be kind and considerate is needed. No one is perfect; we all misspeak or misread signs, but we must act in good faith. Everyone deserves respect and kindness on this site. Between making friends or starting a keyboard romance, between sexual exploration or a simple daily check-in, we all must consciously try to be kind, measured in our words and gentle with one another. The great New York writer, Bernard Malamud, once wrote, “Life is a tragedy filled with joy.” It will not end well for any of us….so while here, why not try to be a positive difference for all those we encounter?

 

[boo56]

A great thread.

It’s very difficult not to form an emotional attachments with people on here. ....

Perhaps the best written post in a great thread...

 

[IARainman]

Yes of course, I try to treat people as people (unless their kink is specifically being objectified…and even then based in respect)

 

[Rodlicker11]

I have had the complete range of encounters here. Like everyone some are good and others aren’t. I never thought that I would tell the stories I have told about my feelings and experiences. I am always as honest as I can be. It has resulted in several longer conversations with some very nice and interesting people both men and women. There are a couple people who I have chatted with who know things about me no-one else knows. I have opened up my entire closet to them. In turn a couple people have given me beneficial advice and I have given it to them. All in all there have been some really good conversations and I hope to maintain those relationships. I have developed feelings for some people and it has been good for me.

 

[SouthernTongue69]

Yes I have.

 

[Wriggle]

I hadn't thought about her for months until tonight.