Do you let someone get away with fondling you?

[MrMikelobe1952]

I would personally put this in the same category as having CNC fantasies. Would I, the actual woman typing this, be cool with a stranger “accidentally” groping me in public when I’m just trying to live my life and go about my normal activities? Absolutely not. But do I sometimes fantasize about it, in the privacy of my own home, where I’m safe and know it’s not really happening? Sure. I think that fantasizing about doing something like this or having it done to you is an entirely different thing from actually thinking it’s acceptable behavior. Same is true for most fantasies. There are people who get off on the idea of being cuckolded or of cheating or having group sex, but still want a monogamous relationship in real life. I’m into calling men “daddy,” but I don’t actually get turned on by real incest between biological family members. Groping fantasies are just another thing where it’s important to know where the boundaries are.

Very well put. But I think it’s more like just plain non-consent. CNC can be genuinely playful if agreed upon ahead of time.
Rape fantasies are also common, but that doesn’t mean anyone really wants to be raped

 

[Tayloroc]

Exactly.

 

[Transguycharlie]

My mother in law always grabs my arse and occasionally rubs her hand over my cock when passing and I do the same other ,she was bent over once and I got behind her and had a nice play about with her arse , really squeezing and massaging it lol

That is so hot

 

[womaneater58]

Wow. I cannot believe the number of people who think "fondling" is Ok. Perhaps I should clarify my answer... UNwanted, or UNasked for groping, usually by a stranger, is NOT welcome! And that's how I took the question that was asked. And it can easily cross the line and be considered sexual assault.
Saying that it depends on who the person is or if the person is attractive or not does not make UNwanted groping anymore attractive or exciting. At least not to me. If the person you are letting have free will with your body is someone that you know, or someone that you want to get to know at least physically then that is a totally different thing. That is called mutual fondling or consensual fondling and is not, I believe a form of sexual assault if it is done with consent and cooperation of the parties involved. To just lay there and enjoy it, or to take it without expressing your outrage is , in effect giving consent.
I have been the victim of UNwanted touching and UNwanted attempted sexual contact, and believe me It is not anything erotic, pleasant, pleasurable, or something that I would ever ask for. It is demeaning, degrading, mortifying, and sometimes can be physically hurtful. It is a power thing, with the assailant demonstrating his power over you. If you think being sexually assaulted is exciting, then I think you may not have ever been assaulted before. I can assure you, from my past experiences, that it is not pleasant, and if you are the perpetrator, you will feel my rath; either thru the legal system, or however else I can do it.

I would agree. Well said.

 

[CurtGiles46]

I would agree. Well said.

This thread has already seen examples of women who said they have occasionally liked being groped. That was the point of the thread, to find out if some women enjoy it. Just one poster tried to hijack the thread to give a public service announcement rant against groping.

The problem is that nobody ever claimed all women wanted to be groped and nobody advised for men to go out there and grope women at random since the dangers of that are well known.

Everyone knows that a man better have a pretty good body language radar to know when he has found a willing female who wants to play.

 

[Conquen69]

I have been fondled multiple times by multiple women over the years and damper I miss it.

 

[saintcero]

I thought the male nurse that did my vasectomy prep enjoyed his work a little too much. The room was ice cold and I was nervous so my junk did not react to the multiple cleaning procedures. The guy ultimately said, “jeez, I usually get a reaction” which confirmed my suspicion. If I had to do it again today I guess I would ask for his number

 

[GECuck]

I was groped in a bar once. Halloween and I was dressed as a girl in a skirt. I was in line at the bar, it was crowded so we were packed in. There was a guy behind me and I felt his had brush up against my ass, outside my skirt. It proceeded from there..he reached up under my skirt and grabbed my ass. I was kind of frozen so he kept going. He reached between my legs from the back and fondled my balls a bit but couldn’t reach all the way up to my cock but I’m sure he would if he could. He came back down to my ass and kept pressing his finger into my hole, through my underwear so it didn’t penetrate.

I actually loved it

 

[lil_jenni]

Back when I was in college and going to a lot parties, groping occured frequently. And generally, I did not object. Of course, alcohol was involved, and I kind of thought it was a compliment back then. And yes, I had been sexually assaulted prior to that and still did not mind, because it was within the behavior I expected and even tolerated. Was that wrong of me? Some may think so. It certainly wasn't healthy, but it was my mindset.

These days, if someone fondled my breasts or pussy without my consent, I'd be pissed as fuck! But my ass... that depends. And I'm going to say my quiet part out loud—it depends on who is doing the groping. It's like when I go out shopping in skimpy clothing. I am wanting people to look, but sometimes how people look at me, and who is looking, does not give me the hoped for thrill. Someone fondling my ass is similar. It's happened and I've given the groper a smile and a wink because I liked something about him (or once her). Other times I've been pissed/disgusted.

Should I ever accept it? Probably not. Is it healthy that I sometimes do? Maybe not. Is it a disservice to other women... I worry it is, and yet...

 

[KinkStevens]

No one wants to fondle me. If they did, I’d let them.

 

[AlexBailey]

I love being groped by someone who wants to make me feel good… and as long as it’s someone I know… and it’s not an inappropriate public display…and as long as it’s not a secret from anyone important…

I’ve been groped very inappropriately by men who have mistaken me for female, only to have some of them get mad when they discovered their mistake.

It happened to me a lot at concerts and sports events in the late 80’s early 90’s when I was in my twenties. I wasn’t dressing down, just long hair, Levi’s jeans, and different tops.


I love being groped and played with, but not without knowing the person and having an understanding of the situation… An established pleasure party is fun!


But it’s really gross how common it is for some people to just grab whatever they want. I always imagine them to be the kind of people who don’t wash their hands after using the toilet.

 

[K0fcali]

Ummm, its called 3rd degree sexual assault so if you want to go to jail, feel free, otherwise leave your hands to yourself! And your also saving your balls that way too!

No groping is heavy petting and grabbing. You are thinking of molestation. Why would you assume groping was forced or unwanted? You have deep traumatic issues you need to express and deal with. Its obvious from the way you project your past onto others. Im here to listen if you want to talk about it???

 

[AlexBailey]

Back when I was in college and going to a lot parties, groping occured frequently. And generally, I did not object. Of course, alcohol was involved, and I kind of thought it was a compliment back then. And yes, I had been sexually assaulted prior to that and still did not mind, because it was within the behavior I expected and even tolerated. Was that wrong of me? Some may think so. It certainly wasn't healthy, but it was my mindset.

These days, if someone fondled my breasts or pussy without my consent, I'd be pissed as fuck! But my ass... that depends. And I'm going to say my quiet part out loud—it depends on who is doing the groping. It's like when I go out shopping in skimpy clothing. I am wanting people to look, but sometimes how people look at me, and who is looking, does not give me the hoped for thrill. Someone fondling my ass is similar. It's happened and I've given the groper a smile and a wink because I liked something about him (or once her). Other times I've been pissed/disgusted.

Should I ever accept it? Probably not. Is it healthy that I sometimes do? Maybe not. Is it a disservice to other women... I worry it is, and yet...

I feel and relate to your conflict,

 

[thefireman73]

I was at an outdoor music festival with friends when I was like 24. We were in the standing room section up by the stage. I felt a couple hands grabbing and rubbing my ass. I had some tight jeans on. I turned around and there was two older women right behind me. They both just smiled. I smiled back and turned back around. They groped me off and on during the show. For a while one hand was just in my back pocket. It was fun for all.

 

[gtnlynn]

When we were much younger, my wife let men get away with fondling her when dancing or at clubs, but there were limits. Actually, had she not been drinking, I doubt if she would have allowed it.

 

[hulmule]

I'm in a sexless marriage i would good with it.. Would be nice if the wife saw maybe it would change her mind

 

[Filipinawife]

Sometimes

 

[ChuckWolf]

At my old job in the 90's, getting felt up/groped by female co-workers used to happen pretty frequently.

Loved when it happened and it has spawned a lot of masturbation fantasies.

My one regret was not encouraging it more and having more fun with it, but it was a (unnecessarily) very tense work environment and I was ALWAYS overloaded with work, so the actual job tended to be my focus.

 

[bookworm69]

I was groped once in the late 90's while I was still single. I was drinking with a married friend and his mistress in a bar. He went to the bathroom and while he was gone his gf groped my ass. It felt really good. She gave me her number and we met a few times behind my friend's back.

 

[MissPennyLane]

Looking back throughout different situations in my life I now realise how often this has happened to me and as much as I love attention and being looked at, I don't even mind a cat call - being actually touched or groped without being asked / giving my consent, is now something I realise I am actually not ok with.

Having said that, was I at a party the other day and the guy I was talking to put his hand on my thigh under the table? Yes, did I say anything? No. Why? I think because I was worried I'd get labelled poorly out of the situation as his wife had just left the party about 30 mins prior and people tend to blame women for "asking" for this kind of behaviour even in this day and age. And I appreciate if anyone thinks that seems fairly 'tame' but let's be honest with each other, it was inappropriate and not required at all.

I want to add that I love CNC and exploring that with partners that I feel safe with doing so.

 

[HoldYouDown]

When I was 22 or so I was out at a bar with friends. We were all dressed up so I was looking smart in a suit and tie. A girl I had a crush on was talking to me and I was a bit drunk and quite hard. At one point she was gesticulating and she let her hand drop and graze my dick. She gave me a kind of surprised but intrigued look. I froze a bit and was so drunk said "I have to go home." (Probably a good thing as I would have been a total mess in bed.)

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Do you let someone get away with fondling you?

I’ve heard stories from women about being at parties or even family reunions and they’ll pose next to a guy for a group photo. They might feel his hand slide down from on her back to then touching her ass.

I think most women probably consider it an accident or don’t want to make a scene by complaining.

But maybe it can also be arousing if it’s your cute male cousin or the hot husband of your female friend.

Even for me as a guy, I like the idea of letting them get away with it. I’m not gay but I’d probably let another guy fondle me like that and get away with it, I think it would be exciting.

If a guy fondled me, I reckon his cock would be in my mouth pretty damn quick. I appreciate it's a different situation for a woman.

 

[CuttingEdge]

Very well put. But I think it’s more like just plain non-consent. CNC can be genuinely playful if agreed upon ahead of time.
Rape fantasies are also common, but that doesn’t mean anyone really wants to be raped

Real rape is so utterly disgusting and vile because it is about control and nothing more. Its sexual in nature because that is as intimate as a person can be with another person, and makes the control that much more intimidating and cruel. In other words, it is a power trip and not about pleasurable sex.

Rape fantasy is much different. It is about a person feeling so wanted that they are just taken. Dirty things can then be done because they are not "approving" of what is being done, but know in reality they can always say no and it will stop, or the intensity will lessen.

An example of the latter might be a woman really wanting to try anal sex because she heard from friends and coworkers who liked it, it was great, but she may not dare ask her boyfriend to try it. Instead, she has a rape fantasy where she is just taken, and without asking, she is taken anally. Later she can tell herself, "well I never agreed to it", no matter if she really enjoyed it, or hated it. The point with a rape fantasy is, she tried kinky things without directly asking for it.

This is common in ladies who grew up in religious backgrounds. They feel guilty about asking for the sex they have been curious about. A rape fantasy lets them experience that guilt-free.

 

[fma20fma]

most times i ignore. sometimes i secretly enjoy.

 

[Katch123]

Yep.