Domme, escort, sugar D, cuddler?

[Subbalubbadubdub]

Thanks!

 

[Subbalubbadubdub]

I had a friend who was stationed on Korea for a while and used to talk of the bars with "juicy girls". Like you described, they bring drinks and hang out for the night. Like a really good first date that wasn't ever going to go anywhere

 

[Subbalubbadubdub]

I think if you had to pay for it, it wouldn't be real.

i definitely felt this way about going to see a pro dominatrix. i want someone to WANT to tie me up and spank me. It's not just about the act but the intent.

Sex can be different though. How many married couples have uninspired sex just to "get it out of the way"?

Or masturbation? If i had to parse out my motivation for a "real" orgasm every time, i'd be carrying around a lot more stress (although i WOULD save on lotions and tissue).

 

[Subbalubbadubdub]

I used to have a regular arrangement with a woman who'd come to my house and trade her time for compensation. Because I hate cleaning, and I was paying enough to make it worth her while.

I have time-for-money arrangements with my doctor, my lawyer, my masseur, and with the people who make and deliver my dinner on nights when I don't feel like cooking. And in the other direction, some folk are willing to pay me for my time, in stuff I'm good at, which is how I afford all those services in the first place.

If "companionship" is a skill that somebody values enough to pay for, and somebody else is willing to provide, then I don't see that as any different, regardless of whether there's a sexual element. It's not an arrangement that would be likely to work for me unless I had the budget to make it a regular thing, but that's just my personal preferences, not a moral judgement.

Perhaps the question should be, why do people view paid escorting/companionship so differently to all the other situations where "pay people for their time" is considered acceptable and unremarkable?

Well put. I think it's hard (pun intended) to put sex in the same category as food prep or cleaning. It's a lot more personal. But if it works for both people, why not?

 

[Subbalubbadubdub]

But, part of the 'reality' in companionship is sincerity. I'd question the person's sincerity, doubt every laugh at my jokes. Plus, it's very likely they are just a stranger and would be someone I don't connect with.

Like others, I don't see anything unethical or bad about paying for company — it does seem pretty sad though. I'm thankful I've never needed to go there.

All the lonely people, where do they all come from ... where do they all belong

I feel the same way. I just don't know WHY i feel the same way. Not exactly, anyway.

Why do i envy the guy who can afford to eat out at a new restaurant every night, but feel sad for the guy who even occasionally pays for companionship?

 

[Subbalubbadubdub]

The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs a lot less.

I'm not sure it's about the value, but on some level i get your point. We can invest a lot in relationships, only to lose everything (house, money, friends - AND a sexual partner) when it falls apart. But if you could just boil it down to a transaction...

 

[Subbalubbadubdub]

But you aren't actually paying them for their time. You are paying them for their skill and willingness to do xyz task. If you want a pro-domme, look at a local dungeon. Many of them would probably be willing to negotiate companionship.

Having dated a woman who used to be an escort, i have to say that she was definitely more skilled than any other woman i've been with. I've had drunken-sex and clumsy-first-time-sex and intimate-loving-sex and angry-make-up sex and boring-work-night sex, but i'm here to tell you that experience makes a difference!