Fear of anal

[lovetoread]

I dont see it as something I'll be doing anytime soon.

It is just frightening to me.

And that description above me aint helping.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I dont see it as something I'll be doing anytime soon.

It is just frightening to me.

And that description above me aint helping.

What is the closest you've gotten to trying it, LTR? Ever just had a wet wiggling tongue back there? Or a soft tickling lubed up finger?

PBW

 

[lovetoread]

What is the closest you've gotten to trying it, LTR? Ever just had a wet wiggling tongue back there? Or a soft tickling lubed up finger?

PBW

Yes to the first.

Almost to the second. Its been there just not in.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Yes to the first.

Almost to the second. Its been there just not in.

And it wasn't a pleasant feeling? or you don't have someone to do it to ya? Or you just don't want to even go there?

PBW

 

[lovetoread]

I have someone that wants to do it,but he says I am not relaxed enough.

I am thinking of getting drunk and getting it over with.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I have someone that wants to do it,but he says I am not relaxed enough.

I am thinking of getting drunk and getting it over with.

NOOOOOOOoooooooooooo

well at least not drunk. Just a drink or two. Yanno... to take the edge off. You don't want to be so blitzed you don't remember it or to the point where you are falling asleep. I recommend using a vibrating egg or a very very slim vibrator (anal vibe). And of course... a ton of lube. And just take your time... there isn't any rush. Not like you are going to get a medal for doing it faster LOL. Pretty soon... once you get past the first experience (assuming it was a pleasureable one) you can move up to bigger and better things ... at your own pace.

The most important thing... if you aren't enjoying it... just stop. But if you've got some cool things going on... just go with the flow . And a couple of fingers rubbing your clit is definitely a bonus.

PBW "I'm not an anal freak, I just play one on TV"

 

[lovetoread]

I'll keep plugging away at it...heh.

I figure one day I will get it done.

btw,I was told no about getting drunk to do it.

It seemed like a good idea.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I'll keep plugging away at it...heh.

I figure one day I will get it done.

btw,I was told no about getting drunk to do it.

It seemed like a good idea.

Hehe.. no pun intended there huh? <chuckle>

Actually... and I don't know if you are into this or not... but just thought I'd toss this out there.... not that I'm advocating this or anything... but a little Mary Jane just before your first anal is very helpful. One partner that I took her anal virgin smoked a joint before hand... and was very relaxed by the time we got to actual penetration.

Maybe some of the other learned ladies and gentlemen here can attest to this.

PBW "Damn... is it 4:20 already?? Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit"

 

[Cirrus]

A little update for y'all. We haven't attempted actual intercourse again since that first time, but I'm able to take a medium buttplug with no pain and some pleasure, and a dildo that's as thick as the plug but longer with a little more pain...but it's getting better.

I used to tense up at his fingers...now I LOVE it when he's fucking me and slides 1 or 2 in there. If I'm having a hard time getting over the edge, that usually does it if it's going to happen at all.

I'm actually starting to equate anal play with pleasure now, instead of pain and fear.

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

Those buttplugs work wonders.

 

[~Dream~]

Anal in Waiting ..

Gee all this sounds so wonderfully erotic .. I cant wait to try it with Master.. hopefully .. I know He Loves giving me spankings so its not like He's unfamiliar with my ass

 

["angel" eve]

i was involved w/ my 2nd partner, J at 18. i mentioned the idea of anal, not that i wanted to try it specifically, but at least add it to the list of possibilites, or cyber scenes. being a LDR we ussually worked up to things cyber and when we saw each other we might do it IRL. he did NOT like the idea. no way no how. he'd heard all the negative aspects of anal. how it can lead to anal tearing and infection it was too risky etc etc. i crossed it off the list w/ him... even as a subject of conversation after about the 3rd time i'd mentioned it. i knew from fingering my ass that i liked it. that reading something well written about anal made me hot... this was something that seemed good.

a 2 night stand partner soon after wanted anal - badly. but he was a 20 yr old saving good old vanilla sex for when he found the right girl, willing to do EVERYTHING else until then. and i didn't know him and trust him enough to be wiling to put myself at that kind of risk. i need to have alot of confidence in whoever was taking my anal virginity thanks.

my 3rd real partner was very open to new ideas. he was a vanilla w/ a kinky streak that suited me just wonderfully. eventually during sex once i led his hand to my ass and he fingered me and it was a shaky and beautiful subspace i got from that. i was not ready to go farther than that though. we did this on occasion for awhile. he would sometimes ask me if i wanted to try anal, but didn't push the idea. i said i wanted to, but i wasn't ready. and that was okay with him. i was on the pill, and i knew him well enough and trusted him (we'd been friends for some time before) that i was on the pill and we didn't use condoms unless i'd slipped and i couldn't be sure it was safe. it was about a month since the idea of anal had came up oringinally. we were both extremely horny, but i'd forgotten a pill. we had 2 choices, he could wear what we called the "spooge bag" or we could stick to fingers and tounge. i had a NEED for more than that, so shyly, having became more comfortable with the idea of anal sex over time, i asked if we had to use a condom why not do something that would require us to use it anyway. we talked a bit...

ended up on a 45 minute drive to find condoms at 11pm and off all things we couldn't find any at 3 stores. finnally finding them at a shoppers drug mart. we got some lube too... and all i can think of is the teenage clerk looking at us thinking what we were going home to do. *blush/grin*

the sex wasn't too good. it hurt a bit much, although i liked it. and to keep me calm he talked me through it, making me feel like a science experiment. i wasn't scared. but i couldn't exactly do it either.

i've explained the rest of my experience earlier in the thread i believe. the summary being the 3rd time we did it i was blindfolded, wrists tied in front of me. if i lay my cheek to the pillow i could use my hands to play with my clit and it felt amazing. i lie there nearly passed out and shaking for an hour after.

moral of the story, the hardest part for me was getting used to the idea. it was best for me to give myself time to get used to the thought, fantasize... and when i got comforable with the idea the reality was alright. it took practice, but at least the first experience was good enough i was willing to try again.

 

[P. B. Walker]

A little update for y'all. We haven't attempted actual intercourse again since that first time, but I'm able to take a medium buttplug with no pain and some pleasure, and a dildo that's as thick as the plug but longer with a little more pain...but it's getting better.

I used to tense up at his fingers...now I LOVE it when he's fucking me and slides 1 or 2 in there. If I'm having a hard time getting over the edge, that usually does it if it's going to happen at all.

I'm actually starting to equate anal play with pleasure now, instead of pain and fear.

That is awesome Cirrus!!! Pretty soon you'll be ready for his cock. Can't wait to hear when ya report back on that. <winks>

PBW

 

[SierraMoon]

i am also a big fan of anal play... i do find that a vibrator helps to 'loosen' me up, before actual penetration with a cock. and, as everyone else has said in this thread, Lube, Lube and more Lube!! it's Very Important!

 

[Cirrus]

i had a NEED for more than that, so shyly, having became more comfortable with the idea of anal sex over time, i asked if we had to use a condom why not do something that would require us to use it anyway.

Maybe I'm missing something, but why would you NEED to use a condom for anal sex, if you're both disease free and there isn't going to be vaginal penetration in the same "sitting"? Do some people just like it better for the cleanliness factor?

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

... Do some people just like it better for the cleanliness factor?

If someone is going to have anal sex without first taking and enema, they should wear a condom ... and perhaps surgical gloves. Actually, it's probably a good idea to wear a condom regardless of how apparently clean ones back door may seem. The likelihood of occult bleeding is much higher in anal sex.

 

[lillum]

Maybe I'm missing something, but why would you NEED to use a condom for anal sex, if you're both disease free and there isn't going to be vaginal penetration in the same "sitting"? Do some people just like it better for the cleanliness factor?

Hi Cirrus,sometimes we use condoms during anal only for the pure pleasure of being able to stop for a few minutes so I can give him some head it's easier to just take the condom off and you do'nt have to stop to wash up before oral sense it kinda ruins the moment if ya know what I mean and these are two of my favroit things.Also putting a condom on the butt plug or dildo before anal cause he likes me to hold them in my mouth maybe discipline my body in some way and than put them back in my bottom.Condoms just make it easier and cleaner for us....lillum

 

[metalpalace]

iv only given anal to one women my entire life. Id like to try that again. I do not know of any girls that want to try it unfortunately. Sux for me but what can i do ?

 

[zipman]

Another good Bump!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Condoms on toys

I routinely use condoms on all my toys that are used for insertion. Since I am a Domme and have male subs, that means I cover all dildos and vibes with condoms before any anal play.

The exception is anal beads. I also carry antibacterial dish soap in my bag, as well as a spray bottle of isopropyl alcohol.

Ebony

 

[P. B. Walker]

Re: Condoms on toys

I routinely use condoms on all my toys that are used for insertion. Since I am a Domme and have male subs, that means I cover all dildos and vibes with condoms before any anal play.

The exception is anal beads. I also carry antibacterial dish soap in my bag, as well as a spray bottle of isopropyl alcohol.

Ebony

Is the Alcohol for cleaning purposes?

Just wonderin

PBW "Not that I'll be needing it or anything like that... being the anal virgin that I am <winks>"

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Condoms on toys

Is the Alcohol for cleaning purposes?

Just wonderin

PBW "Not that I'll be needing it or anything like that... being the anal virgin that I am <winks>"

Yep

Eb

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

Re: Condoms on toys

I routinely use condoms on all my toys that are used for insertion. Since I am a Domme and have male subs, that means I cover all dildos and vibes with condoms before any anal play.

The exception is anal beads. I also carry antibacterial dish soap in my bag, as well as a spray bottle of isopropyl alcohol.

Ebony

I'm of the opinion that toys should never be shared, especially latex ones. I was an Operating Room technician for 8 years ... and that experience has led me to trust nothing where infectious diseases are concerned. Silicone, supposedly, is more hygenic and can be disinfected. But, I just wouldn't take that chance. Even with a condom-covered toy, I'd be skeeved-out at the idea that it had been in someone else's ass. My motto is, to each his/her own ... butt-plugs, Nexus articulated strap-ons, and such ...

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Condoms on toys

I'm of the opinion that toys should never be shared, especially latex ones. I was an Operating Room technician for 8 years ... and that experience has led me to trust nothing where infectious diseases are concerned. Silicone, supposedly, is more hygenic and can be disinfected. But, I just wouldn't take that chance. Even with a condom-covered toy, I'd be skeeved-out at the idea that it had been in someone else's ass. My motto is, to each his/her own ... butt-plugs, Nexus articulated strap-ons, and such ...

To tell you the truth my anal toys have been less places than most men's cocks. Maybe more men should have more than one cock.

If you clean them, they are fine.

Ebony

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Re: Condoms on toys

To tell you the truth my anal toys have been less places than most men's cocks. Maybe more men should have more than one cock.

If you clean them properly, and use condoms, they are fine.

Ebony