Fear of anal

[leejo]

I find that with males, I use progressively larger in size buttplugs to ease them into the inevitable.

When they can get the big butt plug in and out with no trouble, they can susually take any size dildo I throw at them!

And of course there is lots of lube involved, and I use condoms on the dildoes (after they have sucked it sufficiently), I find that a lubed condomed dildo goes in nice and easy.

Ebony

this sound so very good..

 

[FurryFury]

this sound so very good..

And it is...very good.

Fury

 

[DVS]

The smell of excrement makes me puke, the thought about it alone is to me extremely repulsive. To have my fountain of love and life besmeared with the even ever so slight possibility of fecal matter is so disgusting that the idea alone to have sex in a shit hole is impossible.
Amen.

Wear a condom so what little excrement is there doesn't touch your body. Use scented lube, so you don't smell anything except for that. Perform an enema beforehand, to cleanse the anal path of anything you dislike. If you truly wanted to try anal sex, you would have found a way.

It's quite obvious to me that you don't want to venture into that body canal, so don't. But, why do you find it necessary to post your phobic distaste for the act on a thread that is obviously full of anal lovers? Anal sex has been around for centuries. Live and let live.

Personally, I've NEVER smelled anything even close to excrement nor have I seen it, during anal sex. Sure the bacteria is there, and you should never go from anal to vagina for fear of transfering that bacteria.
Now, going the other way is fine...

You have a right to your opinion, as to others. Let it go, with that.

Amen.

 

[graceanne]

But, why do you find it necessary to post your phobic distaste for the act on a thread that is obviously full of anal lovers?

I think he's a troll.

 

[DVS]

I think he's a troll.

Oh. Well then...in my very best Emily Litella voice: "Ohhhhhhh ... never mind."

 

[lovetobeasub]

I didn't read all the responses so I am sorry if for any reason this subject was already been answered.

Years ago someone tried this on me and OMG such pain but he just pushed it in and once in of couse it was pleasurable. Now my Dom/Hub wants me to do this so bad but everytime he tries I feel the pain. Is this normal? Am I just tighting up? Is this possible to do with no pain? I want to give him this very badly but at a certain point it hurts so bad. We lubed to no end so it isn't that. I can take med but plugs no problem. Would love to hear from arse lovers and if it is possible with no pain? Do we have to stretch me out by wearing butt plugs for extend times? Then get bigger ones? Ohhhhhhhhhh please help I want to be able to do this for him so bad.
Thanks.
(I know a few drinks would help but I am preggo so can't do that)

 

[kayte]

I didn't read all the responses so I am sorry if for any reason this subject was already been answered.

Years ago someone tried this on me and OMG such pain but he just pushed it in and once in of couse it was pleasurable. Now my Dom/Hub wants me to do this so bad but everytime he tries I feel the pain. Is this normal? Am I just tighting up? Is this possible to do with no pain? I want to give him this very badly but at a certain point it hurts so bad. We lubed to no end so it isn't that. I can take med but plugs no problem. Would love to hear from arse lovers and if it is possible with no pain? Do we have to stretch me out by wearing butt plugs for extend times? Then get bigger ones? Ohhhhhhhhhh please help I want to be able to do this for him so bad.
Thanks.
(I know a few drinks would help but I am preggo so can't do that)

Sweetie, I believe your body remembers the pain of that first time and you are tensing up.

When your ass is relaxed, it is very pleasurable, even the initial popping in.

What might work is to have him give you such an orgasm first, with his fingers, his tongue a vibe. And as you are relaxing from that he needs to be playing with your ass. Working on finger in, then two. With lots of lube and to be circling them stretching you just a bit. As he is entering you with his fingers and later his cock, you need to push back on it.

When he is using his cock and you will get to that point; he needs to let you be in control, at first. You need to push back on his cock. He has to let you guide the speed of the entry and the depth. When you have adjusted, you push back more and take more of him. When he is all the way in, you and he need to wait for a momemt. Again to let your body adjust to the sensation. Then you need to start rocking back and forth. Then and only then should he start to move his hips, and start gently fucking your ass.

If you are in control, I am sure your body will not be so tense.

I was so very lucky with my first introduction to anal sex. I do enjoy it. I also understand how it can hurt if done incorrectly.

Remember it should never hurt!

Good luck.

 

[david_42]

Perhaps someone made these points and I missed them. Perhaps not. There's nothing like preceeding anal exploration of any kind with an orgasm or two. Second, if the receiver cramps, withdraw slowly and completely. Wait ten minutes or so (doing something else to keep the head of steam up) and re-enter. And I guess one more, anal sex isn't a contest or a race.