IrisAlthea
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Sometimes two people can't see eye to eye on money matters, but in most other things are compatible.
Yes, I can see how that can be the case but I just can’t wrap my head around how it would actually work if there is a big enough difference in perspective.
If they are really irresponsible with money, am I supposed to let them crash and burn if they get in real trouble?
Do we eat different things and take different kinds of vacation?
If they insist on living in a McMansion, do I refuse to pay more toward the living costs than I would have for the size house I found reasonable?
Being married I would still be responsible for their maintenance if they got themselves in financial trouble.
I recently read a question to the family law expert in the paper, where a couple had been separating and getting a divorce and then the husband had changed his mind. The wife had inherited a sum from a parent during the separation and now he wanted to use that for house renovations and a new car.
She was unsure if the money was the reason for his change of heart and wanted to know how she could protect her personal assets(the inheritance).
She got the advice to keep the money separate and requesting receipts and IOUs to keep her personal money from getting tainted by marriage rights.
I just can’t see myself feeling safe and fully committed in cases like that. I’d prefer not to marry and not officially living together, I think.
I realize that I might sound like manosphere blogger, but I promise that I’m not. I just tend to have an oldfashioned view on marriage and commitment in that I take it very seriously and when I start to care about someone, even on a rather casual level, I tend to keep caring, which is why I would find it difficult to impossible to keep things that separated.
This means that my husband gets involved in the amount of shoes and little black dresses needed in a womans life and I need to be aware of the construction of the brake discs of his motorcycle (forged by the dwarves in dragonfire, of rare metals with elven inscriptions as I understand it).
Totally worth it to me though.