For his pleasure...

[magic_rat]

Mmm, but I don't get why more women don't go down on men.

because, like you and your reservations about men going down on you, everyone has preferences, likes and dislikes. I think maybe a lot of women feel pressured into doing it rather than learning to love it.

My partner was married before me and also in a long term relationship. Both of those guys (fucking idiots!) thought oral sex was dirty, both ways. That is probably what turned her off men going down on her - she's paranoid about being dirty or smelling down there. But it left her desperate to try giving a guy a blow job, and she found out she was good at it, and loved doing it.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

You describe my partner perfectly. She gives the most amazing blow jobs and can have a guy groaning and moaning in seconds.

But having a guy go down on her isn't her favourite thing. We were in a 4some once with another couple and the guy had his face buried down there giving it his all and she just looked uncomfortable. He was too into his own thing that he didn't even notice that she wasn't getting anything out of it.

If she's in the right mood, it's all good, but I can make her cum faster and more frequently and more violently with my fingers.

Guys seem to think it's a requirement or a badge of masculinity to be able to eat pussy for hours, but they run the risk of not actually reading a woman's responses and giving her what she actually wants.

I'm so glad you seem to not only be attuned to your partner's needs and likes, but fully respect them.

I agree. I don't know where that idea comes from, but it is definitely something that should be a discussion rather than an assumption

 

[Chloe_Harper]

because, like you and your reservations about men going down on you, everyone has preferences, likes and dislikes. I think maybe a lot of women feel pressured into doing it rather than learning to love it.

My partner was married before me and also in a long term relationship. Both of those guys (fucking idiots!) thought oral sex was dirty, both ways. That is probably what turned her off men going down on her - she's paranoid about being dirty or smelling down there. But it left her desperate to try giving a guy a blow job, and she found out she was good at it, and loved doing it.

That is a very good point. I am sure there are instances where the feeling is reversed. However, as a woman who talks to women, and quite openly about things since I was young, women tend to be of a different mindset *usually*. This is not to dispute you, as I believe there are women that do have some real anxiety about it.

All the women I've known or spoken to about giving head, they know it's like this carrot they can dangle in front of men. Something to offer in exchange for something they know he'll say yes to for a blowjob. Or just, don't do them often because they don't have to. It's difficult to explain without bashing my own gender, but women can be a bit conniving. Lol

 

[Hipshot1554]

I'm so glad you seem to not only be attuned to your partner's needs and likes, but fully respect them.

I agree. I don't know where that idea comes from, but it is definitely something that should be a discussion rather than an assumption

This thread really points out the fact that people need to know the sexual preferences of a prospective partner early on. It's another strong argument for honest communication.

A man that really enjoys eating pussy won't be happy with a woman that isn't into it, and vice versa.

 

[penshockey1983]

I thought I would start this thread because I always get asked about receiving and how much I probably love it and blah blah blah.

Look, receiving is nice sometimes. When it's been a while, then it's even better. I just don't actually love it. It's not a turn on for me to talk or think about getting eaten out.

However... I am a giver. I love to give him pleasure. I find it hot to hear his groans, the hiss through his teeth, the catch of his breath. Seeing the eruption or tasting it after all that hard work, gets me wet enough without receiving.

Am I the only girl like this? And, are there guys that like this in a girl? I can only seem to find those that insist I just haven't had things done properly. I have. I just prefer do things for his pleasure.

It was awesome just reading that. I can only imagine experiencing it.....

 

[IARainman]

See, and I am like, go down on me like once a year. That's literally all I need.

Mmm, but I don't get why more women don't go down on men. Sucking on a cock is one of the hottest, most empowering feelings. It's insane how powerful yet completely submissive that action can be. Just that mix of emotions along with the sound of his pleasure, is enough to make me want to give one again and again and again.

Hand jobs have their own fun too. And I do enjoy giving those as well for similar reasons.

I am sorry your wife doesn't offer you that relief. I won't pry about what you've resorted to, but maybe one day she'll change her mind.

I'm glad you think so highly of this trait rather than trying to convince me it's not real or something.

I think I understand, as a guy I’m ambivalent about being sucked but I could lick pussy and ass all day.

 

[boo56]

I could become a fan of a talented 'giver.' Just sayin'...

 

[lil_jenni]

I thought I would start this thread because I always get asked about receiving and how much I probably love it and blah blah blah.

Look, receiving is nice sometimes. When it's been a while, then it's even better. I just don't actually love it. It's not a turn on for me to talk or think about getting eaten out.

However... I am a giver. I love to give him pleasure. I find it hot to hear his groans, the hiss through his teeth, the catch of his breath. Seeing the eruption or tasting it after all that hard work, gets me wet enough without receiving.

Am I the only girl like this? And, are there guys that like this in a girl? I can only seem to find those that insist I just haven't had things done properly. I have. I just prefer do things for his pleasure.

I was a lot like this in college, especially my sophomore and junior years. Most of what I did was give BJs and take care of myself later. I didn't want or need guys to give me an orgasm. I knew what to do, and so few of them had any fucking clue.

Hubby's different, and I love him going down on me. But even so, I would say it's still about a 3:1 ratio of how often I make him come from oral to how often he makes me come from oral, and that's with him usually giving me more than one when he goes down on me. He'd probably do it more often, but I'm very much a giver... plus I almost always come from PIV sex with him, often more than once, so I figure we come out pretty even in the end.

 

[lil_jenni]

Oh, and it's completely different with other women. I love both giving and receiving oral with another woman.

 

[Deadfreak]

That is a very good point. I am sure there are instances where the feeling is reversed. However, as a woman who talks to women, and quite openly about things since I was young, women tend to be of a different mindset *usually*. This is not to dispute you, as I believe there are women that do have some real anxiety about it.

All the women I've known or spoken to about giving head, they know it's like this carrot they can dangle in front of men. Something to offer in exchange for something they know he'll say yes to for a blowjob. Or just, don't do them often because they don't have to. It's difficult to explain without bashing my own gender, but women can be a bit conniving. Lol

That Siren's song

 

[ClockworkFox]

Boy i dont know where you live but i havent noticed that... I'm around younger people alot and the slutty part...dont see it. We have open discussions. I think their open to how people want their lives and dont look down or judge, but i think the 70', 80's were the best lol

Hi, Hulmule,

Well, you don't see it because many, many people, and I include myself, are secret sluts sloping around in the shadows. Not for everyone, but I like it. Those young people you spend a lot of time with may not be sluts, or may simply not be showing their sluttiness and are keeping it under wraps. They could, of course, say "Hi, how are you, Hulmule, God, you know, I'm such a slut it isn't even funny", and then proceed to slut it up in public in a thousand ways, but people who proclaim their sluttiness kind of turn me off, because there's no mystery, nothing you don't expect, no hidden thrill. I know it's a cliché, but I find the apparently prudish, bookish, priggish, librarian, nerdy types who transform into utter sluts when it matters much more exciting.

 

[drobert44]

That Siren's song

It's always a game......lol

 

[Erosfan]

I thought I would start this thread because I always get asked about receiving and how much I probably love it and blah blah blah.

Look, receiving is nice sometimes. When it's been a while, then it's even better. I just don't actually love it. It's not a turn on for me to talk or think about getting eaten out.

However... I am a giver. I love to give him pleasure. I find it hot to hear his groans, the hiss through his teeth, the catch of his breath. Seeing the eruption or tasting it after all that hard work, gets me wet enough without receiving.

Am I the only girl like this? And, are there guys that like this in a girl? I can only seem to find those that insist I just haven't had things done properly. I have. I just prefer do things for his pleasure.

You sound like my late wife. She loved to take care of me. I loved to return the favor.

 

[13Fantasies]

I will curtsy and thank you. Words and blow jobs, the two things I'm okay at. Haha.

I can only verify the word portion currently. Just saying.

 

[Northwind75]

I'm so glad you seem to not only be attuned to your partner's needs and likes, but fully respect them.

I agree. I don't know where that idea comes from, but it is definitely something that should be a discussion rather than an assumption

Kind of sounds like my wife. She has never let me go down on her but she loves giving me BJ's. I was married before and my first wife loved me down there. I would go there 2 or 3 times when we had sex and she gave me BJ's but she wouldn't let me cum in her mouth. This woman loves to give me BJ's and let's me finish. I think her clitoris is in her throat because she has an orgasm while sucking me.

 

[Hypnobitch01]

I just adore making men moan, especially when they look a little embarrassed after. So cute!

 

[hulmule]

Hi, Hulmule,

Well, you don't see it because many, many people, and I include myself, are secret sluts sloping around in the shadows. Not for everyone, but I like it. Those young people you spend a lot of time with may not be sluts, or may simply not be showing their sluttiness and are keeping it under wraps. They could, of course, say "Hi, how are you, Hulmule, God, you know, I'm such a slut it isn't even funny", and then proceed to slut it up in public in a thousand ways, but people who proclaim their sluttiness kind of turn me off, because there's no mystery, nothing you don't expect, no hidden thrill. I know it's a cliché, but I find the apparently prudish, bookish, priggish, librarian, nerdy types who transform into utter sluts when it matters much more exciting.

Well i hope your right and one loosens up to me... Would be pretty exciting to have one a third of my age riding me..

 

[hulmule]

I just adore making men moan, especially when they look a little embarrassed after. So cute!

Why would i looked embarrassed after you made me moan? I would love to moan for you, it shows my pleasure you're giving me

 

[FreeMaggieForAll]

I thought I would start this thread because I always get asked about receiving and how much I probably love it and blah blah blah.

Look, receiving is nice sometimes. When it's been a while, then it's even better. I just don't actually love it. It's not a turn on for me to talk or think about getting eaten out.

However... I am a giver. I love to give him pleasure. I find it hot to hear his groans, the hiss through his teeth, the catch of his breath. Seeing the eruption or tasting it after all that hard work, gets me wet enough without receiving.

Am I the only girl like this? And, are there guys that like this in a girl? I can only seem to find those that insist I just haven't had things done properly. I have. I just prefer do things for his pleasure.

To be able to give him pleasure, to bring him to cum, is one of the biggest turn ons. That point where he loses his self control is my favorite thing.

 

[Kittenheels54]

I love hearing my husband moan because of something I’m doing, stroking my hair, praising me…it’s so hot!

 

[ClockworkFox]

I just adore making men moan, especially when they look a little embarrassed after. So cute!

That's the power-hungriness inside you, Hypnobitch01. We all moan, because moaning is good, but real men growl at the Moment of Truth. Yes, a low growl of approval to their dirty lady, to confirm and continue their complete fantasy that they're calling the shots here (unfortunate term, I know, but I'll let it stay there).

Apparently many men yell "Mother!!!!". Jesus. Now THAT I find much more than odd. The last person I'd be thinking about during the warm wet rush would be my mother, FFS. Is it because they're going back to their childhood, remembering when they'd finally mastered the art of riding a bike and had started to show off a little, screaming "Hey, look, mum, no hands!" After all, some men just press the palms of their hands into their ass cheeks and let the girlie do the handling, don't they? So the big boys tell me, anyway.

I suppose I could have worked the "bike-riding" thing in a little more there as a lewd double entendre, but no, I'll leave it.

 

[VikingPhoenixx]

I thought I would start this thread because I always get asked about receiving and how much I probably love it and blah blah blah.

Look, receiving is nice sometimes. When it's been a while, then it's even better. I just don't actually love it. It's not a turn on for me to talk or think about getting eaten out.

However... I am a giver. I love to give him pleasure. I find it hot to hear his groans, the hiss through his teeth, the catch of his breath. Seeing the eruption or tasting it after all that hard work, gets me wet enough without receiving.

Am I the only girl like this? And, are there guys that like this in a girl? I can only seem to find those that insist I just haven't had things done properly. I have. I just prefer do things for his pleasure.

I know how you feel. There's such a wonderful feeling that goes hand in hand with giving pleasure to someone that you've got good chemistry with. At the same time, I'm a sucker for receiving as well...mmmm, sit back, get comfortable, get worked up while watching and indulging in the effort and gift that's being given and give back my lust, satisfaction and creamy treat in return...that's what I call mutual satisfaction.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Kind of sounds like my wife. She has never let me go down on her but she loves giving me BJ's. I was married before and my first wife loved me down there. I would go there 2 or 3 times when we had sex and she gave me BJ's but she wouldn't let me cum in her mouth. This woman loves to give me BJ's and let's me finish. I think her clitoris is in her throat because she has an orgasm while sucking me.

Yea, that whole clit in the throat thing, it can really feel that way for someone who just LOVES to give. It's orgasmic. But, it's also isolating when it's a feeling that's completely misunderstood or disregarded altogether.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I know how you feel. There's such a wonderful feeling that goes hand in hand with giving pleasure to someone that you've got good chemistry with. At the same time, I'm a sucker for receiving as well...mmmm, sit back, get comfortable, get worked up while watching and indulging in the effort and gift that's being given and give back my lust, satisfaction and creamy treat in return...that's what I call mutual satisfaction.

See, I think that that's great that so many people, so many couples, seem to have this understanding of what is mutually satisfying. Hipshot said it perfectly, knowing your partner's sexual needs and preferences is crucial, and the earlier the better. That being said, I do like going into any relationship I've been in with an open mind and a willingness to try. It's not always easy, but I think that that's equally important

 

[nostuff]

When I was in my teens, I read somewhere that servicing your partner was better than getting serviced. Being a horny teen, I wrote that off as total bullshit.

Something changed as I matured, and I found myself increasingly interested in taking good care of my partner. That's not to dismiss the importance of my own orgasms. I really, really, really enjoy cumming. But more important is knowing I have the ability to make my lover squirm, moan, shiver, shake, etc. And I'll spend all night eating pussy or sucking cock, if that's what it takes. Even if I don't get to cum myself; I can always take care of that later.

Making my partner happy makes me happy.