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AlwaysFara
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Missed this bit:
This is dishonest, verging on gaslighting. Fara didn't "refuse to allow it to be discussed", she just said she wasn't going to participate further in that discussion.
Nobody owes you a discussion. For some of us, discussing certain topics can take a great deal of time or emotional labour which we're not always in a place to give. I KNOW you understand this because I've seen you do it yourself, repeatedly: when a discussion gets too stressful you'll pull out, with or without notice to other participants.
That is a healthy choice, it's self-care. But the fact that you're now shaming Fara for that same kind of self-care is illustrative of exactly why some of us find that talking with you may sometimes be too much emotional labour. It is *very draining* to talk to somebody who does not respect the fact that others may also require self-care, who turns that into some kind of personal oppression.
Having now drained my own batteries on this one, I need to exercise that same self-care I've just been talking about. I don't have the energy to participate further in conversation with you for a long time, and I'll be using the ignore option to remind myself of that.
You are an amazing person.
Yes. I talk about this a lot. In my job. In my other social media. In my life.
I’m exhausted.
Thank you. Really.