Gentlemen: Can you explain the appeal of cuckolding?

[jimmyturtleman]

That all makes sense,,,did you find many felt inadequate about their size or performance ability?

I can only speak for myself. I did, and still do feel inadequate in both size and performance. In spite of her assurances that I was more than big enough, I have now learned the truth. Size does matter. Her current boyfriend has a very BIG and very THICK cock. He also uses a 'magic' pill that makes his cock get HARD and stay HARD. I cannot use the pills for medical reasons.

 

[Dillharris]

Gentlemen, can you explain the appeal of cuckolding?
No. Not even a little bit. Wish I could but the insane attraction is unexplainable.

 

[ManOSafety]

For me, I think it’s the idea that I’d enjoy seeing her receiving pleasure or hearing about her receiving pleasure. Knowing that body that I am so familiar with, the way she tightens up and stiffens as she cums, the feelings it gives her. So, it’s a cuckolding fantasy that is all about a physical act, sex without a deeper emotional aspect.

 

[miguelmac543]

Hard to explain. I'd like to hear why the majority are not into this, both men and women.

 

[sarod]

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

its two fold for me, first, I am bi curious and would love to indulge in sloppy seconds, and second, it would just be fun to watch, hot as fuck actually, maybe lovingly and tenderly holding her hands in mine and kissing her and encouring her to feelthe pleasure while she gets made love to and pounded by another cock.

 

[SeaLevel]

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

My wife and I have only had sex with others in swinging situations (so far), not always the same room, but always the same house/condo, etc. it’s a very rare thing for us, but invigorating when it occurs. So I don’t know, Wild Honey, if I’m one you want to contribute or if I count as a “cuck” but here goes.

The appeal to non-monogamy (swinging, anyway) to me, aside from the sex with other women includes…

—> I am a better husband when we’re active. While my rational brain knows she’s not leaving me, my reptilian brain kicks into competitive gear when my wife is having sex with another, manifesting for me in no more complacency in the romance dept, no more taking things for granted - just a win all around if you ask me.

—> Small sample size, true, but my experience is the more good sex a woman gets and the more she feels desired, the more sex she wants. This is a good thing.

—> In our one longish-term FWB fling, I liked having a guy friend where our shared interest was fucking each others’ wives - a much better shared interest with a guy than golf and I fucking LOVE golf.

—> Reclaiming sex. This is the best sex there is. If you know you know.

I agree that non-monogamy, in any form, is not a step to be taken lightly if you are entering from a monogamous relationship. I understand women struggle to understand men’s motives. I’m sure those motives vary quite a bit, as the thread shows, and are not always pure. I know from observing that men sometimes struggle with the fantasy in different ways when that fantasy turns to reality. If you can find away to make it work in healthy, affirming ways though it’s a game changer.

 

[lc69hunter]

My wife and I have only had sex with others in swinging situations (so far), not always the same room, but always the same house/condo, etc. it’s a very rare thing for us, but invigorating when it occurs. So I don’t know, Wild Honey, if I’m one you want to contribute or if I count as a “cuck” but here goes.

The appeal to non-monogamy (swinging, anyway) to me, aside from the sex with other women includes…

—> I am a better husband when we’re active. While my rational brain knows she’s not leaving me, my reptilian brain kicks into competitive gear when my wife is having sex with another, manifesting for me in no more complacency in the romance dept, no more taking things for granted - just a win all around if you ask me.

—> Small sample size, true, but my experience is the more good sex a woman gets and the more she feels desired, the more sex she wants. This is a good thing.

—> In our one longish-term FWB fling, I liked having a guy friend where our shared interest was fucking each others’ wives - a much better shared interest with a guy than golf and I fucking LOVE golf.

—> Reclaiming sex. This is the best sex there is. If you know you know.

I agree that non-monogamy, in any form, is not a step to be taken lightly if you are entering from a monogamous relationship. I understand women struggle to understand men’s motives. I’m sure those motives vary quite a bit, as the thread shows, and are not always pure. I know from observing that men sometimes struggle with the fantasy in different ways when that fantasy turns to reality. If you can find away to make it work in healthy, affirming ways though it’s a game changer.

Excellent response. You summed it up well for a lot of couples

 

[nutoseen]

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

who doesnt like "seconds". plain and simple.

 

[TwoHeadsBald]

For me it is a fetish I have for sexual women. I have not desire to be humiliated or shamed. I really don't have to be there.
I get aroused by being told about it. I love naughty stories. The naughtier the better.
I have been told by several women that I am unusual as far as liking my ladies adventures.

 

[dr2brd]

For me it is a fetish I have for sexual women. I have not desire to be humiliated or shamed. I really don't have to be there.
I get aroused by being told about it. I love naughty stories. The naughtier the better.
I have been told by several women that I am unusual as far as liking my ladies adventures.

Unusual probably but sure not the only one

 

[Justfantasies]

For me it is a fetish I have for sexual women. I have not desire to be humiliated or shamed. I really don't have to be there.
I get aroused by being told about it. I love naughty stories. The naughtier the better.
I have been told by several women that I am unusual as far as liking my ladies adventures.

Yes that exactly me too ... love hearing the stories, watching the voyeurism and more ...

 

[hulmule]

I'm glad there's Cuckolding.. i get to be the Bull..

 

[hbcacouple]

Confirmation that I am desirable. We are more into three than cuckold as humiliation although a tiny bit of that is fun for all of us when we find a partner with a huge tool.

 

[TwoHeadsBald]

Unusual probably but sure not the only one

I think more men and women are like that. Just afraid to let it be kown.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

It could be considered very odd behavior, and something to keep closely guarded, but it sure can be a lot of fun.

 

[wifes_fag]

We have done threesomes since not long after get married. We both loved it. One time wife got a call from a man we had been seeing and said he couod meet us halfway about 50 miles away. i was at work and couldn't go so I told her to go see him by herself. She said are you sure and I said yes. So she did. She got back about 2 hours after I got in from work. I had been thinking about them all day. Knowing my wife was fucking him. She came in and was a mess down there. She told me all about it. i could tell she was excited. I was too. I asked her how she liked going by herself. She said she loved it. I said lets do it more then. That was 15 years ago. Our only rules are she calls me when she gets there and again when she leaves for safety. She told me he had taken her to eat after they got though. I thought good maybe someone we know seen her with him. She meets one guy at the casino now. It is about 20 minutes away and he meets her at the back entrance by Chilis and they have to walk down the edge of the main casino floor to the elevators. The only reason to go to the elevators is to go up to the hotel rooms. She said he takes her to the bar sometimes before they go up or to Chilis afterwards. I have been there with them and he would sit right beside my wife and I would sit opposite them. If anyone we know sees that it won't be hard to figure out what she is fucking him. That just makes it even better. She has spent the night with him there a few times. Not a lot but I never know until she calls and tells me. it doesn't matter now that we are retired. I get so much to think about all night though. Then she comes back all full of his cum for me to eat out of her. And sometimes somebody else's too. I jack off for her and she talks dirty to me while doing it. She may grab a cup and make me drink it. We love it.

 

[Sgts19]

My wife and I have only had sex with others in swinging situations (so far), not always the same room, but always the same house/condo, etc. it’s a very rare thing for us, but invigorating when it occurs. So I don’t know, Wild Honey, if I’m one you want to contribute or if I count as a “cuck” but here goes.

The appeal to non-monogamy (swinging, anyway) to me, aside from the sex with other women includes…

—> I am a better husband when we’re active. While my rational brain knows she’s not leaving me, my reptilian brain kicks into competitive gear when my wife is having sex with another, manifesting for me in no more complacency in the romance dept, no more taking things for granted - just a win all around if you ask me.

—> Small sample size, true, but my experience is the more good sex a woman gets and the more she feels desired, the more sex she wants. This is a good thing.

—> In our one longish-term FWB fling, I liked having a guy friend where our shared interest was fucking each others’ wives - a much better shared interest with a guy than golf and I fucking LOVE golf.

—> Reclaiming sex. This is the best sex there is. If you know you know.

I agree that non-monogamy, in any form, is not a step to be taken lightly if you are entering from a monogamous relationship. I understand women struggle to understand men’s motives. I’m sure those motives vary quite a bit, as the thread shows, and are not always pure. I know from observing that men sometimes struggle with the fantasy in different ways when that fantasy turns to reality. If you can find away to make it work in healthy, affirming ways though it’s a game changer.

That's the same thoughts running through my mind. Did the swinging thing for a couple years and it was fun to fuck someone different, but I was more interested in what my wife was doing. Was he a better fuck than me? Was he bigger than me? Was she a different woman fucking him? It was all about her

 

[fearless1969]

My current wife, in her previous marriage had a lot of experience in the swinging lifestyle. Her then husband liked to watch her have sex with other men. He never attempted to participate with the other men or masturbate while the sex was happening. His only requirement was that she tell him about it after it happened. According to her, she had a lot of average sex that she embellished for him. He did set her up with a black guy who would bring a few friends, also black, to have sex with her as well. Again, according to her, the best sex was when she picked the guy and the husband was not around to watch. She was free and encouraged to have sex with whomever she wanted providing she told him a good story about her adventure. He often requested for her to humiliate him and provided a kind of script for her to say while she was having sex with another man. She always refused as she doesn't have that kind of personality.
I don't know her ex-husband very well at all, but she always suspected he was gay or at least very curious. We have discussed bringing another person into our bed, but it's just pillow talk as neither of us are really interested. I can tell you this, she is the absolute best story-teller. I have watched enough porn and so far, no one can compare. This is enough for me.

 

[KentBloke63]

From the bull side, I’m glad that you do and we’re here to oblige and fulfill

 

[SouthernMatureGuy]

I do find married women to be fun when they are fooling around with their husband's knowledge, whether he is there or not. I know I'm fulfilling some primal desire (usually) for both her and him.

 

[TallOne]

My wife is my favorite porn star. Love watching her with others. Hearing her with others. Or just having her describe the experience afterwards as I eat her out. There's definitely a voyeurism aspect. As well as some pride as I love comments from guys calling her a bombshell and such. Also simply like her enjoying herself without judgement or worry.

Often conflated with a physical inadequacy but not really the case here. It's rare to find a bull with a cock bigger than mine. Though some bulls definitely fuck her harder and are rougher with her as she likes, but is just not in my nature to do myself.

I am also bi and enjoy participating in mmf threesomes. But the cuck scene scratches a different itch. While the two can interplay I wouldn't say one is the reason behind the other.

This was a good book on the topic. Takes a view of it throughout history, women's liberation, and psychology.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1442200316

 

[TryingTooHard]

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

I am now 53. Jane just turned 41. I met her at a law firm I was using for business where she was working. I had already separated from my first wife.

Jane seemed shy and reserved initially but I discovered that she had a wild and uninhibited side. She attracts men. I see it every time we are out and when we are with friends as well as colleagues of mine. She exudes sensuality and appears to be unaware of it, which makes it even more erotic. She likes confident but not arrogant men. She loves a sense of humour.

I initially tried to interest Jane into maybe having another man join us by telling her about my sexual fantasies and by asking her to tell me about her previous lovers. These fantasies probably had their origin in an experience I had in my mid-teens when a girl-friend of mine more or less enticed two older men to join us one evening and this led to her being fucked by them as I was made to watch.

So I was particularly turned-on when Janie told me about Steve. They were together for only a year but she said that he had the biggest and thickest cock she’s ever seen and that the sex was the greatest!

At first, she questioned my love because all I seemed to be interested in was sharing her with other men or being interested in her past sex life. I re-emphasized my deep love for her and simple said that these were "harmless fantasies" that just added to usually great sex we had. I began to tell Jane stories in bed and she slowly responded. Within a few months, I had also managed to persuade her to dress more revealingly and provocatively in both private and public. I’d get her to wear thin, see-through dresses with only a tiny pair of panties on under or wrap-around dresses with sheer thigh-high stockings and matching sheer panties. She became more confident and I would tell her how aroused I would get, watching other men looking at my wife, knowing exactly what they were thinking and wishing. Jane began to get excited by the whole thing and we would often rush back home to fuck or, if we couldn't wait, get into the car and kiss and fumble and mutually masturbate. However, during this period, I didn't tell her about my dark and secret fantasy & desire to be humiliated and aroused as another man or men took her. I still find it hard to fully explain my mixed and intense emotions although my teenage experience probably has a lot to do with it.

Anyway, that's how things got started with us and then Steve came back into the picture.

 

[RO33RT]

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

It's not for everyone. A guy has to be pretty secure in his marriage and sexuality to enjoy watching his wife with another nan. I'm not talking here about gay-bisexual-femdom cuckoldry which is his own fetish. If you're not secure in your marriage and sexuality you probably won't enjoy sharing your wife.

For me watching my wife enjoy sex with another man is a little like riding on a roller coaster. The ride starts and you think, “Oh my God I'm going to die,” and the adrenalin rush starts. But you're not going to die. The roller coaster is safe and well maintained. You can enjoy the adrenaline rush without really risking anything.

I see my wife enjoying sex with another man and I think. “Oh my God she's going to leave me,"and the adrenalin rush starts. But my marriage is secure and I'm secure in my sexuality so I can enjoy the adrenaline rush without really risking anything.

There is still risk as there always is in anything in life worth doing. People sometimes die in roller coaster accidents and marriages sometimes break up over infidelity, consensual or not.

But for those of us who enjoy it the rewards are worth the risk. Someone asked me if I got jealous. I said, “Yes, that's part of the thrill. For me the thrill is stronger than the jealousy.”

 

[MisterWolf26]

3 points
1 Just about anything in real life or make beleive that demonstrates a woman's arousal adds considerably to my excitement.

2 probably just my favorite example of the above are instances where its clear that somebody is, or should be, thinking I shouldn't be doing this, but continues doing it anyway....

3 maybe bullshit, but the evolutionary psych justification I've heard is about sperms competition. Many hunter gatherer tribes aren't exactly monogamous. The reason men have bulbs at the end of there equipment is to scrape out the competitions seed. So if watching her with someone else revs your up then you may just get to both deposit more seed swell as remove some if their's, thus increasing your chances of being the one to make a baby

 

[MisterWolf26]

Also, for me personally, I was just never the jealous type. My first love cheated on me while out of town. I was 14, and she 15 or 16.

She told me. I panicked, but attached to her confession was every assurance that she loved me and wanted to be with me.

Pretty quickly my excitement shifted from fear of losing the relationship to arousal and curiosity about her experience. I wanted to know every detail!

I don't know how completely she caught on to what was going on, but- expecting a guilt trip- she was quite happy to pivot to feeding my arousal instead.