Gentlemen: Can you explain the appeal of cuckolding?

[derek00003]

For me the appeal is seeing my wife with other men. The idea that they are nothing more than sexual objects to each other. I also want her to be a completely uninhibited slut

 

[docoral]

Hot is an understatement. It was something I'd never trade.

I agree wholeheartedly, really hot. Gave my wife a pass to pretty much fuck our friend John as often as she wanted.

 

[Dreamer110]

For me the appeal is seeing my wife with other men. The idea that they are nothing more than sexual objects to each other. I also want her to be a completely uninhibited slut

I've only seen her once but I was a tad busy myself. But I agree with you. Lots more to it than that though.

 

[derek00003]

I've only seen her once but I was a tad busy myself. But I agree with you. Lots more to it than that though.

I agree completely. I just don't know how to put it into words

 

[docoral]

I've only seen her once but I was a tad busy myself. But I agree with you. Lots more to it than that though.

Love to read about your adventure. PM me if you like.

 

[sterculius]

What is a slut? I think that terminology is quite harsh. If a woman has an active sex life, maybe multiple partners in her lifetime, does that make her a slut? My ideal woman is one that has a sexual appetite equal to mine. I desire a woman that love's to fuck, is adventurous , loves to change things up. I had a woman like that, a wife like that, and I called her the love of my life, not a "slut". I think many women hold in their feelings for fear of society labeling them as sluts. We want them to engage with us and when they do we inappropriately label them.

When I say slut I don't define it in a derogatory sense, rather someone who has a strong libido and is proud of their sexuality and who revels in engaging in sex whenever they like.

 

[twister947]

The humiliation didn't feel so great at the time, but as I look back on it, it was the very best part.

 

[amofiga]

For me the appeal is seeing my wife with other men. The idea that they are nothing more than sexual objects to each other. I also want her to be a completely uninhibited slut

For me, this is the thing that would make the most sense out of all the stuff said on this thread, although it may not fit with what I would see as the true definition of cuckolding which for me would imply humiliation. I could never see myself as a humiliated cuckold and allow myself to be seen as less than another man. On the other hand, I could well see the appeal of watching my wife be a total slut. That would put me in a position of her never again being able to consider me a dirty minded old man and act like she was "holier than me" because of some of my attitudes and actions. I could just remind her what a slut SHE is.

I already know enough about a few of her college adventures many years ago, but that was as a "college kid", and nobody should be held accountable for the person they were in college.... myself included. However, it's not like actually witnessing it and her knowing I witnessed it. Maybe that all sounds nasty to some people, but for me, knowing each spouse is a dirty old slut puts both on a level playing field.

 

[Spenser41]

I really do not get it... I do not see the fun in making a person feel like crap about themselves.

 

[docoral]

For me, this is the thing that would make the most sense out of all the stuff said on this thread, although it may not fit with what I would see as the true definition of cuckolding which for me would imply humiliation. I could never see myself as a humiliated cuckold and allow myself to be seen as less than another man. On the other hand, I could well see the appeal of watching my wife be a total slut. That would put me in a position of her never again being able to consider me a dirty minded old man and act like she was "holier than me" because of some of my attitudes and actions. I could just remind her what a slut SHE is.

I already know enough about a few of her college adventures many years ago, but that was as a "college kid", and nobody should be held accountable for the person they were in college.... myself included. However, it's not like actually witnessing it and her knowing I witnessed it. Maybe that all sounds nasty to some people, but for me, knowing each spouse is a dirty old slut puts both on a level playing field.

It's much more fun when you spiral into depravity together just do it in a way to keep your relationship strong ( be honest with each other ).

 

[masterslave00]

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

I don't get it at all...

 

[twister947]

I don't get it at all...

Nor I, and it's my fetish.

 

[ShesInsatiable]

It’s gum wrappers

 

[stowie]

For me its the lust she has in her eyes as she looks at me while hes fucking her and when shes out alone with a guy its the thought of her be so slutty
For her its the ability to have my full approval and have different lovers

 

[carln3346]

For me I'm turned on by cuckolding because I know that I'm not good in bed, because I have trouble getting it up and because I don't last very long at all. But just because of my shortcomings I don't think that the woman I'm with should be deprived of having good sex as long as she still cares for me and treats me with respect.

Well put - I see it more as sharing than being a cuck. I don't watch, but I like being informed. It's been working

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

re: O.P.
This is an act I can't explain without argument and I wouldn't be the ideal person to ask as this is an act that would most likely contribute to a double murder charge on my part.

 

[klippert]

Because some of us girls are wondering.

Thank you!

I’m not into emasculating or humiliating myself. I would rather Buck & Vixen. All that said. What are your thoughts ladies. Turn you on to humiliate and emasculate your husband. Likewise, I’d like to know.

 

[GuySLut]

When I say slut I don't define it in a derogatory sense, rather someone who has a strong libido and is proud of their sexuality and who revels in engaging in sex whenever they like.

Your definition of a slut is right on in my view.

 

[Muwarr90]

I don't fully get why, but this seems like one of those things where flipping a cultural standard is arousing to some.

Think about the reverse situation.

A married man fucks other women. The wife is expected to only have sex with the husband. The husband uses the sexual encounters with other women to humiliate the wife.

This wouldn't be considered an exotic relationship. In fact it would be considered almost common in some circumstances, think powerful executives.

On the flip side, the husband in that situation would generally be viewed as more than a bit of an asshole. The situation also doesn't hold the same fascination or fetish like qualities.

 

[sterculius]

Your definition of a slut is right on in my view.

In our language, acceptable words used to describe sexual activities or body parts are either clinical and cold or juvenile euphemisms. Words like slut, cunt and cock are considered derogatory and insulting but I consider them to be useful because they are direct and to the point.

 

[littlecordelera]

What are your thoughts ladies. Turn you on to humiliate and emasculate your husband. Likewise, I’d like to know.

Wielding authority turns me on, and turning my husband on turns me on. So I do whatever causes him arousal, which in our case, includes some humiliation.

 

[BBCfan]

The humiliation didn't feel so great at the time, but as I look back on it, it was the very best part.

I think my fantasies lie more in the Buck and Vixen or than Cuck, but i am fascinated by the idea.
More from seeing my wife experience something i cant provide and relishing in her enjoyment as a couple.

I have roleplayed a bit with wife coaching me to fellate my toy, her words and names excited me far more than i expected. It somehow caused a quick elevation of arousal that is hard to explain.
I guess its maybe similar...

. How does the humiliation transform into excitement? Is it a mental thing that happens over time.

 

[whenagain]

Wielding authority turns me on, and turning my husband on turns me on. So I do whatever causes him arousal, which in our case, includes some humiliation.

That’s pretty hot.

 

[biseattlegirl]

This is completely based on my own research of talking to men that are into it and trying to learn more about the appeal.

What I have found more often then not is that it is not just watching their wive get off that turns them on it is also the cock. Men like seeing other cocks. They like watching other cocks fuck and cum. For most men it is taboo to admit it so having the cuckold allows them to watch cock and watch their partner (which they are also sexually attracted to) get off from that cock. It is a win/win.

The humiliation of it is not much different than BDSM humiliation. Some people like to be treated that way, it gets them off.

Again, this is strictly based on my research from one on one discussions I have had with approximately 50 men that are into cucking. I was actually trying to learn more about it for a story I wanted to write so I hung out in the cuck room in chat and waited for guys to approach about it.

 

[BBCfan]

This is completely based on my own research of talking to men that are into it and trying to learn more about the appeal.

What I have found more often then not is that it is not just watching their wive get off that turns them on it is also the cock. Men like seeing other cocks. They like watching other cocks fuck and cum. For most men it is taboo to admit it so having the cuckold allows them to watch cock and watch their partner (which they are also sexually attracted to) get off from that cock. It is a win/win.

The humiliation of it is not much different than BDSM humiliation. Some people like to be treated that way, it gets them off.

Again, this is strictly based on my research from one on one discussions I have had with approximately 50 men that are into cucking. I was actually trying to learn more about it for a story I wanted to write so I hung out in the cuck room in chat and waited for guys to approach about it.

That all makes sense,,,did you find many felt inadequate about their size or performance ability?