Getting over him.........

[Noor]

LOL! It was very good! I flooded the bed!

GREAT!!! Always leave them drenched

 

[manofsteel52]

GREAT!!! Always leave them drenched

That would be my goal...

 

[psyche]

GREAT!!! Always leave them drenched

It's good to know that I can have good sex without him....

 

[psyche]

That would be my goal...

Mmmmmm.........that's a very good goal to have in mind!

 

[manofsteel52]

Mmmmmm.........that's a very good goal to have in mind!

Satisfaction is job 1 around here, gorgeous!

 

[psyche]

Satisfaction is job 1 around here, gorgeous!

Happy Holidays................kissing you under the mistletoe......

 

[manofsteel52]

Happy Holidays................kissing you under the mistletoe......

Why, thank you! I'd suggest you get yourself some mistletoe, but you already must have to beat off the guys with a stick... or just beat them off or... well, you get the idea...

 

[psyche]

Why, thank you! I'd suggest you get yourself some mistletoe, but you already must have to beat off the guys with a stick... or just beat them off or... well, you get the idea...

LOL! But I never beat them off..........maybe suck them off! And I don't use a stick!

 

[manofsteel52]

LOL! But I never beat them off..........maybe suck them off! And I don't use a stick!

In that case... *MoS tramples the crowd, trying desperately to make his way to the front of the line...

 

[psyche]

In that case... *MoS tramples the crowd, trying desperately to make his way to the front of the line...

Grabbing you and pulling you to the front of the line.......LOL!

 

[Debbie]

IMO, it sounds like it was just about sex.

Put him on ignore and move on with your life or take a lit break and get things into perspective.

 

[psyche]

IMO, it sounds like it was just about sex.

Put him on ignore and move on with your life or take a lit break and get things into perspective.

LOL! There's no such thing as just about sex.........this was unbelievable sex.........

 

[manofsteel52]

LOL! There's no such thing as just about sex.........this was unbelievable sex.........

It's been so long since I had unbelievable sex, I almost can't remember...

 

[psyche]

It's been so long since I had unbelievable sex, I almost can't remember...

This was not that long ago.........I almost can't forget...........

 

[psyche]

This was not that long ago.........I almost can't forget...........

In fact no matter how hard I fucking try, I can't forget.........

 

[Bandit58]

It's good to know that I can have good sex without him....

I remember actually posting when my married lover broke it off with me, if I would ever find that magic with anyone else ever again.....lol boy a few months later I found something much better Real love, with someone free to give all of himself to me (and then some).

*hugs* to you psyche! You just never know what's just around the corner

 

[Bandit58]

In fact no matter how hard I fucking try, I can't forget.........

You won't forget.....but it'll all go into a part of your memories that you'll take out and dust off for a little while, smile and then put it back and close the door. Those are precious memories, and I never want to forget any of them, because he helped change my life, for the better

 

[psyche]

I remember actually posting when my married lover broke it off with me, if I would ever find that magic with anyone else ever again.....lol boy a few months later I found something much better Real love, with someone free to give all of himself to me (and then some).

*hugs* to you psyche! You just never know what's just around the corner

Thanks so much......sometimes that's difficult to see!

 

[psyche]

You won't forget.....but it'll all go into a part of your memories that you'll take out and dust off for a little while, smile and then put it back and close the door. Those are precious memories, and I never want to forget any of them, because he helped change my life, for the better

I try to look at the good that I got out of the relationship, which is based on the many gifts that he gave me. But the hurt and pain are still there. I hope to be at that place someday, when I can smile about the time that I had with him, be grateful for it, and know that it made me more of who I am today.

 

[manofsteel52]

I try to look at the good that I got out of the relationship, which is based on the many gifts that he gave me. But the hurt and pain are still there. I hope to be at that place someday, when I can smile about the time that I had with him, be grateful for it, and know that it made me more of who I am today.

psyche, it must be somewhere around two years since I first saw one of your posts on Lit. I've come and gone, sometimes I post and other times I lurk. Throughout this time, I've always thought your were one of the smartest, funniest, sexiest, most desireable women around. I'm not bullshittin' when I tell you that if I wasn't already attached, I'd be wanting to get to know you much better, if you get my drift. Maybe it's because I have adult daughters and see the crap they go through with boyfriends that just pisses me off about so many of my ilk. I know emotions are not rational by any means, and you can't control how you feel, but you deserve so much better.

 

[psyche]

psyche, it must be somewhere around two years since I first saw one of your posts on Lit. I've come and gone, sometimes I post and other times I lurk. Throughout this time, I've always thought your were one of the smartest, funniest, sexiest, most desireable women around. I'm not bullshittin' when I tell you that if I wasn't already attached, I'd be wanting to get to know you much better, if you get my drift. Maybe it's because I have adult daughters and see the crap they go through with boyfriends that just pisses me off about so many of my ilk. I know emotions are not rational by any means, and you can't control how you feel, but you deserve so much better.

Baby, you brought tears to my eyes! LOL! Thanks. I mean for the nice message, not for the tears!

 

[funwdi]

Of course you're not stupid. You loved him...it's the chance we take in life when we meet someone. Since we don't have the same brain chemistry, the other person has a chance of not loving you or loving you less. That doesn't make you a bad person, naiive, or dumb. It makes you hopeful, and now you can take that hope and meet someone else. Sorry, but it's the only way to get comfortable again. Be by yourself for a while, and than realize you don't NEED someone to make YOU complete. Then do the search for someone new. If you go from one person to the next, you will NEVER get over that person.

 

[psyche]

Of course you're not stupid. You loved him...it's the chance we take in life when we meet someone. Since we don't have the same brain chemistry, the other person has a chance of not loving you or loving you less. That doesn't make you a bad person, naiive, or dumb. It makes you hopeful, and now you can take that hope and meet someone else. Sorry, but it's the only way to get comfortable again. Be by yourself for a while, and than realize you don't NEED someone to make YOU complete. Then do the search for someone new. If you go from one person to the next, you will NEVER get over that person.

Thanks funwdi!

 

[BlackWolf65]

psyche, I was directed to this thread by a Lit friend who recently had some problems with someone they met in R/L after first meeting in Lit. And I believe it is the same person you are referring to...

I haven't yet followed your posts previous to this thread. But, as a man, I would like to try to add something here. I hope you see this - it may be a long post...

I am presently in a "roommate" living situation with my wife of 17 years, though we have lived together for 25. There is going to be a divorce coming soon. And I have to tell you this: For some reason, men have it burned into their minds that they must act as though they have no emotions, no feelings. I know this marriage is over. It is done. We have both agreed on that. For the most part, I act as though this is not a big deal to me. But, even though I am no longer "in love" with this woman, even though my feelings are not what they once were, and even though I KNOW that going our seperate ways is the best thing for both of us, it still kills me to see this happen. We have both invested so much time and energy and love in this relationship, and now it's over.

I, too, have met someone in Lit. She is the most amazing woman I have ever known. And our plans are for me to move to be near her, in the fairly near future. And quite honestly, sometimes, when I think about her, I feel guilty that I'm so sad about the death of my marriage. I know that I shouldn't feel that way, but I do. I love this woman completely and with no reservations. And it bothers me to feel sad about leaving the situation that could prevent she and I from being together.

I guess what I'm trying to say is this: He may act as though it doesn't hurt him. He may put up that brave front. But, unless he is one of those rare people who truly cares nothing for the feelings of others, then it's just an act. I've told my DF - the woman I've met in Lit - about the sadness I feel over this divorce. She understands that completely. And she listens to me, she talks to me about it. But you know, she is one of about three people who know my *true* feelings about the death of this marriage. With everyone else, I act the typical male stereotype. It doesn't bother me, I can walk away, there's no pain involved, etc. And that goes especially for my soon-to-be ex wife. I do NOT let her see that this really makes me so sad...

I hope that everything has worked out for you, psyche... There are so many people I've seen who seem to think very highly of you here in Lit.

Just... Try to remember that somehow, somewhere, deep inside, even if he couldn't admit it to himself, he was hurting, too...

I've been a member of lit for quite a while and you all have helped me through some tough times. When I first registered, I was contemplating divorcing my husband of over 20 years and you all helped me get through that. There was a divorce thread and I bared my soul and realized that I needed to leave him.

I also found a wonderful lover who was instrumental in my leaving my ex. I met him on lit.......and when I think back I took what could have been a dangerous chance and met him. His posts and pms where irresistable for me.......the language he used got me so hot that I had to meet him, in spite of the fact that I knew it could be risky. We met in a hotel room and from the first time he touched me, he owned me. I have never in my life had such a perfect lover. When he was with me, I couldn't think, it was all responding to him......and I couldn't and didn't ever think about anything but him and what he was doing to me. I was consumed by him and what he did to me. I couldn't say no to him.

Many of my first sexual events were with him. I had never had a g-spot orgasm, I had never had anal sex, I had never squirted.......I did all of those things with him for the first time. The sex was incredible, and I may never find that again. Even though I knew that he didn't love me I stayed with him because I couldn't walk away from the sex. It hurt so much that he didn't feel the same way that I felt, but like I said, I couldn't imagine being without him. I have finally had to leave this relationship and walk away. We were together for over two years. He seems to have been able to just walk away and leave me without looking back.

Two weeks later I am still crying, still thinking about him and still wishing we were still together..........I wake up at night wishing he was next to me. I look at my weekends and wish I was getting ready to go up to see him.

I'm not stupid, I have a wonderful job, a beautiful home, good friends and a full life without him. But here I am at fifty, hurting like I haven't hurt in a long time...........

 

[psyche]

psyche, I was directed to this thread by a Lit friend who recently had some problems with someone they met in R/L after first meeting in Lit. And I believe it is the same person you are referring to...

I haven't yet followed your posts previous to this thread. But, as a man, I would like to try to add something here. I hope you see this - it may be a long post...

I am presently in a "roommate" living situation with my wife of 17 years, though we have lived together for 25. There is going to be a divorce coming soon. And I have to tell you this: For some reason, men have it burned into their minds that they must act as though they have no emotions, no feelings. I know this marriage is over. It is done. We have both agreed on that. For the most part, I act as though this is not a big deal to me. But, even though I am no longer "in love" with this woman, even though my feelings are not what they once were, and even though I KNOW that going our seperate ways is the best thing for both of us, it still kills me to see this happen. We have both invested so much time and energy and love in this relationship, and now it's over.

I, too, have met someone in Lit. She is the most amazing woman I have ever known. And our plans are for me to move to be near her, in the fairly near future. And quite honestly, sometimes, when I think about her, I feel guilty that I'm so sad about the death of my marriage. I know that I shouldn't feel that way, but I do. I love this woman completely and with no reservations. And it bothers me to feel sad about leaving the situation that could prevent she and I from being together.

I guess what I'm trying to say is this: He may act as though it doesn't hurt him. He may put up that brave front. But, unless he is one of those rare people who truly cares nothing for the feelings of others, then it's just an act. I've told my DF - the woman I've met in Lit - about the sadness I feel over this divorce. She understands that completely. And she listens to me, she talks to me about it. But you know, she is one of about three people who know my *true* feelings about the death of this marriage. With everyone else, I act the typical male stereotype. It doesn't bother me, I can walk away, there's no pain involved, etc. And that goes especially for my soon-to-be ex wife. I do NOT let her see that this really makes me so sad...

I hope that everything has worked out for you, psyche... There are so many people I've seen who seem to think very highly of you here in Lit.

Just... Try to remember that somehow, somewhere, deep inside, even if he couldn't admit it to himself, he was hurting, too...

What a wonderful post. Good luck to you, and I think I know exactly what you mean. I also have to let you know that I have found someone who loves me without reservations. I never thought that I would find that again...............