Guys: Question about body types

[NickCarraway12]

I don't like a huge gut but I love a big booty on a girl, a nice round one with wide hips. I love the big boobs, too. It isn't so much the size of a girl, but the shape.

 

[SPORTZDOK]

I also definitely prefer a woman with curves. Although not a Huge Ass Fan like a lot, I do prefer a gorgeous set of big tits and a nice round ass to hold on too.

 

[HornyVikingMN]

It's not so much about the body...

It seems a lot, perhaps the majority or men, really want to fuck the curvy girl with a big ass and big tits. However they seem to want to date the petite ladies. Am I right? What's going on here?

The women I find most attractive are the ones that show confidence in who they are and are comfortable in their bodies - curvy or slender, short or tall, etc. Knowing how to be sexy regardless of breast or booty size - that's what turns me on.

 

[neakman]

It seems a lot, perhaps the majority or men, really want to fuck the curvy girl with a big ass and big tits. However they seem to want to date the petite ladies. Am I right? What's going on here?

does petite translate to short or skinny?
I like neither for a "date" or a sex partner.

Curvy is just hot. period.

 

[36524]

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[Penuche]

does petite translate to short or skinny?
I like neither for a "date" or a sex partner.

Curvy is just hot. period.

Sheana seems to understand "petite" as meaning small all over.

I don't, partly because of a background linked to the clothing industry and partly because of more than half a lifetime of being petite in height (ie under 5'2") but not necessarily always in width (ranging from a UK size 8 at smallest to a UK 20 at largest).

IMHO it's possible to be curvy at any height, but it's also possible to have a lack of defined curves at any width.

 

[JamesRTickit]

True

Sheana seems to understand "petite" as meaning small all over.

I don't, partly because of a background linked to the clothing industry and partly because of more than half a lifetime of being petite in height (ie under 5'2") but not necessarily always in width (ranging from a UK size 8 at smallest to a UK 20 at largest).

IMHO it's possible to be curvy at any height, but it's also possible to have a lack of defined curves at any width.

I always say that if you look at senior schoolgirls age 16 to 18 and they have to wear a uniform then the shades of styling come through. Some will look like schoolgirls, some will look like young women. Penuche is right - you can be fabulous or a mess at UK size 8 or UK size 28. It is you who make or breaks the image. Good clothes can help but it it the person that carries them.

Simply for me there is no one shape or size, the bigger the smile the more beautiful the woman.

 

[Beth87]

I think this hot for sex but not for relationship has very little to do with size. I think that mindset, in certain men...of which there seem to be many, stems from what they pick up on in women. Larger girls and women are told all the time no man will want them unless they lose weight. It contributes to low self esteem where they maybe accept bad behaviour more readily than a woman who has been taught she can be confident that she will find a mate.

I mean it's simplified immensely but I do believe that we accept the treatment we think we deserve. If someone doesn't fancy a particular body type that's no issue. They don't have to like all types. My partner doesn't like skinny women. He's also a commitment guy who doesn't really do casual sex.

I've also met a lot of guys who prey on a certain level of vulnerability. Because they can. Sometimes it's because they lack the self assurance to ignore their peers opinions on who they should date and sometimes they are arseholes who see women as objects to conquer.

 

[islandjoe2]

I don't have a particular body type. I've had positive experiences with both petite and full figured women. What makes a woman sexy is not her body type but the way she feels and envisions herself. If she believes she is sexy and is told so, the feeling of being wanted and lusted after is translated into the act.

 

[carlsnake]

I fell in love with a petite young lady, and over the years she has developed curves that I love just as much. Petite? Curvy? I love and lust after the lady, not the body type.

 

[Tongue_Twisted]

No rolly-polies.

No pencils.

What's the term? Weight porportionate to height?

Sums it up perfectly

 

[Ntyhousewife]

So I'm reading thru these posts and thinking wow so I'm compelled to weigh In here.
First I am not curvy. I never have been and never will be, but have always longed to have those beautiful curves that so many women have. I've been an athlete for as long as I can remember. I think I was probably 6 or 7 when I started sports and to this day (34 years later) I still workout/exercise 6 days a week. I grew up in So California where body type is everything. Fit and slim was always said to be what guys wanted. Men want a "trophy" wife is what I was always led to believe, but reality was different. It was always the curvy girls that got the guy while I, with my slim athletic build, was always passed over. In addition the guys with the "trophy" wife always seemed to want the curvy girl on the side. My experience tells me that ultimately it's always been the curvy girl that the guys want in the end. Who came blame them really. I'm not attracted to women but when I see a beautifully curvy girl even I want to run my hands all over them.

 

[lancelot2672]

So I'm reading thru these posts and thinking wow so I'm compelled to weigh In here.
First I am not curvy. I never have been and never will be, but have always longed to have those beautiful curves that so many women have. I've been an athlete for as long as I can remember. I think I was probably 6 or 7 when I started sports and to this day (34 years later) I still workout/exercise 6 days a week. I grew up in So California where body type is everything. Fit and slim was always said to be what guys wanted. Men want a "trophy" wife is what I was always led to believe, but reality was different. It was always the curvy girls that got the guy while I, with my slim athletic build, was always passed over. In addition the guys with the "trophy" wife always seemed to want the curvy girl on the side. My experience tells me that ultimately it's always been the curvy girl that the guys want in the end. Who came blame them really. I'm not attracted to women but when I see a beautifully curvy girl even I want to run my hands all over them.

I have to say my "type" is the athletic girl. Tight ass and legs are my drug of choice.

 

[tnhardon]

Personally, I like both curvy and petite women. Being able to play with a big ass and big boobs is fun, but so is playing with someone who is toned.

There is definitely pros and cons to both. I dated petite women before marrying a fuller figured. It all comes down to personal preference.

 

[Sheana_V]

SV, I would like to show you how I feel about your body ...

A very delayed response, but I wanted to answer.

I have a love hate relationship with my body. I think most of us are critical of certain body characteristics here and there, and I'm no exception. In general though I think my naked body is beautiful and sexy, I'm not shy about my body or otherwise modest.

However, having my body is hard at times. Finding clothes that work with my body is a struggle, which is made manifold by the fact that I'm particular about my style choices.

I don't like that I rarely see someone with my general body shape in American made movies or TV outside of porn. I don't like the comments I get about my body from strangers who feel entitled to it. I don't like the way it seems to threaten women; or for that matter the way it seems to threaten men.

I don't like the scrutiny it receives all too frequently from lovers who are easger to make 'helpful' comments about my tummy, or notice that like other humans I get rolls when bending forward.

I don't like that other people seem to feel my body is their property.

I don't like that my body automatically is perceived as more sexual, where something I wear is considered indecent when draped against the kind of body that society has deemed acceptable for the public.

I don't like that I alway feel like i should lose 5 pounds, even though I don't know where that message came from since I don't particularly see the point.

I don't like that my pussy is always panty soaking wet. I don't like that this makes my partners think I'm always turned on. I don't like that my genetic makeup alone made me have to choose social defiance as a mechanism for life, since my body is too far outside of convention for society to bother.

What I do love is my body. I love the way it can turn heads. I love how soft it is and how warm it is. I love that I can make a balchony of cleavage. I love that I can wear a miniskirt and show off the bottom of my ass. I love that my body mobilizes my mind from place to place, and that it is always available to me as a source of pleasure. I love that I can trace an hourglass in a mirror and fit my body inside it. I love that my body is strong, strong enough to fight.

My body and I have been through hard times together, but I truly love my body.

- Sheana

 

[Leigh81]

My only experience with other women have been slim to athletic.
Yet when I fantasize they are curvier with bigger boobs.
It's more about sex appeal for me. Either or is fine.
Sheana_V you have absolutely nothing to worry about, you look fantastic.

L

 

[quietlylooking]

A very delayed response, but I wanted to answer.

I have a love hate relationship with my body. I think most of us are critical of certain body characteristics here and there, and I'm no exception. In general though I think my naked body is beautiful and sexy, I'm not shy about my body or otherwise modest.

However, having my body is hard at times. Finding clothes that work with my body is a struggle, which is made manifold by the fact that I'm particular about my style choices.

I don't like that I rarely see someone with my general body shape in American made movies or TV outside of porn. I don't like the comments I get about my body from strangers who feel entitled to it. I don't like the way it seems to threaten women; or for that matter the way it seems to threaten men.

I don't like the scrutiny it receives all too frequently from lovers who are easger to make 'helpful' comments about my tummy, or notice that like other humans I get rolls when bending forward.

I don't like that other people seem to feel my body is their property.

I don't like that my body automatically is perceived as more sexual, where something I wear is considered indecent when draped against the kind of body that society has deemed acceptable for the public.

I don't like that I alway feel like i should lose 5 pounds, even though I don't know where that message came from since I don't particularly see the point.

I don't like that my pussy is always panty soaking wet. I don't like that this makes my partners think I'm always turned on. I don't like that my genetic makeup alone made me have to choose social defiance as a mechanism for life, since my body is too far outside of convention for society to bother.

What I do love is my body. I love the way it can turn heads. I love how soft it is and how warm it is. I love that I can make a balchony of cleavage. I love that I can wear a miniskirt and show off the bottom of my ass. I love that my body mobilizes my mind from place to place, and that it is always available to me as a source of pleasure. I love that I can trace an hourglass in a mirror and fit my body inside it. I love that my body is strong, strong enough to fight.

My body and I have been through hard times together, but I truly love my body.

- Sheana

Very nicely said. Your confidence and love of your body is inspiring.

 

[Sheana_V]

Thanks Leigh81 and quietlylooking

 

[tedsbeds]

It seems a lot, perhaps the majority or men, really want to fuck the curvy girl with a big ass and big tits. However they seem to want to date the petite ladies. Am I right? What's going on here?

I don't know if you are right. I can only speak for myself. My SO of over 30 years is petite and trim and though I view these stick figure women on the internet I am also attracted to and have had relationships with ladies with more pronounced curves. Each were beautiful in their own particular way.
I have met some very attractive model like women who did nothing for me. I want to date/fuck women who I do find appealing when I have eyes closed. That we make connections here on Lit, usually w/o pictures goes to the point that beauty is so much more than skin deep.

 

[kdb]

It seems a lot, perhaps the majority or men, really want to fuck the curvy girl with a big ass and big tits. However they seem to want to date the petite ladies. Am I right? What's going on here?

Curves are sexy, but confidence is more sexy. I've found curvy girls as you say are more confident and aware of their sexual desires/wants. Additionally they seem more comfortable in their skin. Again a sexy trait. I'll take curvy any day.

 

[UrbanBohemian]

It seems a lot, perhaps the majority or men, really want to fuck the curvy girl with a big ass and big tits. However they seem to want to date the petite ladies. Am I right? What's going on here?

No, I don't think you are. Instead of looking outside you need to start looking inward. I'm going to tell you a hard truth. If you can't find a guy who wants to be with you long term that's you. Either you keep going for the wrong ones or there's something about you that makes them not want to hang around. When you go out on the weekend or whatever you see women of all body types with dates and/or husbands, do you not? Because I do. There are a lot of men who are idiots, this is true. But it's your job to weed them out and find a good one. There are seven billion people on Earth. That's a lot of people. It's not like we're all taken. If someone's unavailable that's it. You can't have them. You need to move on or wreck a home and I certainly hope that's not what you want to do. So you're going to have to focus on the ones who are available and then focus on the ones who aren't douchebags. Those are the two biggest things in my experience that are going on with women who ask these kinds of questions. I've not gone through your posting history or anything so I don't know what you are or are not doing but think about it. Are you going for these men?

I've gotten a lot of hate in a lot of places for saying I don't care about race, for example. I don't care what race you are or what ethnicity you are. I've been with white, middle eastern, Latina, Asian, and black women. I'm insulted and harassed for that a lot more than even I thought I would be. Those are the kinds of men you need to stay away from. Similarly, guys who are shallow and only want one specific body type are not magically going to turn into great people because you want them to. Now I'll be honest, sexually I have to be attracted to a person for the whole thing to work. That's the way I'm wired and I can't help that. But that includes a lot of different things. I posted a little while back on the celebrity crushes thread and I named some of the women I think are gorgeous. Those included Victoria Justice, Alexandra Daddario, Shelley Hennig, and Hayden Panettiere. You can Google them if you don't know who they are. Pretty diverse set of body types, right? Well, a LOT of us are like that. Most, I'd say. So it's not as though there are no options for people who are petite, curvy, somewhere in between, or something else entirely.

Honestly the bottom line here is there are plenty of people, (male, female, and otherwise) who are idiots and there are a lot of people who are not. The ones who are not are more mature and accepting of people who don't fit into a very narrow standard of beauty. Those are the ones you want to be with and if your experience is that no one wants to stick around it's not because of your body type. It's because of your choices. That's the real issue here.

 

[mitzidupree]

A very delayed response, but I wanted to answer.

I have a love hate relationship with my body. I think most of us are critical of certain body characteristics here and there, and I'm no exception. In general though I think my naked body is beautiful and sexy, I'm not shy about my body or otherwise modest.

However, having my body is hard at times. Finding clothes that work with my body is a struggle, which is made manifold by the fact that I'm particular about my style choices.

I don't like that I rarely see someone with my general body shape in American made movies or TV outside of porn. I don't like the comments I get about my body from strangers who feel entitled to it. I don't like the way it seems to threaten women; or for that matter the way it seems to threaten men.

I don't like the scrutiny it receives all too frequently from lovers who are easger to make 'helpful' comments about my tummy, or notice that like other humans I get rolls when bending forward.

I don't like that other people seem to feel my body is their property.

I don't like that my body automatically is perceived as more sexual, where something I wear is considered indecent when draped against the kind of body that society has deemed acceptable for the public.

I don't like that I alway feel like i should lose 5 pounds, even though I don't know where that message came from since I don't particularly see the point.

I don't like that my pussy is always panty soaking wet. I don't like that this makes my partners think I'm always turned on. I don't like that my genetic makeup alone made me have to choose social defiance as a mechanism for life, since my body is too far outside of convention for society to bother.

What I do love is my body. I love the way it can turn heads. I love how soft it is and how warm it is. I love that I can make a balchony of cleavage. I love that I can wear a miniskirt and show off the bottom of my ass. I love that my body mobilizes my mind from place to place, and that it is always available to me as a source of pleasure. I love that I can trace an hourglass in a mirror and fit my body inside it. I love that my body is strong, strong enough to fight.

My body and I have been through hard times together, but I truly love my body.

- Sheana

You sound so beautiful to me Lots of times I wonder how my body will end up but then I look at my mom. We look almost exactly alike. I have a skinny body and only had A/B cup boobs until the end of my junior year in high school. Now I'm a C cup and really happy with them . As for my mom, since we're so much alike she is really shapely with D cups and she has to work out a lot to keep trim. But she is still beautiful even when she gains a few pounds. She has always "worn it well" and keeps dad happy! I just HOPE I can look like her as I get older!

 

[kdb]

It seems a lot, perhaps the majority or men, really want to fuck the curvy girl with a big ass and big tits. However they seem to want to date the petite ladies. Am I right? What's going on here?

Curves rule! I don't conform to your comments

 

[Slickrick123]

I don't think that is true at all.
I always liked a curvy woman whether it was dating or just fucking.

 

[Misanthrope4Life]

It seems a lot, perhaps the majority or men, really want to fuck the curvy girl with a big ass and big tits. However they seem to want to date the petite ladies. Am I right? What's going on here?

No, all my ladies have been thick. I haven't had many slim women, while some are attractive, my preference has always been thick and in some cases well shaped overweight ladies


I think your point has much more to do with sex


For me body has no influence on who I take as a serious lover, but there has to be a physical attraction.

I'm from NYC, where Black and Latin men prefer women with curves, in just fucking and serious relationships