Guys, what makes a girl a good lay?

[jason28053]

I work in a factory of mostly men and this subject has come up several times. While all men have different things that turn them on, one thing seemed to be universal between them: they want a woman who embraces her sexuality, a woman who knows what she likes and isn't ashamed about it. And if she doesn't know what she likes, she isn't afraid to try new things.

Basically a man doesn't want to do any guesswork. If you communicate your desires to your partner, you'll find the sex to be much hotter. Most men are afraid to spontaneously try new things that may make their partner uncomfortable in the heat of the moment and they sure as hell don't want to ask first for fear of spoiling the mood.

As a woman, if you want to be a good lay, tell your man, in plain English, how you want them to fuck you. And yes, use the word "fuck", they like that

very well said, and right in line with my thinking as well.

 

[anthilly]

For me, she needs to be active in bed, not necessarily doing gymnastics but some moving.
I love in a conservative area and alot of the women are so sexually terrified of their own bodies they just lay there like a stiff board untill you find the sweet spot, but it can get tiring when you get nothing to tell you, that feels good or that makes me wanna run away.

 

[Dickstroker81]

She's willing to try anything, anal oral, groups, whatever.

 

[Dream59]

Her mind basically. If she has the passion and desire to please, then she will. This all starts in the mind.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I like her to be vocal and to move a lot. If I am eating her I want her hands or legs around my neck or head and I want her moving, If she wants her ass licked push my head down and say lick me honey. Just don't be a dead fish Same goes for guys

 

[Sebastian32]

I work in a factory of mostly men and this subject has come up several times. While all men have different things that turn them on, one thing seemed to be universal between them: they want a woman who embraces her sexuality, a woman who knows what she likes and isn't ashamed about it. And if she doesn't know what she likes, she isn't afraid to try new things.

Basically a man doesn't want to do any guesswork. If you communicate your desires to your partner, you'll find the sex to be much hotter. Most men are afraid to spontaneously try new things that may make their partner uncomfortable in the heat of the moment and they sure as hell don't want to ask first for fear of spoiling the mood.

As a woman, if you want to be a good lay, tell your man, in plain English, how you want them to fuck you. And yes, use the word "fuck", they like that

All of this. Totally all of this.

 

[RawHumor]

She's not a great lay unless she invites her sister to join us.

 

[funluvinaj]

I am shocked by the amount of men talking about a woman just laying there. It just kind of blows my mind... I get being a little shy but that's crazy.

Are those same women even giving head and does it last more than 30 seconds?

I've had many guys apologize for men in general when they are jackasses but the same can be said for women afraid of their sexuality. Sorry guys.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

I am shocked by the amount of men talking about a woman just laying there. It just kind of blows my mind... I get being a little shy but that's crazy.

Are those same women even giving head and does it last more than 30 seconds?

I've had many guys apologize for men in general when they are jackasses but the same can be said for women afraid of their sexuality. Sorry guys.

My husband often described his ex as "like fucking a pillow". Poor guy didn't know what hit him when I came along

 

[jackstud]

I work in a factory of mostly men and this subject has come up several times. While all men have different things that turn them on, one thing seemed to be universal between them: they want a woman who embraces her sexuality, a woman who knows what she likes and isn't ashamed about it. And if she doesn't know what she likes, she isn't afraid to try new things.

Basically a man doesn't want to do any guesswork. If you communicate your desires to your partner, you'll find the sex to be much hotter. Most men are afraid to spontaneously try new things that may make their partner uncomfortable in the heat of the moment and they sure as hell don't want to ask first for fear of spoiling the mood.

As a woman, if you want to be a good lay, tell your man, in plain English, how you want them to fuck you. And yes, use the word "fuck", they like that

Damm your so right on

 

[Que]

Enthusiasm.

 

[mrmiwon]

Lack of inhibition. Self confidence. Sense of humor.

Yes, self confidence and its companion, lack of self-loathing. I'm vocal. I love to tell a woman how hot she is and what I like about her. I want her to embrace that not tell me I'm wrong or how I can think that or I'm just saying that. When a woman embraces her hotness in bed and acts on it, that's when she makes the man's eyes roll back into his head.

 

[2bhard]

Hearing your woman cum and let you know she's not faking it.

 

[tmmmbrrr]

.....

 

[funluvinaj]

My husband often described his ex as "like fucking a pillow". Poor guy didn't know what hit him when I came along

*giggle*

I kind of describe myself as a handgun with some kick... Maybe a 44 Magnum...

My ex-husband couldn't handle a BB gun.

I currently have someone in my life that not only can handle it, but appreciates the "kick-back". Load me up!!

 

[anthilly]

I am shocked by the amount of men talking about a woman just laying there. It just kind of blows my mind... I get being a little shy but that's crazy.

Are those same women even giving head and does it last more than 30 seconds?

I've had many guys apologize for men in general when they are jackasses but the same can be said for women afraid of their sexuality. Sorry guys.

I can understand your point, but ive found that even when a guy is stupid sweet alot of women will still be too afraid to expose their inner sexuality for any period of time.

 

[SlutAddicted]

There seems to be a general consensus that what we want is a woman interested in sex, desirous of us personally and without too many hang-ups. Pretty simple really.

The first two of those elements are largely involuntary - all you can really do is be honest about it.

The third element is interesting. We often use uninhibited as a catch-all for a woman willing to do wild things. I think the more accurate perspective is whether or not she is allowing her own desires and preferences to be constrained. If a woman sincerely doesn't like X that doesn't make her inhibited and I am thrilled to be informed of this fact so I can focus elsewhere. What makes her inhibited is when she allows exogenous factors to keep her from considering her own desires and perspective. The most obvious example is being too aware of the judgment and opinion of others. If your sex life is going to be constrained by every judgmental word ever spoken by your mother, girlfriends and the pope.....well you are going to be a lousy lay no matter how hot you are.

You can't be your own person until you consider the possibility of having different opinions than the most important people in your life. It is a fundamental element of growing up that we learn to understand that we can love and respect those people without feeling it necessary to reconcile their views to ours. If you can't get there it is just a matter of time before you try to impose those perspectives on means make me feel bad for expressing my desire. I would rather go home and beat-off without the shame thanks very much.

 

[funluvinaj]

I can understand your point, but ive found that even when a guy is stupid sweet alot of women will still be too afraid to expose their inner sexuality for any period of time.

Oh I agree... I was looking at it from the other side... There are men who are bad lays for the same reasons. I agree with the poster above me... If you let the extraneous stuff interfere you will have problems. Religion was a constant battle with my ex and sex.

 

[jackstud]

*giggle*

I kind of describe myself as a handgun with some kick... Maybe a 44 Magnum...

My ex-husband couldn't handle a BB gun.

I currently have someone in my life that not only can handle it, but appreciates the "kick-back". Load me up!!

Love that term, kick back and load me up, ready to give a Man a bump

 

[Duckers22]

Probably all depends upon what is running through the guys head at the time

 

[looking34205]

In my opinion she must love cock. Not have sex for the sake of doing it and getting it over with. Nothing pleases me more than just making a woman cum and as long as she can cum and enjoy herself that all I care. Also, sucking my cock after I cum and making me hard within a few minutes it's amazing. Love women who have those type of skills. I also love a woman who is not afraid of anal.

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

In my opinion she must love cock. Not have sex for the sake of doing it and getting it over with. Nothing pleases me more than just making a woman cum and as long as she can cum and enjoy herself that all I care. Also, sucking my cock after I cum and making me hard within a few minutes it's amazing. Love women who have those type of skills. I also love a woman who is not afraid of anal.

Those skills and not affraid of anal, make a woman a "Great" lay!

 

[pensivepoet]

Duct tape or a ball gag?
Sorry~couldn't resist

 

[blooflame]

Brains

Any woman who has brains usually has a sexual imagination - which then makes her a lot of fun in bed!

 

[Kozuka]

Definitely enthusiasm and effort--yo don't have to flip around the bed like a break dancer, but some movement and participation is incredibly motivating.