Have you changed?

[Patryn]

*sighs*

How many times to I have do say this? It wasn't WHAT was said that upset me, or the fact that someone disagreed with me...I'm a big girl, I can take it. It was the fact that, as I saw it, someone had read more into my thoughts than what I actually said.

And Laurel, I didn't mean to imply that "this board is a sucky clique". If it were, I wouldn't come here. I don't expect anyone to beg me to stay, Lasher. If I want to leave, I will leave. If I want to stay, I will stay.

If the clique thing is a sore spot, I guess I can understand that. Maybe it wasn't so much me as the issue I inadvertently brought up? Maybe? I dunno...

Most of you seem to have also forgotten the POSITIVE comment I made at the end of my original post. I still stand by it. I was upset and said some harsh things, for that I am sorry.

So, whatever...

 

[Endlessly]

*LMAO* Yes Deborah, pure Magic, what else? Hmmm.. Suppose that'll work. I need to get rid of the rest of that desensitizing lube I bought from the adult store anyway. ("I can't feel my lips!" That stuff is deadly.) Might as wel use it on Roger.

Ohhhhhh Ro---ger...


*LMFAO*

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

All right, to answer Carl's question about how Literotica has changed them -- for me the only difference is that THEN I didn't write erotic stories and NOW I do. My feelings and opinons on sexuality were formed before coming here. So, no, I don't feel changed.

I have learned a few things, however, about all the other non-erotic topis discussed here, everything from the IRA to NAPSTER, and that part of the Board really excites me. Getting a world view on such subject has made me feel a bit more enlightened, and a little more tolerant of opposing viewpoints, but not "changed" in any substantial way.

 

[Guest]

Hey! Ain't no goddamn futhafukka doin no goddamn futhafukkin mischief to my muthafukkin goddamn ass y'hear?

And besides Sweet Debwa's forgotten the combination and the locksmiths are all out on strike.

BTW - have you been to see Deboringah's stall in the Author Hangout yet, Endlessly? If you could help out on weekends that'd be great.

 

[Laurel]

I have also witnessed new people being stomped on, and not getting any support. This is perhaps going off the original question, but a valid point never the less.

Ah, but that's one of the hazards of a nearly-totally open forum. I expect everyone to act as adults - to take care of themselves, to be able to withstand criticism from others. I'm no one's mother. It is not my place to go around the board "defending" or "supporting" people. I've attempted to do so in the past, and it backfires - if I "defend" one person against another, then the other party feels hurt, and the person I defended then thinks that I will go on defending their every action. When this person goes out and picks a fight expecting me to jump in and take their side, & I don't, they get pissed at me. (And yes, this exact situation did happen.) Then, I have to go around "defending" everyone or else I get accused of taking sides.

You are all adults. If you can't handle your opinions being criticized, then you shouldn't post them in a public forum. Are all the criticisms posted here valid? No. Are some even a little meaner than they need to be? Probably. On more than one occasion, someone here has "gone after" me, insulting or attacking me in a way I felt was unfair. You know how I handled it? I replied with a smartass post and moved on.

In real life, if some guy on the freeway flips you off because he thinks you cut him off even though HE'S the one driving like a maniac, you don't get your feelings hurt over it, right? Because he's just some jerky stranger, acting like an ass. The same should be applied here. You don't HAVE to take personally everything said on this board, or anywhere on the Net.

For every "mean" post, there's 4 or 5 "welcome to the board", "glad to see you here", "attaboy, great post" type responses. To dwell on the very few negative reactions is to miss the big picture, I think.

And I'm sorry if my earlier reply sounded sarcastic, Carl. It wasn't meant as such. It was late at night, and I was tired - not a good excuse, but the only one I have right now, lol.

Patryn - it's cool. I apologize for the harsh response. You just inadvertantly struck a big nerve...dontcha hate it when that happens?

 

[April]

The question seems to be "Have you changed, and if so, how". Let's take a look, shall we.

• I used to be unemployed. Hmm, after a quick check, yep, I'm still unemployed.
• I used to hate where I live. Yep, still hate it.
• I used to make time to do the housework and errands. Now, I spend most of my day in front of the computer staring at this board, waiting for someone to post something funny I can read.
• I used to be shy and introverted. Now, I'm even worse, and verging on the edge of hermit-like!
• I used to have more buttons on my shirt, but the washer seems to have eaten most of them. <sigh> Not the boards fault.
• Once upon a time, I used to have a life, and interesting things to say. <sigh> Again, not the boards fault.
• I used to have a crappy sex life. Yep, still do.

Now I'm even more depressed than when I started this post. <sigh>

 

[Dreamer1]

Originally posted by Gingersnap
I changed my underwear does that count???

Question for the masses: Can you change your underwear if you don't wear underwear?

 

[Tony]

I was walking down the "CLIQUE" the other day when I noticed a "CLIQUE" of mine standing against a "CLIQUE" .So I shouted out to him "HEY""CLIQUE" "what are you up to". He said he was looking for a new "CLIQUE" ,i said ...what happened to your old "CLIQUE" oh he said that ol"CLIQUE" broke down. i said that ol"CLIQUE" was a piece of"CLIQUE" anyway.....lets go get you a new "CLIQUE" . so we went down to the "CLIQUE" looked around for a while and found a new "CLIQUE" that was just right.we returned to his "CLIQUE" with the new "CLIQUE" and showed it to his"CLIQUE" . after that we all had a big "CLIQUE" ,i thought the"CLIQUE" would go on all night.it seemed like everybody ended up in everbodies"CLIQUE" . some people were so sore they could hardly "CLIQUE" .but every"CLIQUE" had a good"CLIQUE" and thats all that"CLIQUE"s
THE"CLIQUE" !!!!!!
I hope Deborah is still out mowing the grass

 

[Thumper]

To answer the question...no change. Just sitting at the computer for long periods of time doing nothing...

Gingersnap....'bout time! (that you changed your underwear)

 

[Earthgoddess]

Handing April a box of buttons-sorry that your washer ate yours((((HUGS)))))...
How have I changed since posting here???well I don't cyber any more,because I find roleplay to be much better...but I still wish I had an extra hour each day to be here and really work on my writing...but at least my laundry is done and my garden is weeded,barely since I still choose this over chores any time such a choice is offered.

 

[Carl East]

Dear Earthgoddess, there never seems to be enough time to do all the things we want to do. As for the role playing, that's something I haven't yet gotten around too, perhaps you could could give me some tips.

Thanks

Carl.

 

[April]

Thanks for the buttons, Earthgoddess. And the hug. Sometimes get lonely and crabby in my little cave.

 

[Lasher]

Re: Changes caused by Literotica

The only thing that I do not like is Lasher.

Ok, I would just like to take this opportunity to apologize for all the things I've said that may have been a little too harsh....

Hell, I'll even go ahead and list them for ya so I don't forgot anyone....

Are ya ready??

Ok, here we go.....

#1 There was the time I... Wait a sec, that one actually made sense...

Ok, wait, let's start over then....

*AHEM*

#1 Back about a month or so a go I called.... Shit, no, that one was 100% dead on, too.

Alright, alright....let's try this again....

Lemme think for a second.... I can do this...

Ok... I got it this time, HONEST... No more pulling your legs...

Ready??

Ok...

#1 If you can't take a joke, well then FU...

Oooops..... I'm supposed to be apologizing here, huh?? That doesn' really.. Ahhh, well, shit....

HEY! Does anyone remember the name of Paul Reuben's character in Cheech and Chong's "Nice Dreams"??? I think he might have said it better than I ever could, when he said...

"I'm sorry.... I'm sorry.... I'm sorry..... I'm sorry.... I'm so sorry.... I'm sorry..... I'M NOT SORRY.... AHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!!"

Btw, you really do need to see the movie to appreciate the depth of feeling with which this line was presented....

And would saying, "neener, neener, neener" be going to far??

Hmmmm....

 

[Gingersnap]

HAHAHAHHHHHHHHAAHHHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
HAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAH bending over HAHAHAHAHHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHH
Wiping my eyes, that Thumper guy he is just so hysterical!!
You really ought to take it on the road "Thump" or was that a "thud".


Yours in Christ your little cookie

 

[Thumper]

Finally got someone to laugh without dropping my pants!!!

Lasher......quite simply...you rock dude!

 

[Firesprite]

Things I did on My Holiday

Oh whoops wrong essay.

How Literotica Has Changed Me

When I first came to Literotica I was a sad and lonely person. I came because it seemed that there were stories to be read. For the first month or so I was just reading the stories. For the second month I frequented the chat. In my third month I was a wallflower on the BB. Then I read a post that I simply had to reply to. I cant even remember now what it was, but I could not go away without saying something.

Now, I spend all my time here. I have to pull myself away from the board by my own hair (on my head) or I wouldn't get anything done. I risk loosing my internet access at work when I read the board, I risk loosing my job because I am late from reading deep into the night. I spend 40 hours a week on the internet at home, and 40 at work.

I have been insulted on the board before, but a carefully worded email to the insulting party resulted in a public appology. It was not the outcome I was expecting, I was just looking to see if there was a reason behind it. I have only once seriously abused another BB user, and that was in knee jerk reaction to the user abusing another member in a vicious and horrible attack.

I do not feel I am part of a select group who excludes new people on the basis that they are new, or a group who doesn't allow others in if they hold a different opinion.
I feel that I am part of a community who sticks together to help each other out, who cares if your cat dies, who worries when you are not feeling good, and who you can talk to about all those little things you want to know. I am among friends who laugh, cry, squabble, and love each other with open minds and open hearts.

So in answer to your question Carl, Yes, the board has changed me, both in my real life and in my internet existence. I am more open with people, willing to stand up for myself, friendlier and happier than I have been in many years. I value other peoples opinions more. I value other peoples experiences.

For the first time in my life I have come to a place where I have been made welcome, made to feel wanted, made to feel more than just a sad, lonely girl in need of a friend.

Laurel and Manu and to all those who have made me feel welcome: Thankyou.

 

[Guest]

You've changed

No, I haven't changed. I just have a place to post some of my rambling thoughts.

You other posters have changed. You have become more like real people and less like sex objects.

 

[Carl East]

Dear Firesprite,

Thank you for being humourous, intelligent, warm and honest. Your reply made my thread worth doing, I too am guilty of shouting off at someone, and for the same reason you mentioned. When you have made friends, it's hard not to defend them from attack, but you move on.

I don't know you, but I would like too, your refreshing honesty is worth being here for, as well as the horny stories of course. LOL

Thank you

Carl.

 

[Firesprite]

its how we are

I don't see alot of difference between my internet friendships here and my real life friendships..
If I hear someone shooting my friends down then I'm gonna knee cap him right back.. I don't normally go for the eye for an eye philosophy on life, but there are nerves that every now and again get hit and I lash back wether I was the original target or not.

 

[Kamiyue2c]

Loved your answer Firesprite.

I too found the stories, but from there I went to the BB. Don't know why but I'm intimidated by chat rooms. I've never been able to just go up and start talking to people.

Friendships will form in many ways and even if you're on the other side of the world, a friend is someone you will try to help or protect. I can see it in all the writings here on the BB and hope with time that I can find some to be good friends with.

e2c

 

[Sammyjo]

I know you don't give a fuck....

....but I don't either.

Even the "friends" I've made don't talk to me anymore...

I still love this site. I still love visiting the BB. But I just have learned to take everything with a grain of salt. All the friendliness can change in a matter of seconds if you step on the wrong toes. All the cameraderie that you are shown can turn into pure evil and hatred if someone doesn't agree with you. And everyone can deny it or not, but I tend to agree with the "in-crowd" theory. I have close to 700 posts...some may consider me part of that crowd. I don't know about that, nor do I care. What I have noticed is that quite a few newbies have been shoved off the board by what we call normal banter...they see it as chastizing. Even the "regulars" have stopped their normal posting because of some of this.

Now, *I* understand the theory that if you don't join in, no one will learn to accept your ideas because you don't voice them. Some people still have this to learn. I also know that excessive posting about silly shit doesn't a friendly atmosphere make. I also know that just because I post a thread, doesn't mean anyone will respond to it. I don't use the term clique because, to me that sounds snotty, snobbish. I don't think people here are inherently clique-ish. I think there are a few people here that are revered for their ideas and insight that others can not give. Because these people get back up from others on their thoughts or ideas, some see this as clique-ish.

Personally, I like Lasher's comments. I find them dead-on most of the time. Even when I don't agree, he gets me thinking. Yes, he's been "harsh" to a person here or there, but so what? Look back...read your own responses to people. You will find that you may have been harsh to others in the past. Hell, you may have had feelings that go along those lines, but you were too chicken to post them.

People...in real life, you don't agree with 100% of the people 100% of the time. Why would you think you would on here? I didn't come on here to make friends, I came on here to learn and share views on sexuality...and anything else that comes up. I've been given some real lessons on history and current events on here that I normally wouldn't have paid the slightest bit of attention to.

Have I changed? maybe...How? I have probably changed 100 times since coming on here. I go from day to day changing. Just like everyone does. New things are learned, old ideas are tossed by the wayside. An attitude I may have held last month, may not be as strong today. If I read past posts I may not agree 100% with what I said. I may have spouted out in anger at someone and now regret it. I may not have said something I wish I had said. My personal life may or may not influence these things. Actually, the things that happen in my daily life probably influence my attitude on here more than I care to admit. However, I try not to let things from here influence my personal life. If I took to heart everything that everyone on here said, I'd be in more trouble than I care to have.

At the end of the day, the only person I have to answer to is myself. I post with honesty and intelligence (some may care to refute this, but that's their problem) and I respect those that do the same.

 

[Thumper]

Damn High Peaks, I came to the BB to be less like a real person and more of a sex object....I just can't get anything right....

I know! I know..more silly shit but I don't give a fuck either

 

[Carl East]

Kamiyue2c: You're missing out by not going to the chat rooms, friends can be made in these places, but I know what you mean. You're right friendships can form in many ways, and if you stay around long enough, you will surely make some, thank you for the replies to my post.


Sammyjo: You're wrong, I do give a fuck, like you I love this site. I don't particually want to be part of the crowd, I prefer to be an individual, but I do know what you mean. In the past I have deliberately stayed away from someone else's thread, simply because I didn't agree, I didn't want to spoil it for them. Now, I feel if you don't on occasion voice your thoughts, another point of view is wasted. Change is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, it's life. Thank you Sammyjo.

Carl

 

[Guest]

I don't particually want to be part of the crowd, I prefer to be an individual

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

 

[Softly]

The essence of Lasher

Lasher's post concerning my comments about him display the essence of the man.

He is noise, not music.