How can you tell who the real Masters are?

[Marquis]

Maybe the day will come when I am able to read the words "online Master" without giggling, but I doubt it.

You WILL capitalize your ims. I command it!

 

[RJMasters]

You WILL capitalize your ims. I command it!

::loud thunder echoing voice::

Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!...the great and powerful Marquis has spoken!

 

[navarre]

Maybe the day will come when I am able to read the words "online Master" without giggling, but I doubt it.

Same here.

 

[Hajar]

O.k. I've lurked long enough and being quiet just doesn't suit me.

Welcome to the club.

My question stems from experiences I have had with online Masters. It seems around this board that Masters who only operate online are not seen as real Masters anyway but that is beside the point.

In my view as a virtual newbie, online can't be compared to real life, as another submissive posted a little while ago online D/s relationships ppl lie.
They don't do as they are told.
In my view nothing beats the feel of the toy, it holds no power unless he's there, what's a threat worth if he isn't there with his hands wrapped around your neck.

I wanted to try and figure out my submissive side and decided to talk to some online Masters. They seemed to be out for themselves and just tried to get me to admit I was submissive. One of them even when I said I wasn't sure was still trying to get me to do things I wasn't up for. Is there such a thing as a good online only Dom or are they all just out for themselves? They called themselves Masters but who decides this? Do they just decide for themselves? I suppose they must do. It seems a pretty powerful title to just be able to give yourself. I'd appreciate any thoughts about this. Thanks.

As said before many online are liars, the lies run the gammut, I believe when you are looking for someone online you should ask for some one who has real time exper. (note it might be a lie) however in the off chance that you are dealing with someone educated in this lifestyle, you know that in time IF what you have goes real life the first time you play you won't end up with a broken tail bone or worst.

 

[Marquis]

::loud thunder echoing voice::

Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!...the great and powerful Marquis has spoken!

Good to see you back in town drifter.

 

[Guest]

Hmmmm........Master and I have a little joke, about the "real Master's handbook" which must be written in invisible ink too because in all my searching and reading I've never come across a copy of it........

And I'll bet you lost your secret decoder ring too...Didn't you??

Relative to online BDSM ...See attached..

 

[Miss Diva]

Well maybe one of the more experienced PYL/pyl should write a "For Dummies" Book. You know

Doms for Dummies
Subs for Dummies
BSDM for Dummies
Flogging for Dummies
etc, etc

 

[incubus'_sub]

No need, they will all still turn up & ask their silly questions here eventually anyway.

Of course we all try to be very polite & kind and say there's no such thing as silly questions, but yes, yes there are. At times this board reads like a teenage agony aunt column.

 

[RomyDelaney]

No need, they will all still turn up & ask their silly questions here eventually anyway.

Of course we all try to be very polite & kind and say there's no such thing as silly questions, but yes, yes there are. At times this board reads like a teenage agony aunt column.

I won't bother again then.

 

[h_i_s]

i don't do online BDSM, and never have.

Somehow being blindfolded, handcuffed and gagged, with my wrists secured high above my head to an eyebolt in the ceiling, with a 10" dildo teasingly stroking at my little pink bits REAL TIME leaves little room for my sharing an interest for the same to be experienced ONLINE. Besides, i don't know how i would be able to type in a sensible manner while in 'sub space'.

i have corresponded online with many proclaiming to be Doms or subs, and as a 24/7 real time live in slave to my Master, i don't believe that those whose only experiences exist via online interactions really get a true sense of what the experience involves.

There's a big difference to experience between online BDSM play compared to REAL TIME. Those who experience REAL TIME would not argue the fact.

The real Doms that i know don't need labels proclaiming their dominance such as "MasterPooBaa", "MasterBigShalong4U", or "SirOnYaKneesSlut" etc ect.

The real submissives and slaves that i know do not need labels which mark them as doormats for every Dom on the whole daymned net, such as: "yourslut4play_beforeweevenmeet", "fuckmesuckmesubbieslut4all", "curiouslysubmissivecamkitty" etc ect.

The real time Doms i know do not email nor instant message a submissive the first time and proclaim, "On your knees, I own your submissive ass".
The real time submissives & slaves i know don't enter a chat and kneel before a Dom who behaves as described above, and then reply, "i am Your's to do with what You please for all eternity Master umm, Master .. errrrr .. by the way what IS your real name again Sir?" These same subs would more likely tell the domwannabe troll to get OFF his knees and pry his head out of his rude ass.

Real Dom's i have known do not cyber, and do not do phone sex. Those which i have known have no interest in making believe, in that once they have tasted REAL TIME Dominance of a REAL TIME submissive, the online thing does absolutely nothing for them.

As a 24/7 slave, i prefere it is He who is applying a firm spanking, to my submissive ass, or teasing my clit with a dildo, or torturing my nipples with clamps, while not allowing me to cum ( or all of the afore mentioned, ) vs. my doing any of it to myself on a web cam.

--Whatever floats your boat is what floats YOUR boat ... not judging anyone else's choices or situations ... just sharing my opinion.--

¸,ø¤º°sinn0cent1°º¤ø,¸ (proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND)

 

[catalina_francisco]

Well maybe one of the more experienced PYL/pyl should write a "For Dummies" Book. You know

Doms for Dummies
Subs for Dummies
BSDM for Dummies
Flogging for Dummies
etc, etc

LOL, I was thinking just this thought a couple of days ago. then I thought of all those protests from people who would assume I was saying they were dumb and just felt too tired to think anymore on it.

Catalina

 

[MissTaken]

It's hard to find a dominant,that will last and is for real I know that from experience, even when you think he is the one for you,there could be a chance he isn't.

Hell.

It can be hard to find a friend, a literati partner, a vanilla lover, a reliable physician or a trustworthy teacher in real time.

So to discuss the challenges of on line...............

Well, it is a large murky sea.

Go with your gut.
If it sounds like shark, smells like shark; run before your leg gets bitten off.

 

[Marquis]

Unless you want your leg bitten off.

 

[solomon797]

All Things

It's hard to find a dominant,that will last and is for real I know that from experience, even when you think he is the one for you,there could be a chance he isn't.

You can say that about ALL THINGS IN LIFE.

 

[arctic-stranger]

Romy, the place to start is with yourself.

You want an online relationship, and that is understandable. Those who have jumped fully into the lifestyle sometimes have a hard time understanding those who want to put a toe in, but we all have different ways of both expressing and understanding ourselves.

The fact that you want an online relationship tells us something about yourself. But just to show how dicey the internet is, what does it tell those of us who read your post? Maybe you are hesitant, and the online dom is right to question whether this is right for you. Maybe you are married, with a spouse who has NO interest in this life, and you want to remain as faithful as you can be to him, while still being true to yourself. Maybe you are a guy pretending to be a girl looking for a dom....we really dont know.

I have one online relationship, and it was a few weeks before we ever got to anything of real significance. Doing this online is possible, but it is a bit like trying to tie your shoes while wearing gloves.

anyway , i hope you find what you are looking for. Take your time. If it is right, let it happen, if it is wrong for you, dont prolong a boring or mediocre chat...***** is too short.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Maybe interesting for some...

 

[incubus_dark]

Actually, finding someone you like to play with online should be relatively easy (relative to the outside 'real' world that is). Consider, in actuality you are doing nothing more than talking dirty, exchanging ideas, typing etc. There is no actual risk, apart from the risk of reading something that you find unpleasant or that of having your feelings hurt. You don't need to worry about being injured, about consent issues, or any of the miriad things necessary to the beginnings of an actual physical relationship between people in person, per se.

It would seem then, that all you need to do is make your presence known on a variety of online forums, until you 'meet' someone who's ideas of online play, are more or less in accord with your own. Factuality, objective reality, physical possibility, need never come into it, or at least no more than you desire.

As for marrying up the online 'experience' with what you might encounter when and or if you venture to explore BDSM (or whatever you want to call it) in physical actuality; forget it, there is no substitute. At best you might discover one of those rare online relationships that allow you to get to know each other in such a way that you aren't repulsed if ever you chance to meet, but in all likelyhood even that is expecting too much. At most you will know if you like the fantasy of it all. When it comes to playing skin to skin, you'll still be utterly inexperienced and in the dark.

If it's actual information about skin to skin games that you're really interested in, you'll do better to read online resources and participate in discussions as an interested novice, than to throw yourself into a fantasy world. At least, that's the way I see it, at the moment.

 

[Yang4yin]

Take this Acid Test.

The term ‘Acid Test’ is an old prospecting term. A powerful acid can dissolve most base metals in a matter of minutes. However, gold will stand up to most acids. So the ‘Acid Test’ was an easy way for people to make sure they had a real nugget of gold and not a lump of the ‘fool's’ variety. In the same way, these tests are meant to be quick ways to identify fake Doms. Passing all these tests is no guarantee either, there is no replacement for getting to know your prospective partner as well as possible BEFORE YOU EVEN MEET IN PERSON.

Now most of these tests are designed in mind for a submissive female trying to sort through men claiming to be Doms online. They are largely based on the many questions I get asked by my female friends still searching for a Dominant partner. Some of them can probably be used by male subs as well, but for the most part, these tests are best for ferreting out male fakes. Vanilla males are usually after ‘easy sex’ and this motive makes them easier to identify than a lot of the fake Dommes out there.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

There's no need to wonder any longer.

I'm here.

You can safely ignore the rest...

 

[EmpressFi]

There's no need to wonder any longer.

I'm here.

You can safely ignore the rest...

ROFL!!

I love it

 

[RisiaSkye]

Q: How can you tell who the real Masters are?

A: They don't have to advertise; they don't need to call themselves "Master."

 

[Homburg]

It seems a pretty powerful title to just be able to give yourself. I'd appreciate any thoughts about this. Thanks.

That's the biggest reason why I don't call myself "MasterWhatever" as a nickname. I'm not a Master of anything important. My gal calls me "Master" as a sign of respect. That's all. Claiming that title is more than a bit self-important.

As to who is a real master and who isn't, fuck if I know. I know a Master Massage Therapist and a Master Carpenter. Master, in this particular context, only has meaning for the person what is using that title on her Master.

 

[rachy91]

hey look its all my fave people!!

Hi geof, fi, Homburg

*twiddles thumbs and has no input really on this topic*

 

[Netzach]

Maybe this is really ass backwards, but why don't people consider looking for compatible people who make them feel like submitting and laying down their power because of who they are, rather than looking for "real masters" and auditioning them for the job of their Dom based on that label?

 

[rachy91]

Maybe this is really ass backwards, but why don't people consider looking for compatible people who make them feel like submitting and laying down their power because of who they are, rather than looking for "real masters" and auditioning them for the job of their Dom based on that label?

*slow clap*

*faster clap* WOO perfectly said !