ReadyOne
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I might add that I'm weird about things like this.
The first girl I married, about two months or so before the wedding, wanted me to meet the guy she was seeing on the side. Over a period of time, she started talking about some of the escapades the staff at the restaurant where she worked were having with each other. Explained how a couple of the bus boys were really hot, and how others succumbed.
Then she pointed out one of the guys to me when I was eating there. Then she confessed to giving him a ride home one night and making out. Then she wanted me to met him, because she didn't want things to go farther between them. (Remember this is all during the weeks leading up to our wedding.)
After they guy and I met, she confessed that she'd been to his apartment several times, but "they'd never had sex". She promised to stop, but it turned out she didn't.
After we'd been married a couple of months, she ask me to try a little kink that she wasn't sure I'd go for. In her hurried sales pitch, said that they felt so good when this guy did them to her. A few days later she told me she'd gone down to the health department for testing and they hadn't found any STD.
I don't know for sure when she finally broke it off (didn't press for details) but she stopped working at the restaurant not too long after.
I'm weird because I really didn't have a problem with her and the guy before we were married. I felt she was loyal and committed to me, and I didn't see having sex with someone else (that actually started when I wasn't around -- another story) meant that she didn't love me too.
After we were married, the only things that bothered me were that she'd reneged on her promise to stop, and that she wasn't sharing important information with me. I still felt she was committed and took her confession as an expression that she wanted to keep our relationship. And we talked about things, making a formal agreement that she could have lovers on the side as long as she kept me informed. Several times after that she came and told me what she wanted to do and I gave her my blessing.
That girl had more than enough love to go around, and a very good sexual appetite. I don't feel that she took anything away from me, or from us, save for the one incident where she didn't disclose that she couldn't/didn't do what she said she would do. We quickly recovered, learned the lesson, and never had any trouble over sex or over communication (except for a couple of incidents with the credit card...) We said goodby in bed just before she got in the U-Haul and drove away.
The first girl I married, about two months or so before the wedding, wanted me to meet the guy she was seeing on the side. Over a period of time, she started talking about some of the escapades the staff at the restaurant where she worked were having with each other. Explained how a couple of the bus boys were really hot, and how others succumbed.
Then she pointed out one of the guys to me when I was eating there. Then she confessed to giving him a ride home one night and making out. Then she wanted me to met him, because she didn't want things to go farther between them. (Remember this is all during the weeks leading up to our wedding.)
After they guy and I met, she confessed that she'd been to his apartment several times, but "they'd never had sex". She promised to stop, but it turned out she didn't.
After we'd been married a couple of months, she ask me to try a little kink that she wasn't sure I'd go for. In her hurried sales pitch, said that they felt so good when this guy did them to her. A few days later she told me she'd gone down to the health department for testing and they hadn't found any STD.
I don't know for sure when she finally broke it off (didn't press for details) but she stopped working at the restaurant not too long after.
I'm weird because I really didn't have a problem with her and the guy before we were married. I felt she was loyal and committed to me, and I didn't see having sex with someone else (that actually started when I wasn't around -- another story) meant that she didn't love me too.
After we were married, the only things that bothered me were that she'd reneged on her promise to stop, and that she wasn't sharing important information with me. I still felt she was committed and took her confession as an expression that she wanted to keep our relationship. And we talked about things, making a formal agreement that she could have lovers on the side as long as she kept me informed. Several times after that she came and told me what she wanted to do and I gave her my blessing.
That girl had more than enough love to go around, and a very good sexual appetite. I don't feel that she took anything away from me, or from us, save for the one incident where she didn't disclose that she couldn't/didn't do what she said she would do. We quickly recovered, learned the lesson, and never had any trouble over sex or over communication (except for a couple of incidents with the credit card...) We said goodby in bed just before she got in the U-Haul and drove away.
