How do dominants make sure their subs don't forget?

[Technodivinitas]

Careful What You Wish For...

Well, He was pleased- very much so. Then I hadda go and screw up by forgetting to turn on the dryer, thus leaving His bedclothes all wet. So for the next three days, I don't get to take this thing off except for showering. (And we're expecting a heatwave, too.) My memory will be thoroughly jogged for some time to come!

 

[shy slave]

Re: Re: Mr Blonde

Are you telling us, doll that you lie? sorta?

Only on days ending in a 'Y' lol

 

[s'lara]

It makes sense that rituals and plain repetition would help to ensure the sub is aware of their place outside of the immediate presence of their Dominant.

Here is the link referred to by Mr. Blonde regarding rituals. The involvement of rituals can provide the sub with the opportunity to practice balancing their need for submission in an environment that calls for them to act converse to their nature. No easy feat.

In keeping with the thought of enforced rituals in a non-D/s related environment, it can be confusing and hard to handle these reminders especially if the situation requires the sub to resist their inclination towards submission. How does one cultivate a constant submissive mind set yet simultaneously ensure that this way of thinking will not adversely affect the sub's need to respond non-passively in a situation which calls for it?

While there's merit in maintaining a sub's role throughout day to day activities, I believe some balance is necessary to make sure that the sub isn't too wrapped up in the headiness of the submissive response. To allow those feelings to germinate during situations that don’t benefit from the submissive nature, can result in putting the sub at a disadvantage; simply, it feels good and right to react submissively and that can be an impediment at times.

I think it bears mentioning that a submissive mentality can be hard to handle by itself in say the workplace or in social situations where the Owner isn’t present. So, any rituals implemented by the Dominant to remind the submissive of their place outside of their presence should be done with some consideration as to whether the submissive will benefit from the ritual in that instance or become hindered by it. For those of us who are submissive, it is tough to let go of the natural instinct to be acquiescent in lots of situations, so “feeding” us these reminders constantly makes it harder to think outside of the sub mind set.

i'm not putting down the idea of making sure subs do not forget their place, i am just putting a perspective out there from a sub who has been the recipient of these kinds of rituals, enjoyed the reminders and struggled with the balancing act.

lara

 

[h_i_s]

i wear a sterling silver collar, as well as an 'O' ring given to me by my Master. As instructed, i never remove them. Also, my nails are always painted red, and kept quite long per His instructions (master's favorite color for them.. i preferre soft shades of pinks normally). i follow His requests happily with the simple knowledge of how this pleases Him, i do not need such symbolisms however, as not a moment has ever passed while i am temporarily away from him, in which i could even possibly forget Him for a second.

... just my 2 cents worth.

 

[shy slave]

Links to Shadowsdream

Thanks for that link Lara.

Shadowsdream has written so eloquently on rituals that I could not do it justice if I where to consdence into an email for Him..
Have decided to email Him the link, thus saving me the hassle of trying to condense it (yes, I know I waffle!).

The sideline bonus is He will not have time to read it all in full, remember it and implement it as we do not live together.
Therefore I'm not telling lies to Him about information found, and I (probably) won't be on the end of some of those rituals!!

Problem solved.

Now you lot won't tell on me will you? After all i am being good by reading it and acknowledging that Shadowsdream cannot be condensed into a few paltry words.

Thats all, Honest, I am NOT being a difficult sub ~ No really, I only want my Master to have all info in full ~ You do believe me don't you ?