How Do You Balance.....
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MasterPhoenix
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NotsoJollyRoger said:
Care to elaborate on that in English, please?
lil_slave_rose
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LOL..wow this is an old thread. i am happy to report that everything is MUCH better these days
. as far as this post, wow....this advise from someone who spells 'chose' 'choze' and JUST 'juz" i just re-read through the whole thing i had forgotten about it and didn't even read some of it.
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Balance?
I have pre standing obligations as well and I think the best advice was given, Someone said to try and keep sending little messages and try to keep contact with him though you are buisy...
Sometime I notice too when I am down, depressed, or stressed out, I want to just close up. Stop talking to everyone... I just think having a PYL you always messge is a good way of keeping a support system, so you don't become overwhelmed and feel like you're alone.
I don't have a balance so much, I have too much work and not nearly enough play... So I can't give advice really, These people are much better for that... I am just here for "moral support" since I am rather new *wink*
I begin to get all antsy the longer and longer I wait...
I hope all works out favorably for you, and I hope your friend gets well soon.
Sincerely, Diamond
I have pre standing obligations as well and I think the best advice was given, Someone said to try and keep sending little messages and try to keep contact with him though you are buisy...
Sometime I notice too when I am down, depressed, or stressed out, I want to just close up. Stop talking to everyone... I just think having a PYL you always messge is a good way of keeping a support system, so you don't become overwhelmed and feel like you're alone.
I don't have a balance so much, I have too much work and not nearly enough play... So I can't give advice really, These people are much better for that... I am just here for "moral support" since I am rather new *wink*
I begin to get all antsy the longer and longer I wait...
I hope all works out favorably for you, and I hope your friend gets well soon.
Sincerely, Diamond
lil_slave_rose
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thanks. this thread was started a while back when things were really really hectic. things have since calmed down and my friends life has calmed down as well. i am back at my own house now, have been for months. and Master and i are doing ALOT better than before when this thread was posted. i got a ton of good advice and support from this board and thank everyone. i just saw this thread last night and for some reason felt the need to bump it, thought maybe the advice in it may help someone else
myinnerslut
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im glad things are doing better for you and MP
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thanks. this thread was started a while back when things were really really hectic. things have since calmed down and my friends life has calmed down as well. i am back at my own house now, have been for months. and Master and i are doing ALOT better than before when this thread was posted. i got a ton of good advice and support from this board and thank everyone. i just saw this thread last night and for some reason felt the need to bump it, thought maybe the advice in it may help someone else
HA! Well ya got me, lol
I need to start checking dates on things... I am not usually on a regular computer when I check Lit (PDA) so I don't always notice, If a bold thread pops up I assume its new sometimes...
I feel Silly... hehe
Glad to hear all is well...
(I am just a empathetic person, by nature... Very genuinely...)
See you around the forum!
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Rose..In case you see this...
i hope you have a very Merry Christmas...
MP...
You DID IT. It's OVER!!!! And...i hope...no one met their death along the way.
Have a great holiday!
i hope you have a very Merry Christmas...
MP...
You DID IT. It's OVER!!!! And...i hope...no one met their death along the way.
Have a great holiday!
lil_slave_rose
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thank you, and merry christmas to you as well. we headed off to my neices house tonight to do our gift exchange. as far as Master "making it" He's still at work right now lol complaining that people should stop shopping, go home, wrap presents and drink some eggnog so he can get out of there LOL
lil_slave_rose
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LOL it's ok, i do the same thing all the time, post on threads that are old. i've posted on one before that was started in like 2003 LOL so no worries, just wanted to give everyone an update is all
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If this is your Master, his needs should be put before anyone else's, including your own or your friends. That is how I understand a true M/s relationship to be.
You have spoiled him with constant attention, now you must pay the consequences of that. Nothing short of what you had before, will be good enough for him now.
You have spoiled him with constant attention, now you must pay the consequences of that. Nothing short of what you had before, will be good enough for him now.
lil_slave_rose
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i believe that's a bit 'unrealistic' especially considering the fact that we are in an LDR. the problem wasn't so much that i was putting anyone's 'needs' first it was i didn't know how to balance my time on the phone with Him and my time with my life here. things do happen, life gets in the way. my kids come before anyone including my Master, Period and they were suffering also because of my time spent on the phone and on the internet with Master. i had to re-evaluate things, re prioritize and move on, which we've done and everything is going smoothly now except our work schedules but that's another story all together.
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You know, I can't tell if you're being serious or sarcastic.
For one thing, the idea of a "true" M/s relationship is just a fantasy. Nobody has a TWOO relationship. There IS no such thing as a TWOO relationship. It just doesn't work that way, and you will find many different kinds of M/s relationships right here on Lit.
And also..."spoiled him with constant attention" - what? Just because somebody fawns over you for a while, they're supposed to do it forever? I've never even heard of such a thing. Pay the consequences? So she shouldn't have been giving him so much attention, and it was a BAD thing? And he's so selfish that "nothing short of what they had before" will be good enough?
The more I read your post, the more I think you simply must be joking.
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MasterPhoenix
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It was a close call...
A few people were likely to meet an untimely end... The next person to bitcfh because we didn't have any Nintendo Wii's on Christmas Eve...
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Ada,
She knows what I require... and since many circumstances have changed since we first got into this relationship.. I understand that things evolved.
As far as being her top priority... well, I would not accept being more important than her children. PERIOD. If she were to put me above them, I would lose my respect for her as a mother, and thus as a person I can have a relationship with as well. My step mom came between my dad and I many years ago, and we have only recently reconciled from that. NO WAY IN HELL would I want to do that to her kids.
Yeah, it is damn frustrating that our work schedules are in almost perfect opposition to each other, and have been for quite some time. I go in not long before she gets off... and then its not always easy to catch one another during a 15 minute break or 45 minute lunch... and she is usually asleep when I get home. Thats just how it is.
The key is making the most of the time we do get... and utilizing our unlimited text messaging.. so that we leave messages for one another when the other can't get to the phone.
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I swear, if I was loaded with millions, I would not only hand you your ticket to move, I would throw the biggest Lit getogether party for everyone to come wish you two well in your future together in the same geographical position!! Move, damn it!! You will wonder why you didn't do it sooner once you take that step towards living your dream instead of putting it off for all the reasons under the sun.
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