Allanon_the_Druid
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Some thoughts
This may sound a little heartless, but it is with noble intent.
Don't get wrapped up in the melodrama of this thing. That is where people start thinking stupid instead of thinking things through. It is where comments about killing yourself come from and it is where for some people that becomes reality.
SHake it off and look at the reality of it, then decide if you can handle that. This sounds like a situation that became a lot more soap opera after it was initiated. Look, no matter how devoted we are to our mate, we are always tempted at some point in time. It is gauranteed. And sometimes we resist and sometimes we use bad judgement and follow the temptation.
So she got turned on and decided to let this guy fuck her. It is not anymore complex than that, so don't let it be. Once she was caught she whips out "I wanted you to catch me" thing, which is a beautiful combination of admitting she is guilty while also saying "It's kinda your fault to though." And you are expected to chew on that for a while. Fine, whatever makes her feel better.
The question is this. Does she really love you and was this just a case of too much blood rushing to her crotch and she thought with her labido for a minute. Does she really regret it and not want to lose what you have? If so, then it is all up to you. If you can live with the fact that she did something everyone does and made a snap judgement with her crotch, then forgive her and move on.
If you really believe that bending over for this guy was a premeditated attempt to manipulate you in some way, you are better off for knowing now and not later.
I think she made a mistake and like many of the stories at this site she simply followed an erotic story line too far. Forgive her. And make the point very clear that you are now holding a big, shiny GET OUT OF JAIL FREE card!
mr_burns01 said:You could be right
What do you think I should do ? Shes being so nice and shes all cuddly and affectionate, so far ive kinda given her the frost bitten shoulder, but I can see she really feels bad, she was balling her eyes out the other night over the phone , and wen i went to talk to her, as soon as she saw me she started crying. And shes go nothing to gain from staying with me, so I dont think its an act ?
What u think ?
hows sunny californIA?
This may sound a little heartless, but it is with noble intent.
Don't get wrapped up in the melodrama of this thing. That is where people start thinking stupid instead of thinking things through. It is where comments about killing yourself come from and it is where for some people that becomes reality.
SHake it off and look at the reality of it, then decide if you can handle that. This sounds like a situation that became a lot more soap opera after it was initiated. Look, no matter how devoted we are to our mate, we are always tempted at some point in time. It is gauranteed. And sometimes we resist and sometimes we use bad judgement and follow the temptation.
So she got turned on and decided to let this guy fuck her. It is not anymore complex than that, so don't let it be. Once she was caught she whips out "I wanted you to catch me" thing, which is a beautiful combination of admitting she is guilty while also saying "It's kinda your fault to though." And you are expected to chew on that for a while. Fine, whatever makes her feel better.
The question is this. Does she really love you and was this just a case of too much blood rushing to her crotch and she thought with her labido for a minute. Does she really regret it and not want to lose what you have? If so, then it is all up to you. If you can live with the fact that she did something everyone does and made a snap judgement with her crotch, then forgive her and move on.
If you really believe that bending over for this guy was a premeditated attempt to manipulate you in some way, you are better off for knowing now and not later.
I think she made a mistake and like many of the stories at this site she simply followed an erotic story line too far. Forgive her. And make the point very clear that you are now holding a big, shiny GET OUT OF JAIL FREE card!